I hate destination bachelorettes parties!!!

posted 6 months ago in Parties
Post # 31
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I skipped my sisters destination bachelorette party, it was 6 hours away and I was 32 weeks pregnant so that wasn’t happening. I don’t think she was happy I didn’t go but at least she never said anything to me. I just told the other BM’s I didn’t feel comfortable going that far away that pregnant. 

I also just skipped a bachelorette party that was about an hour away. The bridal party started planning it 2 weeks before and I had a 3 month old at home. That wasn’t enough time for me to make sure I had enough milk to feed my daughter and have enough money to go (just going for the day activities would have still cost me about $200 which isn’t easy to do with 2 weeks notice on maternity leave and a month before Christmas. 

Post # 32
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Daisy_Mae :  Totally agree.  To this day I don’t think my best friend  knows how irritating I found her opening my wallet to pay $850 for her bachelorette dinner, followed by conveniently phoning me and asking me to “pick up” $140 of champagne on my way to the shower that her aunt was hosting.  Because I never told her she would probably tell you how much fun I had.

Nope, not a thousand bucks of fun. 

Post # 33
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2314 posts
Buzzing bee

While I can understand that they aren’t for everyone, I do enjoy them, just like I enjoy DWs.   

I probably feel this way because my friends are spread out all over the country, so basically every event is a destination for us and I’d rather go somewhere fun!

Post # 34
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

I think I handeled it well for my sisters bachelorette well. I scheduled a brunch and mani/pedi appt in town for those who couldn’t or didn’t want to travel for the out of town so everybody got to participate. Then for those who wanted, we carpooled to a place 5 hours away right after brunch. 

what I liked: nobody felt left out if they couldn’t travel. No flights for anybody. We chipped in for gas but still got out for 10 dollars a person. We still got to go away for the weekend to somewhere a little more exciting than our home town.

Post # 35
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Busy bee

It’s such a shame that so many people here seem to dislike them. They are very common in my circle, and I have been fortunate to attend many and had every woman I asked attend mine. I view them as a way to meet new people, see a new place or see an old place differently (than I have on a couples trip or when younger with my family), and have some girl time, which I always enjoy.

I can understand disliking them if it causes issues with childcare or worries while pregnant, or if money is tight so someone is having to choose between a trip they get to plan and a trip planned for them that’s all about the bride to be. But I don’t get blanketly hating them. They’ve always been really worth it to me, especially when later at the wedding I know a lot more people than I would have before the bachelorette, and, I feel traveling with people brings you closer, even with old friends.

I will say I was surprised how nearly every woman said to me when we returned how great and chill the trip was, and how they were glad there wasn’t any drama, as they’ve been to other bachelorettes that were full of strife.

Post # 36
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Location

Yep, they’re a huge imposition on others’ time off work and money. 

I’ve only been to one because I was a bridesmaid and felt obligated.

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