(Closed) Not sure if im cut out for this

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Worker bee

You can still be married and spend time with your friends! Call your friends, make plans with them for dinner or drinks. I am sure they miss you too. Things won’t be the same as before, but that’s not necessarily a bad thing.

Bring your Darling Husband along or leave him at home if he doesn’t want to come. It’s not healthy for you to be isolated and resentful of Darling Husband.

Have you talked with your Darling Husband about how lonely you’re feeling?

Post # 4
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278 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m confused—what about getting married also means you can’t go on vacation or hang out with your friends?

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

This sounds terrible! Talk to your husband about you having some girl time. I’m sure he’ll understand. You can’t be up eachother’s butts all the time– it just doesn’t work. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

An hour is nothing! Do you have a car?

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper

@Glow girl:  I am sorry you are feeling this way. Major change (such as getting married)can often bring on depression- I would suggest going to a doctor and getting checked out.

Also just because you are married doesn’t mean you can’t go on holidays with friends- my hubby and I often take seperate holidays with friends because we have different interets (I would rather walk around a museum and he would rather climb K2).

If you feel like you are in a different place yo your old friends maybe make some new friends- go out on some couples dates with people from work and you might make some new girlfriends.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

if you’re engaged then you should work on these problems before you make a permanent commitment to this life. 

have you tried to make new friends in your town? why don’t you just visit your family? or drive to see your friends on your own time? 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

@Glow girl:  you tell him you’re unfulfilled right now? you tell him the truth– that you’re unhappy. 

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper

@bookworm88:  this and that you like to have girl time so that you can talk about how great he is (may as well stroke his ego since he seems a little hesitant about you going out) and make your friend jealous.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

@j_jaye:  I disagree with stroking his ego.  It sounds like the OP and her Fiance need to have a frank and honest conversation without playing around or sugarcoating.  I would hate to be trapped in a relationship in which I was unhappy and I don’t think joking or hiding the truth will do any long-term benefit.

Post # 16
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Bumble Beekeeper

@bookworm88:  Yeah especially given her other post on the emotional board.

 

@Glow girl:  You need to talk to your Fiance and/or seek counselling.

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