(Closed) I hate my dress — not sure what to do (2 months to go!)

posted 8 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Do what makes you happy!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think it looks very nice.  We all second guess our choices, me included.  Plus my dress has this crease that pretty much drives me crazy but I just got to beleive that it is just me that is really bothered by it and im sure I would find something wrong about any dress.  The worse thing we can do is to keep looking and to ponder.  It is the same thing with our partners.  There are millions of men out there but once we find one we gotta stop looking and stop thinking about what else is out there 😛

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I like the dress and I think it fits you great and looks good on you, the only thing is that the top/bodice is too high.  I know that you have already shelled out $400 in alterations, but is there any way the seamstress could lower/cut the bodice?

$1400 is alot to spend on a dress where the beading looks cheap…

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think that the 2nd pic with the lower bodice looks incredible and looks great on you.  I think you probably weren’t 100% in love with your dress when you ordered it. 

If I were in you situation, I think $1800 is alot to spend and I personally would suck it up.  I’m sure nobody would ever know that this wasn’t your first choice (except us) and you might feel different when you try it on with the veil, have your hair/makeup done, etc. 

If you can afford another dress and you really aren’t in love with you current dress, than go ahead and get your 2nd choice.  Just make sure it is what you really want!

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

And By The Way, I don’t think there is anything wrong with the slightly scalloped neckline.  You may just be over analyzing it.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I think you look very pretty in your dress. I mean no offense to anyone by saying this, but I do want to mention that this is a dress for one day of your life. Think of all the things you could buy with the money you’d spend on a second dress–things you could use many days of your life. Also, think of the many days of your life you’ll spend paying off what you’ll spend on that dress for that one day.

I think there is a lot of wedding hoopla around making things perfect, when really, people will remember that you looked beautiful and happy, not what the beading looked like.

I would encourage you to save your money.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I think the dress is stunning!!! I can’t tell you what to do. I would stick with it, if it were me. As far as the fabric – sometimes when we get something new it’s initially a little stiff and then relaxes a bit after wearing it. Is it possible that the difference in th fabric is just because the sample had been put on and off numerous times? Other than that, I would ask the bridal shop or manufacturer about the difference in the fabric.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Everyone is different but I would not buy another dress. I think many of us have dress regret and in 10 years it won’t even cross your mind. Plus the dress looks great on you and in the photos!

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I hated the first dress I bought for months…So I went and bought two more in a panic mode not thinking straight. Well guess what, I ended up wearing my original dress for the pics and ceremony. Even that day I still had doubts about it thinking I don’t look good in it until I passed a large mirror in the hallway. Suddenly, with the veil, hair and makeup, it was like “wow! I actually like how I look!” And now looking at my pics I love it more than ever.

We can say you look fantastic in the dress all we want (and you do) but it’s all in your head, you gotta love it. Just know that we’re a lot more critical in these planning phases and when it all comes together, nobody including yourself will probably notice those details that are bothering you now. Everyone will just remember what a beautiful bride you were.

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think everything came out beautiful on your dress from the fit to the look…. but  I love the organza and sparkle too — so maybe I am biased. haha

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I love the dress after the alteration to the top, looks great! Same thing I’m doing to my dress when it comes in! My dress includes organza and sparkley beading too! Try not to worry about it – you’re going to look gorgeous anyway =)

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I love your dress!  I think it looks gorgeous on you.  However, it’s also important that you feel good and happy on your wedding day, so you should do what you feel is best for you.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

The dress looks great. The difference in the material may just be because the sample had been tried on so many times. It’s important to be happy, but is it worth tapping into your savings for? Only you can make that decision.

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