(Closed) I hate my ring! what do you think?

posted 7 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Is the .80ct center stone too small for my hand?

    yes

    no

  • Post # 181
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

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    SoonToBeMrsT16:  I can’t get enough of Kermit!!!! Thank you…

    Post # 182
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2015

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    PinkStripes:  I so agree. OP wants confirmation and validation that other people saying “No way, that ring is GORG!” would give her. Sadly I don’t think she’s getting what she wants from this thread. I do think it’s a great ring, but I LOVE my ring simply because my fiance picked it and asked me to marry him with it. The sentiment to me is worth much more than any ammount of dollar signs or carat size.

    Post # 183
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    OP, I have a 2 carat solitaire. I have worn it for 1.5 years now. Let me tell you, due to my left arm constantly hefty this thing around, I can no longer wear sleeved shirts… my left bicep is too big to be accomodated by a regularly sized shirt.

    Consider yourself #blessedbeyondmeasure.

    Post # 184
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    Newbee

     

    parisianprincess:  Just be happy that someone loves you enough to want to put a ring on your finger.  If you’re doing this for the right reasons, you should be happy with anything he gives you.  The ring is just a representation of the promise he made you.  And that promise is worth more than any ring could ever be.  Get your priorities right. 

    Post # 186
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2002

    What do I think?  I think you will not be married long. 

    You have a lot of growing up and maturing to do before you will be able to handle the difficulties that marriage brings.  The nature of your thread indicates that you put the highest value on the wrong things.  You have no idea how lucky you are that a man wants to marry you, AND give you a gorgeous gift on top of that.  A lot of women would be thrilled to death to wear nothing but a thin plain band if it meant they got to be married to a man that loved them. 

    Post # 187
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I am not reading 13 pages but I just wanted to note that I think the ring is gorgeous, but if i did not like the ring my fiance got for me, I would tell him I wanted something a little different, not telling him I “hate” it but that it wasn’t my taste.  You guys are getting married, you should be able to talk to him about it.

     

    eta nevermind i saw the problem you had was it wasn’t a 2ct ring, lol jesus christ, I hope he takes it back and buys you a huge CZ.  you won’t ever know the difference and can play princess.  A 2 ct ring of high quality (what you want) is just a ton of money, unless you are getting engaged later in life or are extremely financially well off, I think spending roughly 15-45k on a ring is not financially wise and such money should be spent on paying off school loans or buying/renovating your home.  Just my opinion of course. 🙂

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    Post # 188
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    If you were promised a 2 ct ring and didn’t receive one, perhaps you have no idea what your fiance can afford. You mention showing him pictures.. Did you expect him to guess the carat size based on a picture you found online?! That’s ridiculous, you set him up to fail. My ring is just over 2 carats and because my finger is size 8 or so, it looks a lot smaller than it would on someone with a smaller hand.

    If you wanted a 2 ct ring and it was within your budget, you should’ve had an open and honest conversation with your Fiance, telling him you’d be disapointed with anything less, instead of just showing him pictures and hoping he read your mind accurately.

    Since you hate it so much, tell him. They always say that honesty is the best policy.. However, I’m not so sure if that will be the case here.

    Post # 189
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    This thread is nuts. I think that ring is gorgeous.

    Post # 191
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2014 - Mauritius

    You’re probably not even reading posts any more but seriously? ‘He promised me at least 2ct’ how ungrateful. You’re ring is beautiful and I am sure there was a reason that he offended you so much by getting you a smaller rock. If you want a better ring go buy it yourself. 

    Post # 192
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 2019 - Canada

     

    I had picked out a ring at a store, my DH went in, took photos of it and took them to a different store where he could get a better deal, which allowed him to select a slightly larger but MUCH better quality diamond. Its not exactly the same, the diamonds along the shoulders are a “bead” setting which I really dont like. But he doesnt know that, you know why? Because he went to a lot of trouble to get me something I would LOVE, and it would crush him if I told him his efforts were wasted. I picked out a band that has the setting I wanted, and choose to focus on the incredible center stone he picked for me, not the parts about my ring that im not crazy about.

    Marriage is all about loving someone for exactly who they are, making the best of every situation and picking your battles. If you think this battle is worth fighting, go ahead and bring it up, but in my marriage, it’s not worth breaking his heart over. My husbands feelings are way more important to me than having the worlds most perfect ring.

    Post # 193
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    Worker bee

    Seriously? If anyone “hates” their engagement ring they are either with the wrong person, or not mature enough to be getting married. It’s not about the diamond size, it’s about what it represents. Be  thankful for what you get, and the life you are starting.

    Post # 194
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion

    This thread has turned very snarky. I’m going to close it so the mods can review.

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