I hate his best friend!!

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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458 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Ya- this guy needs out of your life! But maybe you should be worried if Fiance misbehaved in the past…even if his “friend” is being a jerk in the way he is telling you.

Post # 4
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645 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Oh dear. I wish could help. Just hang in there. I understand how you feel I truely dislike my Fiance ” best friend” but not because of how he treats me but how he treats my Fiance. They have been on and off fighting for you about a year. I finally decided to stay out of it. You guy’s friend sounds a lot like my fi friend.  For me it was just easier to “try” ( main word try) to ingore it. though it is still happening. It ‘s to the point when I know said friend is coming to our house; I leave for the amount of time that he is there.

Post # 5
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401 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

that guy is a jerk his friend that is! I would honestly have a problem if my fiance allowed his friends to disrespect me.  the 3 of u need to have a sit down together and be mature let it all out on the table tell the friend u dont appreciate how he talks to u, then ur Fiance should also tell him he does not appreciate it!

Post # 6
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Newbee

I’m sorry but this guy sounds like a f**king a$$hole! It seems that he has some motive behind his being so malicious. Who says that kind of stuff to someone? Is he secretly in love with your FI? Or with you? I don’t know but his actions and what he says are just so out there. He has some kind of vendetta and I don’t blame you whatsoever for not wanting him involved in your wedding.

If I were in your shoes, I wouldn’t forgive him nor would I allow him to be the Bridesmaid or Best Man. I’d just be concerned that he’d say/do something a$$hole-ish on your wedding day and cause you to end up in tears again. This guy is toxic!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

You’re about to be his wife.  This “friend” has said horrible things to you and caused nothing but strife and pain in your relationship.  He needs to pick you over the friend, and he needs to do it now.  If he can’t make you a priority here, that’s a HUGE red flag.  This guy has gone WAY over the line.  If I were you, I would tell your Fiance that this guy cannot be in your wedding and he’s not invited.  If your Fiance wants to be friends with him, that’s his prerogative, but the friend is not allowed in your presence, ever.  The friend’s behavior is ridiculous, and the fact that your Fiance has let it slide over and over and over is shocking.  Stand up for yourself and make your Fiance stand up for you.

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I totally agree. My hubby had a super craptastic now ex-friend. he actually had the nerve to sign my hubby up for a “geek 2 geek dating site”, no lie, that was the name of it. within a month of us getting married.  That was it for me and I told hubby to stick his friend to the curb, I was not going to tolerate that behavior.

Post # 10
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82 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Honestly if you Fiance knows how much this guy is hurting you, I really don’t think he will resent you. My hubby says that getting rid of his friend was oneof the most relieving things he had done. That he just “put up” with this guy for the sake of other friends. Talk to you Fiance about what he expects to happen after the wedding and if he really wants this guy to put so much doubt in your head about your relationship. You should never have to live with the hurtful doubts that a lying friend puts you in. you will not know when he’s telling the truth or when he’s lying.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

I would not have this person at my wedding.

And I would seriously question the judgment of someone who claimed him as a best friend.

If my Fiance was best friends with someone I thought was a bad person – it would so hard on me because I would wonder why if his judgment is so bad he’d choosen me?

I would try to understand what my Fiance likes about him so I can emphasize and understand but … having the guy in the wedding party!?  That’s crazy.

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Holy christ this guy is a douche! Do not feel guilty for not including this jerk in your wedding. You don’t want that toxic personality next to you or your Fiance on your special day. I’m also confused as to why your Fiance would want someone who constantly disrespects you. I’m so sorry you’re having such troubles. Dealing with inconceivably idiotic douchebags is especially rough when planning a wedding.

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

The fact that your Fiance is okay with everything that his friend has done thus far is a bit concerning to me.  If something like this was to EVER GOD FORBIT happen, my Fiance would not only drop this friend in a heart beat.. he would probably beat him senseless for saying all this BS. 

Since your Fiance is acting like it’s all good with everything, it kind of makes me question who’s telling the truth here..but hey, that’s just me.   I think you should take a step back and analyze the whole situation before doing anything else.

 

Good luck!

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

His friend is a cheater, his wife is oblivious, he tells you that your fiance is a cheater, you cry and are devastated.  And yet your fiance still calls this guy his best friend?

He makes you cry over telling you about all the girls your fiance is supposedly chasing when you are not around, your Fiance calls him to argue, but they both end the conversation laughing?

I’m sorry, but this would raise a huge red flag for me.  I don’t want to cause more trouble than you already have.  But are you really sure that when the two of them are out without you, the friend is chasing tail while your Fiance is sipping on a ginger ale and telling the girls how he proposed to you?  I’m thinking birds of a feather…

Even if your fiance is faithful, this guy knows how to push your buttons and your fiance lets him!  You are going to be his wife, for crying out loud, not some flavor of the week!  Shame on him!

Post # 15
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Worker bee

Holy **** this guy is such a *****, and I thought I had SO’s Boyfriend or Best Friend problems 🙁

Here’s my two cents:

Carry a voice recorder/tape recorder around with you. Record whatever snarky things he ever says to you.

He can’t argue with solid evidence.

Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I agree with hwatermelon!  Also,  I am not so sure why your Fiance wants to continue a relationship with this friend when he is clearly trying to break you guys up!

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