Post # 1
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Newbee
Hey everyone! After reading lots of “I hate my wedding dress posts,” I thought I’d weigh in on my own issues.
Last fall, after trying on something like 60 dresses, I purchase the Pronovias “Maribou” (A line/semi-ballgown strapless). Well, my mom actually shelled out the $1400 (plus $400 for alterations).
Then, this past winter, I started feeling pangs of regret that I should have bought my second choice dress, a La Sposa slender-cut number. I looked at pics of me and the dress I bought — and even called Pronovias to ask for an exchange — and they convinced me I’d fall back in love with it at my fitting (just like those girls in “Say Yes to the Dress Episodes.”).
Well, Yesterday was my fitting and I cannot express how INCREDIBLY SAD and anticlimactic the experience was! It is not the dress I fell in love with! The fabric is so stiff, and the beading looks so cheap. Was I duped at the fitting? As the woman there poked and prodded me and the dress with pins I just wanted to cry. She tried making some alterations to the top part, but none will fix the style completely.
I’m not sure what to do. There is the financial issue (I’d have to tap into my savings or use a credit card for a new issue), and then there is the emotional issue (my mom bought the dress with her hard-earned money and wants to make me happy. I don’t want to hurt her).
What should I do? There still is time to get a rush order I think … and I’m in Connecticut (near NYC) so I could go to a boutique like RK Bridal).
Or, I could suck it up because the dresss DOES look good on me. Maybe there is no such thing as the perfect dress?
Maybe I can put a small rhinestone broach atop the bustline part of the dress (on top of the part I hate?). I would love to hear some thoughts.
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Post # 4
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Busy bee
I think it looks very nice. We all second guess our choices, me included. Plus my dress has this crease that pretty much drives me crazy but I just got to beleive that it is just me that is really bothered by it and im sure I would find something wrong about any dress. The worse thing we can do is to keep looking and to ponder. It is the same thing with our partners. There are millions of men out there but once we find one we gotta stop looking and stop thinking about what else is out there 😛
Post # 5
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Busy bee
I like the dress and I think it fits you great and looks good on you, the only thing is that the top/bodice is too high. I know that you have already shelled out $400 in alterations, but is there any way the seamstress could lower/cut the bodice?
$1400 is alot to spend on a dress where the beading looks cheap…
Post # 6
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Newbee
Yeah — I had the top part pulled down (see second photo), but I still notice the little triangle in the middle of it (it has the beading).
I wish there was just a straight bodice I could swap in!!
I’m also bothered because I swear to god the dress was whiter, less-stiff and more magical the first time — is it possible they used cheaper stuff to make my dress (than they did for the sample)?
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Post # 7
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Busy bee
I think that the 2nd pic with the lower bodice looks incredible and looks great on you. I think you probably weren’t 100% in love with your dress when you ordered it.
If I were in you situation, I think $1800 is alot to spend and I personally would suck it up. I’m sure nobody would ever know that this wasn’t your first choice (except us) and you might feel different when you try it on with the veil, have your hair/makeup done, etc.
If you can afford another dress and you really aren’t in love with you current dress, than go ahead and get your 2nd choice. Just make sure it is what you really want!
Post # 8
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Busy bee
And By The Way, I don’t think there is anything wrong with the slightly scalloped neckline. You may just be over analyzing it.
Post # 9
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Busy bee
I think you look very pretty in your dress. I mean no offense to anyone by saying this, but I do want to mention that this is a dress for one day of your life. Think of all the things you could buy with the money you’d spend on a second dress–things you could use many days of your life. Also, think of the many days of your life you’ll spend paying off what you’ll spend on that dress for that one day.
I think there is a lot of wedding hoopla around making things perfect, when really, people will remember that you looked beautiful and happy, not what the beading looked like.
I would encourage you to save your money.
Post # 10
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Busy bee
I think the dress is stunning!!! I can’t tell you what to do. I would stick with it, if it were me. As far as the fabric – sometimes when we get something new it’s initially a little stiff and then relaxes a bit after wearing it. Is it possible that the difference in th fabric is just because the sample had been put on and off numerous times? Other than that, I would ask the bridal shop or manufacturer about the difference in the fabric.
Post # 11
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Busy bee
Everyone is different but I would not buy another dress. I think many of us have dress regret and in 10 years it won’t even cross your mind. Plus the dress looks great on you and in the photos!
Post # 12
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Sugar bee
I hated the first dress I bought for months…So I went and bought two more in a panic mode not thinking straight. Well guess what, I ended up wearing my original dress for the pics and ceremony. Even that day I still had doubts about it thinking I don’t look good in it until I passed a large mirror in the hallway. Suddenly, with the veil, hair and makeup, it was like “wow! I actually like how I look!” And now looking at my pics I love it more than ever.
We can say you look fantastic in the dress all we want (and you do) but it’s all in your head, you gotta love it. Just know that we’re a lot more critical in these planning phases and when it all comes together, nobody including yourself will probably notice those details that are bothering you now. Everyone will just remember what a beautiful bride you were.
Post # 13
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Blushing bee
I think everything came out beautiful on your dress from the fit to the look…. but I love the organza and sparkle too — so maybe I am biased. haha
Post # 14
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Worker bee
I love the dress after the alteration to the top, looks great! Same thing I’m doing to my dress when it comes in! My dress includes organza and sparkley beading too! Try not to worry about it – you’re going to look gorgeous anyway =)
Post # 15
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Blushing bee
I love your dress! I think it looks gorgeous on you. However, it’s also important that you feel good and happy on your wedding day, so you should do what you feel is best for you.
Post # 16
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Busy bee
The dress looks great. The difference in the material may just be because the sample had been tried on so many times. It’s important to be happy, but is it worth tapping into your savings for? Only you can make that decision.