(Closed) I hate my photographer.

posted 6 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 3
6247 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

@Bostongrl25:  Oh no!  Did you Future Father-In-Law look at the pictures?  Isn’t he concerned as the second shooter is going to be a reflection of his work, right?

Post # 4
3 posts
  • Wedding: June 2012

Girl you find the money and hire somebody or your wedding day will be ruinedd

Post # 5
291 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

You could always ask a significant other of a bridal party member to be a “photographer” for the day.  I asked the wife of a groomsman to be a photog that day for me, bossing people around and taking all the pictures she pleases – as a just in case.  I also asked another wife to video our ceremony.  It can’t hurt to ask them for help.  They’ll be around for the whole day and mine offered to help me in any way – so I took them up on it. 

Could you find a young photography student to be a “second shooter” that day? Someone that is just starting off and could try to catch things the regular photographer might not? 


Post # 7
3081 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

O wow what a tough situation. It’s the risk we run with accepting gifts like this, but it sounded like yours should have worked out perfectly. How does Fiance feel about it? As it’s his dad, the harsh truth might come easier from Fiance than from you – but it sounds like you really need to have Future Father-In-Law either get this guy in shape or provide another second shooter. Your wedding photography is not something you want to mess with. 

I’m really sorry this is happening to you. 

Post # 9
4192 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

You’re not paying, but Future Father-In-Law must be-the second shooter’s not going to work for free. Also- it’s going to reflect poorly on Future Father-In-Law, if someone he works with/recommends doesn’t do a good job. Fiance should call his Dad- “we’re very concerned about the quality we’re going to get…” versus relying on emails, if this is his busy time.

My photographer normally does 10-hour days, which I didn’t have the budget for- so he agreed to do 7 hours. So maybe instead of $3K, you can find someone for $1500 or $2K. They don’t have to shoot the whole day- mine won’t be at hair/makeup, and isn’t staying for the entire reception.

Post # 10
6247 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

@Bostongrl25:  Oops that makes sense.  Busy season, gah!  Does your Fiance ever see his Dad during busy season?  Like rebwana said, have your Fiance get on this!


Post # 11
739 posts
Busy bee

You really run the risk of tarnishing your relationship with your Future Father-In-Law. Not in the beginning but after the wedding when you don’t like your photos and you resent him for not giving you the images you want. Ask anyone who is married that had the gut feeling they weren’t going to love their photos that is the #1 regret. 

If I were in your position this is what I would do:

First be open and honest with Future Father-In-Law I would even go do this in person. He’s busy, I understand that I’m a wedding photog too but essentially you are a client and a future family member and he needs to make time to hear your concerns. 

Tell him you just are not comfortable with said photographer shooting the wedding. You do not like his style and feel like this will end up putting a strain between you, Fiance and Future In-Laws. I’m not going to lie, it will be uncomfortable and he may be a little upset but it’s better to take care of it now then after the fact when you have no chances of fixing it. If he is truly a pro then he will understand the gravity of importance of these images to you. 

Second, before you approach him have a list of photographers in the area who are available and willing to work with your budget. {See comments on budget below} See if he would be willing to put the money he was going to pay his assistant towards one of these photographers. 

You say you don’t have any budget to hire someone but here are some options that might help.

  • As much as I cringe people going in to debt over weddings this may be considered and emergency. Can you put it on a credit card and then use money you receive as gifts to pay it off? 
  • Only hire the pro you want from getting your dress on to cutting the cake. I don’t know your time time but if you can get all the formalities out of the way at the beginning of the reception they can leave and you know they are covered. 
  • Don’t get any product, including disk of images until after the wedding and just save up for them or use gift money to pay.
  • See if any of the photographers are willing to set up a registry for you. Encourage guests to put gifts towards that instead of new dishes etc. 
  • Do you or Fiance have any skills you can use to barter? I’ve bartered with a handful of clients to reduce their cost. Hairdresser, handyman, graphic design, even someone to come in and clean our home. Never underestimate the power of bartering. 
  • Since it’s so last min some photogs may be willing to give you a discount just to fill in an empty weekend. 
  • Cut any extras, special flowers, favors, extra appetizers, limit open bar to only cocktail hour, etc. See if there are any corners you can cut. A great photog can make a $5K wedding look like a million bucks but a crappy photog can make a $100k look like poo. 

I see that you are in the Boston area, I’m pretty much booked up for the year but I can see who is available in my vast network of photog friends. Send me a PM with your date, time, location and what you think you can come up with for a budget. 

Sorry this is so long, I hope it helps. One thing I HATE HATE HATE is hearing people having bad experiences with their photography. 

Post # 12
621 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Take Pizzuti’s advice and her offer to help you find someone. This is probably the most important and long lasting decision you’ll make about your wedding, and if you hate your photographer you will hate your photos and hate the experience of working with him the day of, worrying constantly about whether he’s getting what you want.

Post # 13
6586 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@PizzutiStudios:  +1

Honestly, I would not let someone shoot my wedding if I was unhappy with the quality.

Post # 14
1314 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2006

Pretty awesome of @PizzutiStudios:  to list out all of those options for you!  When is your date?  We’re in Boston once this year!

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