Post # 1
I love my fiancée and normally love the stuff he gets me but he got my ring off groupon and it’s a band not an engagement ring! I hate it so much I don’t wear it and tell him it because of my job. I’ve mentioned that I want to find one that matched our wedding band or point out rings i like at stores and try to be nice about not like it with flat out saying I don’t like it but he took offense to it what do I do?
Post # 2
Maybe he doesnt know the difference between a wedding band & an engagement ring, you could try telling him that usually the band comes second & is supposed to compliment the ring. Maybe in a few years you can get a ring with it, but if you tell him you hate it & thats why you dont wear it, its going to really hurt his feelings if he has already taken offense to that suggestion. Maybe you could get a cheapy walmart ring to match it for now & just say that it compliments it well, but step carefully. you dont want your engagement to bring issues into the relationship.
Post # 3
You need to sit down with him and have an open honest adult conversation, which will not be easy. Could you possibly use the ring that he gave you as your wedding band and get a different engagement ring? Then you can still wear it when you are married and it can still be symbolic.
Post # 4
Ugh that sucks 🙁 Try talking to him again… if he cares how you feel he should try to understand.
How is the rest of your relationship? Are things good otherwise? Are you excited to marry him?
It sounds like your more upset that you think he ‘cheaped out’… which is understandable.
Post # 5
Is it possible that he cant afford it?
Post # 6
My DH didn’t know that engagement rings and wedding bands were different things. He was jokingly pissed that I get 2 and he only gets one. Maybe he didn’t realize that he bought you a wedding or anniversary band.
Maybe when you go shopping for wedding rings you can get your engagement-style ring then. Lots of people have rings that aren’t what most people think of when they say engagement ring. Do you actually hate the ring or do you just wish it was more of a traditional engagement ring style?
Post # 7
otherwise everything is great and I can’t wait. I’ve offered to wear it just on the other hand. And my excuse works since I work in a wear house but it’s literally a wedding band and our wedding band are matching so I’d be wearing 2 bands. The price doesn’t matter I’d take a ring he didn’t spend any money on but since it’s a Groupon ring it can’t be exchanged or returned.
Post # 8
very but I’d take an 8 dollars costume ring off the kiddie rack in walmart. It’s not the price is the wearing a wedding band that bugs me more then anything
Post # 9
Well, you certainly are entitled, it’s your ring! However, hurt feelings are an entirely different beast. “Honey would it be okay if I used this as my matching band and found a different ering to go with it?”. I don’t know how else to gingerly put it. But I wish you luck!
Post # 10
I would say “look Fiance, I really love and appreciate the ring you got me, but that time between getting engaged and getting married is the only time women get to wear JUST the engagement ring, and it symbolizes to other women that you just got engaged (so they can congratulate you and ask about wedding plans), while just a band symbolizes that you’re already married. Would it be okay to look at [berricle, overstock, any place with cheap CZ rings] for a ring to wear so I can enjoy that part of just being engaged, and wear the ring you got me on a different finger? It’s just a lady thing, it’s dumb, I just want that part of it for awhile.” And then you can pick one out that you like, and then maybe ask for a diamond version (if that’s what you want) as like a 5 or 10 year anniversary present
Idk just spitballing here 😛
Post # 11
I had a friend who had a wedding band as her engagement ring- it was lovely and she got the rock at the wedding. Why not suggest that?
Post # 12
I was going to say the same thing! I know it’s the norm in the US and UK to have a diamond/other gemstones ring as an engagement ring but that doesn’t mean you can’t do the reverse. Where I come from (Southeast Asia), your engagement ring can be any kind of ring. I have seen solitaires, clusters and plain bands as engagement rings. you can even forego the ring like me XD However, I do understand the OP’s situation. You just want to love the ring. So if you do not like the idea of doing the reverse, I think you should keep the band as your wedding ring and get a ring with a centre stone as your engagement ring 🙂 But have you already gotten the matching wedding rings?
Post # 13
Why are you lying to your fiance? You should feel comfortable talking to him about this. If he can’t afford a different ring, or thought you’d like this but was misguided, work out a plan to get something you’d like better.
And, Groupon usually has free returns. Check the fine print again.
Post # 14
- Wedding: October 2014 - Cape May
I would rock the band and get an engagement looking ring to use when it comes time to pick a wedding band. That way you’ll have both traditional styles just the order was reversed. If anyone asks, show off that band and tell em
“We’re changing up the order. This is my engagement band and I’ll get a big old rock for the wedding. “
Or rock two bands inspired by Audrey Hepburn. She wore an eternity band as her ering.