(Closed) I hate my MIL and do not want her around my son!

posted 7 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Cut her out of your life completely.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Talk about toxic. I also say “cut her out.” And make it clear that until she learns to treat you and your family with respect, her presence is not desired. And make it clear to others that because his mother is spreading rumors and lies about you, you and Darling Husband have decided she cannot be part of your lives and that you’d appreciate if they do not share details about events with her because you’r afraid she will show up out of spite to ruin the event.

And then follow through on your decision. If she calls and starts ranting, hang up and refuse to be pulled into the drama.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

WOW! Thankfully my Mother-In-Law has enough sense to act right because my hubby has had enough (at least to our faces). To ease your fears, I would have your hubby tell them that they are not invited to any of your upcoming events. 

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Yeah, I agree, be done with her. Don’t go there for Christmas, and just wash your hands of it

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Just be done with her. You need to treat her like a child throwing a tantrum…don’t give in to her antics. She will eventually stop.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

oooooooooooooh my goddddddddddddddddddddddd….I am so sorry you have to put up with her! She sounds like frikn sugar and gum drops…NOT!

You are pregnant which means you and hubby are in the HAPPINEST time of your lives and you don’t need stress or worries….I would cut her out and let her know not to come….but also: i’d do it in a way that doesnt stress you out…meaning don’t yell about it or get yourself all worked up, but let her know calmly and strictly that you.are.done.

I think you and hubby should enjoy this time to the MAX and not let anyone take this tme away from you because you will never have this pregnancy back…..and you don’t want to look back on this time and think of all the things that went wrong…you want positive memories:)

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

wash your hands of that toxic, dysfunctional relationship. that lady is out of her mind crazy and does not deserve to be in your life, your husband’s life, or her grandchild’s life.

Don’t feel guilt. Your obligation is to your husband and your son. Same with your husband….you and your son are his immediate family now, not her.

She needs a serious wake up call.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I absolutely LOVE my future mother in law, and I’m sorry that you don’t have a good relationship with yours…and I’m all for cutting her out, but honestly…you should REALLY think it through…She’s your husbands mother, and thats never going to change…

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

I’d be done with her. She has had her whole life and her son’s whole life to realize that she treats people poorly and just going back to her encourages her to behave like that. It is a terrible thing to stop associating with family, but I never saw the point in continuining to stick around for someone (even family) if they won’t change themselves when there is a major issue like this. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

It sounds like we have the same Mother-In-Law, I actually told Fiance that she is not welcome at the baby shower, or, at this rate, the wedding. We spent the money that should have gone to my wedding dress on her TWO storage lockers because she refused to downsize, and then, one day, when Fiance handed her $270 for them, she had the nerve to pocket the money then complain we never take her out for dinner!!! THAT WAS HALF HIS PAYCHECK!

I do not want her around our child, poisoning her mind, and teaching her that behaving like a brat is the way to get things.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Yes, cut her out of your life, especially if your husband agrees.

it is not rude to send her away from the shower, she was not invited. it is also not rude to send her away if she shows up at your house- do not answer the door, you don’t have to!

Sorry you have to deal wth this.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Screw her…..cut her out!!  And if you are worried she will show up at your son’s birth…you let the delivery nurses you don’t want her anywhere near …they will take it from there!!  Those ladies don’t mess around!

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Hmmm I feel bad for your son not having a relationship with his gma bc your hubby and his mom will make up and youll end up looking like the bad guy. I wouldnt BAN her from seeing the baby but def keep my distance, LONG distance lol

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@ForeverAndEverAfter:

AGREE plus all this throwing her out of this place and that space spells TROUBLE

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