Post # 1
Anyone else feel this way? I had my bridal shower today and I realize I absolutely HATE all of the attention. I was so awkward and weird. How did I deal with this? I drank lethal amounts of alcohol and opened lots of cards! 🙂
But seriously…. did anyone else feel like this? I don’t like being the center of attention.
Post # 3
@KaitlinHudson: I don’t really mind the attention aspect of it so much, but I’m starting to hate answering all these questions like 9 billion times — “Ooh.. am I invited?” “What are your colors?” “Where are you getting married?” “Where are you honeymooning?” “Where are you registered” “how many people are coming?” “What’s your dress like?” etc, etc.
I just want to huddle everyone I know in one room and say, “ALRIGHT.. this is my dress, these are our colors, here is our venue, no you’re not invited (lol),” etc. That way everyone would know and stop asking me variations of these questions every other day.
Slight vent, sorry 🙂
Post # 4
Nahhh, I totally understand. I’m a very “in your face” type of chick, always hard-edged, not very emotional (run a business), have to be overly strong, etc. So, when we had the engagement party and both families met for the first time … when my Fiance and I walked in, everyone started swarming us, and all of a sudden, I bursted out in tears.
It was all the attention. I give trainings for a staff of 20 people and I have a problem walking into a room with 20 ppl that happen to be my family and future family. lol So, what I do is take deep, deep breathes as I walk into all these functions.
It’s the only thing I know how to do and it has helped quite a bit. When it comes to the bridesmaids, I do everything through email so I don’t get flustered with questions from them. “If you have quesitons and want to know whats going on, email me” lol
Good luck with that. The good news is that when its finally over … you’ll feel relieved (and happy) because you’re finally married to your love.
Post # 5
I guess I’m still in the overly giddy stages of being engaged (got engaged in June) but I am LOVING all the attention. Though I must admit, I am kind of an attention whore!
I’m sure I’ll start to get sick of it in the next few months but the way I see it, it will only ever be all about me (well and FI) once so I may as well enjoy it while it lasts.
@KaitlinHudson: I’ve been meaning to tell you that you look ridiculously similar to a girl that I know and her name is Kaitlin too (good name, I’m Caitlyn!). Every time I see your profile pic, I do a double take.
Post # 6
I agree with the other bees about the copious amounts of questions. I can’t wait to get our website up so that I can just tell people ‘oh, you should check out our site, it’s got all sorts of info!’ and avoid the repetitive (and sometimes awkward) questions. And I agree with OP, it is awkward to get all that attention, especially from folks you don’t know (even if they’re soon-to-be relatives). Just breathe, smile, and breathe some more.
Post # 7
I have been getting more attention from non-family members. Mostly from people who saw my pic in the paper. I’m pretty fine with it. I’m not even having a shower until March, so I’m not even sure what that attention will be like. Other than that I’m not getting much attention. But I can see that it can be hard, especially with everyone wanting to know all about your plans.
Post # 8
- Wedding: May 2011 - Glendale Lyceum
@KaitlinHudson: Yep-100% awkward, all the time. It’s so weird too because I’m an outgoing person…I just don’t like the fuss! I’m flattered that people are willing to do such kind things for me in light of my wedding, but I can’t help but say, “Oh you don’t have to! I don’t need a bridal shower/bachelorette party/ whatever!” I couldn’t even handle all the attention of being newly engaged. I wrote a post about it and was so worried people would think I was a freak- but people knew exactly how I felt!
That’s why I love the ‘bee….always someone there to say, “Me too!” 🙂
Post # 9
Me too, I feel the same way! But minus the alcohol. I am just dealing with it sober lol. You are not alone.
Post # 10
I felt like that too – I thought I was weird but of course like Prairie Dog said, the bee made me feel like I was normal! I was SO awkward at my bridal shower!! My bachelorette was a lot of fun though because it just felt like the most fun and care free girls night of my life! Now being a newlywed comes with a whole new set of questions and attention!
Post # 11
I’m sorry you feel that way! I enjoy the feeling of being a bride (most of the time). However, I must admit that the, “How is the wedding planning going?” question does get old. I also get uncomfortable showing off my ring all the time! lol
Post # 12
@UpstateCait: I definitely sent you a message because you look awfully familiar as well!
And to the rest of you…maybe we’re just weird! :p
Post # 13
I hate attention, makes me feel so terribly uncomfortable.
If I were ever “swarmed” by family/friends in this sort of situation I’d be likly to shout “HEY! look over there!” and disappear.
I specifically avoid talking wedding for this reason.
Post # 14
@missmouse29: I avoid wedding as well. But then people think we’re having “relationship issues.” I’m just not an overly emotional person!
Post # 15
I’ve always hated attention, I even feel awkward around my own family during sit down meals! Will I say the right things? Will I “get” all the jokes and current events? Will I look o.k? When it comes to being a bride I welcome the questions and attention because this is a once in a lifetime thing. I feel like it’s ok to feel awkward and a little un-easy…that’s ok, but I still want the attention just this once! We’re also having a short engagement, 8 months, so that may be part of why I’m eating it up.
Post # 16
@cosmocity: haha I’m the same way. Maybe not at my family meals but at his families… definitely!