- 5 years ago
- Wedding: December 2013
I can’t talk to her about wedding things because I feel like it just annoys her.
I’ll start to get into things, and she’ll give me one word answers or very generic answers. Example, I’ll say “I’m so stressed out!” and explain what’s going on, and her response will be “Blah!”. (We talk online mostly).
I’ve seen her once in the past 6 months. We had planned to meet up a few weeks ago, but she bailed on me and I found out she was hanging out at a bar with some new friends of hers on the night we were supposed to hang out.
I mean honestly… this girl is not the person she used to be. She’s very self-serving these days. I guess she has been for a long time now. It’s hard for me to keep a good relationship with her because I am tired of being treated like I don’t matter, and when I pull away, she says “Are you mad at me?” and then when I tell her why I’ve backed off, she says “Sorry, I need to make more of an effort”.
But then it’s just back to square one, no effort is ever made!
I just hate feeling this way about someone who is my Maid/Matron of Honor. (I was her Maid/Matron of Honor also) I talk to my other bridesmaids about wedding stuff way more than her. It’s frustrating because I’m the sort of person who really does want to confront it, but at the same time I’m also thinking it’s best to coast through until after the wedding when I’ll probably just stop talking to her all together.
And of course she will wonder why. I wouldn’t be the first person to stop talking to her after their wedding. And it’s really nothing worth even fighting with her about, it’s just the person she has become. Aloof, indifferent, and selfish as hell.
Just sucks, that’s all!
Did that ever happen to any of you? Your “best friend” one day becomes everyone’s Boyfriend or Best Friend but yours? And the funny part is that deep down she’s really loyal to no one but herself. And all of her new friends haven’t been friends with her long enough to realize it.
The day that I was supposed to go wedding dress shopping, a few hours before my appointment she told me she couldn’t come. Said she felt like death since the day before (st. Patty’s day). I’m pretty sure she just had a hangover or preferred to stay comfortably at home, rather than come out in misty, rainy weather to see me try on some dresses.
And the funny thing is, the past few weekends she’s been going out with her other friends (I see the pics on FB) and has kept telling me she still doesn’t feel 100%.
Felt good enough to hang out with them though, but not good enough to go help her “bf” pick out a wedding gown.
Oh well! I feel better for venting anyway 😉
Maybe we expect too much from our MOH’s?