Post # 1
HATE HATE HATE!
The first time I was supposed to meet my partner on a project she showed up 30 minutes late! She told me that her boss just gets to talking and won’t stop. Um, unless its work related (which it wasn’t) TELL her you simply have another meeting.
The second time, we were supposed to meet after class. Well her group got done early so instead of waiting she just LEFT. I called her 15 minutes after our meeting time. She said she decided to go home for her sorority meeting instead because she didn’t want to wait.She wasn’t even going to call me…
I emailed her…she didn’t respond for a week. When we spoke in class she kept trying to cover her tracks like (oh i didn’t have your phone number to call you…um yes you do have my contact info and I called her so my number should be in her call history!)
Now she sends me an email today saying that she can’t do our first part of the project because she is going home (its in two weeks). Her dad passed away (which I didn’t know) and decided to go home then.
As sad and difficult her father’s death must be it had nothing to do with why she blew me off. She kept making excuse after excuse and I feel like she told me this to make me feel bad for atleast expecting her to be able to call and say I’m going to be late or can’t make it…I get that its hard for her to carry on with things, but if you can go to your sorority meeting and meet up with friends all the time…I think she could atleast try to contact me about things.
Then she basically said she picked this project because she thought it would be an individual one and doesn’t want to work together. OKAY WITH ME. So now I have to talk to our project coordinator and wait for her to decide which of the days she will cover and which I will. BLAH!
Now I feel bad, but rationally I DON’T think I have any reason to feel bad. I didn’t have any unreasonable expectations. Sorry this is more of a vent than anything….
Post # 3
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Group projects are always SUCH a pain in the ass. I always end up doing all the work. I’m sorry you’re having such a hard time with her. Don’t feel bad for venting.
Post # 4
I’m with you both! I also always end up doing ALL the work… the good thing about being a business major was that in our group projects we were allowed to “fire” people as we would eventually do in the real world.
I fired 2 guys from 2 different classes. I always got partnered with the total slackers & liars. Its okay to vent, I’d do the same. With my past groupwork experience, I HATE to say this, but there’s always someone with a family crisis or problem. Just makes me wonder… (I know, I’m horrible).
Post # 5
Oh thanks ladies! I’m glad I’m not the only one that losses their mind on these things.
Recessionista: I KNOW! There is always someone that has a family crisis in my group stuff too. I think she is telling the truth, but I think it makes it worse to try to say the reason she did those things was her dad’s passing when it wasn’t! I so wish I could fire her…I’m jealous
Post # 6
UGGGGH i really hate group work. i had a group project that lastest MY ENTIRE LAST YEAR of university. i hated everyone in my group by the end of it!!!!
Post # 7
Ottawa: This is a semester long project. We have to give four storytime/activity events for elementary children and the dates (not of our choosing) are spaced across the semester.
OH and I came up with a whole bunch of ideas for stories and activities (they had to be cultural or historical and involve our state somehow) and told her about them. So if we do the project seperately I basically did a whole bunch of work for no reason and she will probably take a couple of my ideas.
Post # 8
I feel like the over-achievers (me) always get paired up with the slackers, which is so unfair! I mean, think about how fantabulous of a project we could do if two over-achievers got paired up together! Look Out Obama, lol!
Post # 9
UGH, I hate group projects, ESPECIALLY in graduate school. At least in undergrad, most people lived on campus and you can meet in the library and such. In graduate school, I leave work, go to school, go home. I’m literally “on campus” for six hours a week and I don’t want to hang out there any longer than I have to, or [gasp] come in on the weekends. It’s like 30-40 minutes from my apartment, everyone in my group always lives in five different boroughs….ughhhh. /end rant.