Post # 1
I hate my in-laws when they get in this horrible fights. Otherwise, I really like them. I even look forward to spending quality time with them. We are all hanging out, happy as can be when all of the sudden my SIL storms out of the house and takes the baby with her (who is the joy of the family) because my other SIL said she shouldn’t wear that skirt at a family gathering. This is just something that happened during Christmas eve, but pretty much what happens 90% of the time we have a family gathering. Then, I have to pick my favorite SIL and side with her, or else I’m such a bitch for not doing that. Either way, I’m screwed because if I side with one the other ones hate me for a while. It’s just stupid drama, I don’t understand why they can’t just get a long. I have 4 sisters who I love to death and we never engage in this kind of drama. We bicker from time to time, but never this dramatic. AAGGGHHHHHH!! Please somebody save me from yet another family gathering!!!
Sorry just venting!! Happy thoughts are appreciated
Post # 3
Never pick sides, always best to remain sympathetic yet neutral in these types of scenarios. My in laws are terribly volatile and I find every holiday to be exhausting! You never know who is going to blow! I always carry a flask, and always find ways to step out for some air and a little nip, keep smiling and remember to be grateful that you weren’t raised in such turmoil. Probably one if the things your Fiance loves about you!
Post # 4
@Nona99: This. Good advice.
My great-grandmother always used to say “Never pick sides when ILs argue. They’ll eventually make up, and you don’t want them remembering that you picked someone’s side.”
Post # 5
Why take anybody’s side? I wouldn’t even get involved.
Post # 6
@amoret11: Yes I don’t know why you need to pick sides. If I feel pitted in the middle of other people’s issues, I usually give very non-commital expressions like “I hear ya” or “Yeah, that’s a shame.” Going forward if they ever ask for direct involvement I’d say “Sorry, not getting involved.” And change topics, walk away, etc.
Post # 7
I have two sisters and when they go at it I just tell them both that they BOTH need to talk and make up, or that the fight isn’t that important and they need to forgive eachother. By telling them that they are both wrong, you never really pick sides.