(Closed) I hate diets and exercise… and could really lose 40 lbs. HELP!

posted 6 years ago in Fitness
Post # 3
2320 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I find that my biggest hang up is on the word diet. It works sometimes because it keeps me motivated in the short term but long term it doesn’t seem appealing. The biggest thing that I’ve learned (from watching The Biggest Loser, lol) is that it’s literally a lifestyle change. You’ve got to do a 180 from what you are doing now.

I know that sounds so daunting. But take it one step at a time, it sounds like you are incredibly busy so maybe for a short term fix I would look into a meal plan like NutriSystem or something similar to that. It will take the guess work out of eating and they do have desserts and stuff on the plan. It’s not cheap but it might be a good place for you to start.

Long term, since you do love to cook, I would look into local cooking classes that focus on healthy cooking. 

EDIT: I would take it one step at time too, so maybe focus on eating right and then tackle exercise.  I think the amount of weight you would lose just by changing your diet would be surprising… maybe it would even make working out easier too!

Post # 4
1829 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I will preface this by saying that I have never dieted but these are just some things I do when I’m feeling unhealthy and they have helped me get back in shape, sometimes dropping a few pounds unintentionally along the way.   

With your work schedule, it does sound like any major changes are doomed to failure so I think starting small is a good idea.

To start:

1.  Cut out all sugary drinks – no sodas or energy drinks.  Coffee is fine (lattes and cappuccinos included) as is tea and water.  Dilute juice so you have 50% juice 50% water and you will cut calories.  Changing your drinks shouldn’t be too hard.

2.  Buy selective about what you buy in ‘low fat’.  Low fat chips, snack bars or whatever contain additives that don’t keep you full for long, thereby making you feel hungry a lot sooner; they also usually contain almost as many calories and a lot more sodium.  Obviously there are some things that just aren’t good, full fat or low fat, but if you have a craving for something, go for the full fat version in small portions as it will satisfy your craving and keep you full for longer.  The more you deny yourself something, the more you are likely to indulge in it when you finally get it.  

3.  Walk everywhere you can.  I know we Americans like to drive everywhere but walking really does make a huge difference.  I moved to London several years ago and had to walk everywhere (to the tube, to the bus, to the shops, etc) and without intending to, I dropped almost 10 lbs in a matter of a month.   Actually walking somewhere is a lot different than aiming for 10,000 steps in your house, although if you really can’t do the former, the latter is better than nothing.   I just found that I didn’t even think about walking places as exercise as it was just what was to be done and those habits have continued with me now even though I am living in a car friendly society again.  

4.  On the weekends when you have a bit more time, make meals that are easily freezeable and can serve as dinner during the week.  DH and I like to make lasagnas, soups, stews, and curries (butter chicken – mmm!) amongst other things and throw them in the freezer.  If we ever have a night where we don’t feel like cooking, we take something out of the fridge, throw it in the microwave and voila dinner is served.  

5.  Don’t deny yourself the things you want but moderate your portion control, as mentioned above.  Snack size treats are the best – fun size candy bars, snack size cookie packs etc.  If you want a taste of something, by all means go for it, but make sure it’s a taste and not half a tub of ice cream or something else.  I find having individual serving sizes works best for me as I like to snack whilst watching tv and lose track of what I’m consuming.   


As for home workouts – I love Jillian Michaels 30 Day Shred but I understand your concerns with your knees.  From what I recall (I’m pregnant now so I haven’t done it in several months), there are some lunges etc but it should be able to be modified to take into account your knee issues.   Another thing to try – yoga.  I’m loving my yoga now and have heard of lots of people having great success with it.  You’d also get the additional benefits of feeling relaxed amidst all the stress you have going on right now.    

And finally, my final suggestion – increase the water intake!  I’m not sure how much you’re drinking now but I find the more water I drink, the less hungry I am.  I usually have between 3 and 4 litres of water per day and it not only makes me feel good, it eliminates any bloating, keeps me regular, and makes my skin look great.

I think the fact that you were very in shape before bodes well for you.  You know what you’re capable of and you know you can get there again.  Good luck!

ETA:  Holy long post!  Sorry for the novel and hope I wasn’t out of line with my suggestions.  

Post # 5
1370 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

OK, I can tell you right now that your problem is a growing EPIDEMIC in the United States. I understand that painful knees makes it hard to work out, and the lack of exercise makes you gain weight. The weight gain causes more knee pain. It’s an all too common and vicious cycle. That being said, you need to take some responsibility for your own actions. You’re looking for an easy answer to a problem that has developed over years and years. I’m going to be bluntly honest with you because you need to hear it and I doubt you’ll hear it from any of your friends.

You need to stop making excuses and start taking action. You need to be willing to sacrifice. I don’t really care if you hate diets, hate exercise, and love to eat gobs of cake batter. It’s not a matter of whether you like it or not. If it’s important to you, you’ll do it. If you care about your longevity and your health, you’ll do it. Otherwise, you’re just another fat person making excuses. Sorry. Ride an exercise bike, learn some proper exercise techniques, and learn proper nutrition. Proper nutrition doesn’t mean cutting calories and going on crash diets and limiting your caloric intake. It means looking at food as FUEL for your workouts. Fat is adipose. Muscle is living tissue that consumes energy. Build some muscle, your resting metabolic rate will rise, and the fat will come off. Avoid open kinetic chain exercises because they load your patellofemoral joint (where the knee cap glides on the femur) and cause patellofemoral pain. Focus on swimming, cycling, and other low-impact activities. Cut out the un-needed or empty calories. Don’t be afraid to treat yourself but STOP MAKING EXCUSES.

You said it yourself. “I’ve given up”. You’ve given up and that’s why you can’t lose weight. Weight loss is a very simple formula: Calories consumed are less than calories expended. That’s it. Eat whatever you want, but realize that everything you eat has a caloric value attached to it and thus requires more exercise. Eating raw cake batter has ZERO nutritional value. Have discipline. There is no easy answer. If there was, you wouldn’t  be asking for advice. Scroll up and read your own post. The way you cook and eat is your explanation. Your stories about basketball and all that are excuses! Go to ANY orthopedic surgeon, get some weightbearing x-rays of your knees, and they will ALL tell you the exact same thing: Low impact exercise, strengthen your hips, core, and quads, lose weight, and take some anti-inflammatories. Print out this post and bring it in with you. They’ll agree 100%.

If you want to lose weight, it starts with having some self respect, not giving up on yourself. You need discipline, accountability, and pride in your HEALTH. You can’t try to look for an easy way out. That’s lazy and that’s exactly what has put you in this position in the first place. Ditch your scales and start looking in the mirror instead.

Post # 6
305 posts
Helper bee

stay on the perimeter of the grocery stores, meaning out of the aisles where all the msg/high fructose corn syrup snackies lay. in other words,  stay in the meat, produce and dairy section. 

read your labels if you do shop in the “middle” of the grocery store:

if it comes in a box or a bag, don’t eat it.

if it is white, (exception:cauliflower) don’t eat it.  

if it is something that your grandparents didn’t eat. don’t eat it.

keep raw veggies ready in the fridge for when you want something crunchy.

fruit never killed anyone (as far as i know)

walk to get fresh air and not to exercise (in your mind you will be getting fresh air, but your body will say yay! exercise)

drink water. keep hydrated.



Post # 8
1747 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Honestly if you have the money, I would do Jenny Craig. It sounds like you probably don’t have the time to count everything, nor do you want to (no shame, I didn’t either) and probably don’t portion your food either. Jenny is simple because its all planned out, the food is pretty darn delicious, and you feel like you are cheating come dessert course. I am thoroughly pleased. My Fiance and I have each lost over 20 pounds in three months. We don’t feel deprived.

Weight Watchers also seems great but I became too obsessed with points and counting. It didn’t work for me at all. It works for other people but you have to be very strigent and commited to counting every morsel (which I hate doing).

Post # 10
1747 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@chasesgirl: I totally know what you mean. I really enjoyed cooking and I gained about fifteen pounds in a year after moving in with Fiance because all the calories just added up. Even when I cooked for two and made no leftovers, it was still way more calories than I should have been consuming.

My very good friend also loves cooking and since moving out on her own, even eating moderately healthy meals, she too has piled on the weight. I know there are tons of bees that love to cook and keep it under control, but if you are used to cooking one way, its hard to stop cooking that way. After one week of being as healthy as you can put up with, there will come a moment when you get too busy and end up indulging in a little more of this or that.

Cooking is a slippery slope if you love beautiful (but indulgent) flavors, so I’ve decided to take a break from it and get my portions under control. Eventually on Jenny, you go back to cooking, but with great care. 

I would say Jenny costs me about $110 dollars a week on average. That’s seven breakfasts, lunches, dinners and snacks (desserts). I would then add about $40 for veggies and fruits (I usually go with apples because they are cheaper, frozen veggies, and heads of lettuce). It’s definitely not cheap but my Fiance and I were spending about the same amount of money eating out and buying regular groceries.

In the end, you should keep it cost effective but it’s a great way to get your habits back in order. For me, I can’t quit my bad habits unless I do it cold turkey, and Weight Watchers allows for too much wiggle room and too many options for me.


Post # 11
305 posts
Helper bee

@chasesgirl:  i hear ya on the food cost thing.  what works for me (if you have a fridge at work, and even if you on’t) is to have/s the following handy at work

salt/pepper/hot sauce for:

eggs for  boiling (eat 2 in the a.m. for breakfast)


cans of tuna/sardines/salmon

jar of peanut butter

loaf of whole wheat bread

jar of pickles for fun

bag of carrots


nuts to snack on

all of the above can be used for breakfast and lunch. all at your office for less than 2 bux a day.

Post # 12
305 posts
Helper bee

i forgot low fat milk and cereal.

Post # 13
236 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I think you’d be better off changing your habits rather than relying on Jenny Craig or NutriSystem. It’s not that those plans don’t work, but to really keep the weight off, it needs to be a lifestyle change. Unless you plan on buying that stuff forever, I don’t see how it can help in the long run. 

Craigslist often has exercise bikes for good prices. That might be a good option for your knees. Pick up some free weights, and then you’re good to go. Just remember that diet is responsible for the majority of your results. You can exercise all you want, but your body is made in the kitchen. 

Post # 14
3400 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@chasesgirl:  I would just like to remind you to disregard what that meanie up there said about you being lazy or fat or whatever other deragotory words she used.

The truth is that gaining weight inadvertantly is SO much more simple than losing it in a way that doesn’t feel like torcher.

I’m thinking I am a lot like you in that I have a veracious appitite and very little time. I have never done a system for weightloss (such a Jenny Craig) but I definitely think it would be the way for you (and quite frankly ME) to go. I think the problem with people like us is that we don’t have the time or mental resources to count every last thing we put in our mouths, and if we somehow make time for it we end up just quitting because it feels like we are being deprived and spending too much time being miserable.

If I had the money I would totally do Jenny or nutrisystem but frankly I don’t. I would suggest if you DO tho to go ahead and try one of these programs where they do the work for you. Also, I excersize almost exclusively with an elliptical and 10-30lb hand weights. It is very mild on the joints this way.


Post # 15
39 posts
  • Wedding: June 2012


Reading your post being a nurse i 100% agree with misskoala. Our country makes excuses for being lazy. and diet and exercise are the only way you will lose weight. Go for walks. Start small and add to it each day. Eating cake batter for no reason is unnecessary. Have self control. As for your injury I am sure there are other options then a knee replacement. You are 21, you mean to tell me you have gained that much weight in the few years it has been since you were in HS when you played these sports? Also I see you are in nursing school, once you become a nurse you will need to use this self control not to eat all night long when you are on night shift, day shift is even worse with all the horrible food patients bring in to reward your services. You should want to eat right and exercise to decrease the life threatening conditions you are headed towards from being overweight and eating the way you do. Obesity is a major issue in the united states and it is mostly caused from being lazy. As a nursing student you should know that weight bearing exercises are good for the DJD you are describing in your knees. How are you going to be able to encourage your patients to be healthy eat right and exercise if you don’t even do these things. To me it’s a lame excuse about your knees and that you don’t have time. Take the 20 mins you spend making cake batter and eating it to go for a walk and if your knees are that bad find a local pool and start swimming, low impact awesome for your body. I feel as though you are making excuses. Weight watchers would be great for you. JOIN IT.

Post # 16
1747 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@amanda06:  Just for the record, you don’t buy that stuff forever. You go into “maintanence” and exist on regular food. You can even eat regular meals on the first part of the program (just like on Weight Watchers). You just count the different elements of the meal, like fats, carbs/startches and protein.  

It’s pretty simple to transition, it just requires care and not going back to eating crazy sized and starch dense portions like before.

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