(Closed) I hate my ring! what do you think?

posted 8 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Is the .80ct center stone too small for my hand?

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  • Post # 61
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

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    Annabellbee:    TheLadyA :  

    My friend just bought a new Kia the other day so it was at the forefront of my mind (she paid 12.5 K for hers last weekend). Sooo.. yeah. Thanks Olivepepper: ! It’s wild what people will jump on you for on the bee!

    My point was that a 2 carat, princess cut diamond (just the diamond mind you, not even counting the setting) can be pretty pricey.

    ETA: No diss intended and no reason to get so defensive, lol.

    FWIW, my last car (before my current focus) was a 1988 Mazda 323 that was only one year younger than me. It had over 200,000 before the speedometer and odometer stopped working, no AC, no power windows/locks, no radio (well sometimes, if you hit it the right way), and I could open the passenger side door with my finger from the outside (when it was locked- there was a hole where you put the key in).

    Post # 62
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    Bumble bee

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    Olivepepper:  You can get three used and/or cheap cars fo’ sho. Lol

    It’s just annoying when people diss kia’s. It’s not 1990 anymore, they have really come up. 

    Post # 63
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

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    parisianprincess:  Size of the stone is more than fine IMO, but I also don’t like the ring itself, the design…I’m just not into that art-deco? style. It’d look great as a solitaire though!

    Post # 64
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    upon the discussion of getting engaged I told my now fiancé that I would like him to pick the ring and surprise me. I didn’t want to know when, where, what kind of ring, nothing! 

    He surprised me this past march with a ring that I probably would’ve never chosen, has a lot of detail and was a bit overwhelming for a girl like me BUT this ring obviously made him think “this is so Rhianna” when he saw it, my ring reminded him of me and I absolutely love the way that makes me feel when I look at it. 

    At the end of the day it’s just a ring and it’s unfortunately consumed women of today and made it a show and tell rather than a gesture promising ones life and future forever. 

    Your fiancé did a really good job! Your ring is very beautiful and a lot of women would die for a rock like that. Be happy 🙂 you’re blessed

    Post # 65
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL

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    parisianprincess:  Just throwing it out there, but if you’re going to marry this guy… you should probably have an idea of what is in his ballpark to spend on a ring. Maybe it’s time to sit down and discuss your finances and the type of lifestyle you will have. Is he a spender or a saver? He blows “$5,000 to $9,000 on a dog” (huge range, btw), maybe that’s why he doesn’t have any money left to spend on a ring? And what is it? $5k or $9k because there’s a relatively large grey area in there, and I would want my partner to be honest with me about his spending habits. By The Way, we have pretty expensive dogs and that’s not what I’m taking an issue with – it’s more the lack of awareness on your part.

    Also, prioritize. An engagement means there will be a marriage, and usually a wedding. Maybe he is thinking of putting money towards your dream wedding/honeymoon/or even a house?

    Post # 66
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    Honey bee

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    parisianprincess: I think you need to ask yourself why you feel like you have to have a bigger stone. If you are trying to keep up with the Joneses or impress your girlfriends, then you are just going to have to suck it up. He probably went with a halo so you’d have more finger coverage. If you really hate the style of the ring, I think you should talk to him about getting something that is more your taste. If you really need a bigger stone, then offer to help pay for it or get something other than a diamond.

    I actually tried on a 2 carat princess cut today, just playing around a Kay jewelers. Unless you have giant man hands, you don’t need a stone that big to compliment your finger, but that is JMO.

    Post # 67
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 1995

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    parisianprincess:  Does you dislike of the ring represent feelings that he “cheaped out” because he spends more on himself and u know he could afford to do more? If so this is a very important issue that needs to be addressed – it will not go away and will plague the relationship if left unresolved.

    Post # 68
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    Bumble bee

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    HeartsandSparkles: 

    No one was jumping on you Hun. You can get plenty of cars for that cheap, not just a bottom of the line Kia (like your friend), so thanks. You were  making a diss and it was simply commented on…jokingly.

    Post # 69
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    Worker bee

    My ring cost less thab 500. You are being a spoilt brat who I don’t think is ready for marriage( harsh truth I know).  And a dog is worth so much more than a ring!

    Post # 70
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

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    parisianprincess:  It’s a matter of personal choice. Personally, for my taste, I don’t like it. It is a beautiful ring, for someone who likes that style. I understand you should be grateful for what you have and that you even have a ring, but at the same time it’s a part of you that you want to love and be proud of. You wouldn’t buy jewelry, clothes or shoes that weren’t to your likening, then why should your wedding ring be any different. I’m sure people don’t wear everything they are given to as gifts if it’s not their style. 

    Post # 71
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

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    parisianprincess:  I think it comes down to personal taste.  In regards to size, I think it’s fine (I’m not a fan of huge stones), but I don’t particularly care for the design.  Maybe you can talk to him about getting an upgrade later on?

    Post # 72
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

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    SoonToBeMrsT16:  I just laughed so hard at this gif. You just made my evening.

    Post # 73
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    I haven’t read this entire thread yet. Although, greatly looking forward to it as my Fiance is passed out sleeping after a long day at work, and I’m just spending Friday night doing some wedding planning aka procrastinating on the bee.

    But my thoughts are this, when my Fiance proposed, I was just happy he “put a ring on it”. Because, that’s the most important part, right?

    Post # 74
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    Newbee

    I will be in the minority with this comment, but… I don’t like the ring either. A cushion cut or ring with diamonds around it isn’t really my style. However, I don’t dislike it because it’s too small, if that’s your concern.

    Second, I disagree that you should just have to be silent forever. The rest of your life is too long to wear something you don’t love (or even like) every single day. I would say to your fiance that you are thrilled to be engaged, but the ring wasn’t exactly the style (don’t mention the size) you had in mine. Ask if he would go with you to pick out a different ring of the same size.

    Post # 75
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

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    TheLadyA :  Proud owner of a Kia Soul.  😉

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