Post # 32
Asking for simple and classic but also eliminating names with common nicknames and certain number of syllables and vowel sounds will virtually eliminate all classic common names. You are asking for one thing but describing something else.
Maybe think of names that you can tolerate and then let them marinate for a while. I think even if the name doesn’t jump out as “I love it” right away, it may grow on you. Also, I wouldn’t be concerned about defending your name or explaining it. I have never asked a person why they choose a name. If they volunteered the name information I listened, if not I was not concerned. Names I didn’t care for from friends and family eventually grew on me. Would I name my child that, not necessarily, but I don’t judge my friend for it and I like the child the same no matter the name choice. It is a personal decision. You have to live with it.
Try not to worry too much.
Come up with that short list of maybes.
See if they grow on you.
Good luck. 🙂
Post # 33
Reading your background and rules, “Dylan” popped into my head.
Post # 34
Rumplestiltskin? LOL…..Don’t worry you will find something. I struggled with my son too but ended up using a Scottish name. Keep searching..The ideal name is out there and you will go “Thats it” when you find it xox
Post # 35
Wow, I LOVE ‘Archer’!! Can be ‘cute’ for when they’re young – but also ‘strong’ for when they’re older. NICE! I think I have to add this to my list of future childrens names 🙂
Post # 36
whatever you name your kid will be special because it’s your kid’s name. does that make sense?
you said you liked Ryan, but it has no connection to anyone you care about. Do you plan on caring about your son? from the minute that kid is born, his name will have a special meaning to you because you’ll associate it with him.
Post # 37
- Wedding: December 2010 - Savannah, GA
Picking a name is hard–especially when you haven’t seen his little face. A lot of couples pick out names before their baby is born, and then when they see it, they choose a completely different name, because they don’t think the name they chose fits.
My brother and sister-in-law had chosen the name Zachary, and when Nicholas was born…well, you see what happened. He wasn’t named Zachary, but his name suits him perfectly.
I don’t think you have to worry. Even if you don’t choose a name before he’s born, you’ll know what to name him when you finally meet him.
Post # 38
I have no advise to offer… boys names are hard We din’t know what we’re having but we have a girl’s name picked out. One thing that I think about is having more than one name picked out for my child in case they realy don’t look like the name you picked out. For example you love the name Charles. You’re so excited to finally settle on a name. But when your son is born he looks more like an Oliver or Xavier…. I don’t know… good luck finding a name for your little one.
Post # 39
Honestly, I think you are putting way too many restrictions and thought into this. Yes, you should love your child’s name, but in the end, any name will be special and it will be his.
Just my opinion though….
Post # 40
@marjojo: I just has to say that I had sooooo many rules for naming our daughters, and I’m glad that I’m not the only one who makes rules like these! I HATED every name that was suggested to me, and it was so hard to reply civilly – I actually felt like some of the suggestions were insulting – I definitely feel your pain.
DD2 didn’t have a name for a week and we ended up naming her after a mermaid in one of DD1’s books. The name broke two of my rules (too many syllables, pronounciaction could be interpreted 2 ways) but in the end it’s a beautiful name and it suits her. I hope you can find something you like, but in the end don’t exclude a name because it doesn’t follow all of your rules – if it suits the baby, go for it.
Post # 41
Honestly, I never ask why people chose names. I actually feel like it might be judgey to say something like, “Oh, [name] is interesting. Why did you choose that?” I feel like this is the reason lots of people don’t share names early because they get unsolicited comments.
As for choosing something, I would go back to the few names you like and meet your rules. See if there are versions in another language (e.g. Sean, John, Juan, etc). That might open up more options.
Post # 42
I can’t imagine you hating your DH’s name. What about naming your son after him?
I’m having a boy. And, I have a unique situation where DH’s family tradition is to name the first born son after the paternal grandfather. While I love DH’s name, I don’t like his dad’s name. The name has been growing on me. The tradition is super duper important to my husband, so I want to love the name and I know that in time I will.
You’ll figure something out! Don’t stress about it, or let your DH name the boy and learn to love the name in time. Maybe he’ll chose his dad’s name. If he really wants that, support it. How would you feel if he told you that he hated the names that you picked out for your future girl (your mom and dad’s name). You’re making this more of a big deal than it really is. Trust me, the pregnancy horomones don’t help! On that note… good luck!
Post # 43
I’m lost on why you liking a name is not a good enough reason to choose it…liking the name is the whole point! I’m having a baby boy in May and will be naming him Landon Jeffery (which I’m sure you hate, but that’s besides the point). Jeffery is a family name, but why Landon? Because we both like it! I’m also an English major, and I am sure you will be horrified to know that I have never looked up the meaning of the name, and that is because it’s really not that important – when you meet someone and are introduced to them, are you going to go look up their name and judge them based on the meaning of it? No. And not a single person has asked me why we chose that name, I believe most people simply assume that common sense would say you chose the name because you like it.
At some point your DH is going to get kind of offended about your attitude over this, so I’d probably just drop it for a bit. The fact that you see nothing emotional or good behind using your DH’s middle name or his father’s name would really bother me if I was him! If I had a dead parent and my DH told me he liked using family names but not that one since they never got to meet my parent before they passed away, so there was no real meaning to it, I would be PISSED.
Let this go and come back to it when you have a clearer head. Right now you’re waiting for some magical name that frankly I don’t think exists, until you’re able to adjust your perspective I don’t think you will find a name, because you’re really not giving any of them a fair chance!
Post # 44
I don’t have any boy names that I love like I do for girl names but when and if the time comes where I have to pick out a boy name it will be based on only how it sounds. I have never asked (or cared) about the meaning of a name. And I also grew up not being able to shorten my name and all my friends had nicknames and I always was mad I couldn’t. Bottom line, you can stress out and go to all this trouble trying to come up with the perfect name that follows all your rules and your kid will probably still find things they don’t like about it. I think the best thing you could do is just choose something that wouldn’t embarrass them someday. Good luck and I’m curious to what you decide so let us know:)
Post # 46
I’m not quite as picky as you are when it comes to boys names but I understand the difficulty in finding any that I’m 100% happy with. Hopefully by the time your baby comes you’ll have found one that you love and that suits your little one. Good luck!