(Closed) I hate my ring! what do you think?

posted 6 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Is the .80ct center stone too small for my hand?

    yes

    no

  • Post # 106
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    Sugar bee

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    DaniDev143:   I didnt say every single person who owned one was trashy but a lot of people in MY area who own them  are not the classiest of citizens. I also personally know a woman (lives in another area who is an awesome lady but she has them as rescues not 9000 dollar show pits) 

    The dog doesnt dictate the owner in this area it just happens to be the case a lot of the time.

     

    Back on track. I can understand not being thrilled with the ring but hate is a pretty strong word. Maybe since you are getting married to this man the best would be to sit down and have an honest discussion about how you feel.  Afterall this is a major key to a marriage being able to communicate open and honestly ๐Ÿ™‚

     

    Post # 107
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    Newbee

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    HeartsandSparkles:  good talk! I don’t know why you’re discussing something that you think is silly but to each their own. Just pointing out that when references are used they should be used in terms that are factual based. When the OP chooses to get a 2 carat, maybe she should just get 3 cars instead, makes sense to me! 

    Post # 108
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    Sugar bee

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    SoonToBeeMartinez:   hahahaa dont even get me started on people who drive hummers:P

    Post # 109
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    This is a ring you are going to be wearing everyday for the rest of your life (unless an upgrade happens in the future) and you need to love it. I would be honest with your fiancé and tell him kindly how you would love together to get something you love. I did that with my fiancé, my diamond was too yellow and he was upset but he understood once I explained how it is special to me and when other people started commenting on “canary diamond” but it was just a K colored diamond. We went and got a diamond I love and we are back to how we were. The ring is just one part of the engagement and you should be able to move past it with a new ring or not. Just remember you should be able to talk to him about anything at this point. 

    Post # 110
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    Buzzing bee

    We spent about $5000 on my dog (not to buy him, on surgery to fix his broken leg) and my ring cost less than $2000

    If it came down to a choice between my ring and my dog, my dog would win out in every situation. Using what he spent on a dog as evidence to how much he can afford to spend on your ring is so ridiculous to me, because to me the two are not comparable. 

    Post # 111
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    Helper bee

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    Post # 112
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    Bumble bee

     

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    Annabellbee:  I’m with you. 

    Based on the unnecessarily rude “Some people tend to project their insecurities onto other people” comment, clearly some people are just  jerks. I think it’s still safe to infer that the original  comment was meant as a diss lol ๐Ÿ˜‰

    Anywayz…long live the Kia and the Nissan versa lol

     

    Post # 113
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    Newbee

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    TheLadyA :  haha thanks! I just don’t understand how someone can diss the op and something completely unrelated (kia) all to make a point that I’m still at a loss for. Kias are nice, way better than Gm…recalls anyone? thats all unrelated too. ๐Ÿ™‚ im not trying to offend anyone, just pointing out that you can’t buy 3 cars at 14k for 37k!!! maybe in fantasy land? Math! 

    Post # 114
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    Busy bee

    Well if he is upgrading you in the future, let us know when because that’s a bomb-ass ring and I call dibs. Love it’s antique style halo, you don’t see many like that in new production these days. Its a beaut. 

    Post # 115
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    Newbee

    Lol, to each her own but mine’s a quarter karat and I loooove it. But it’s not just about the stone, the shape is massively important. You do sound hung up on diamond size though, which is a shame. I guess it’s all relative, if your guy’s a billionaire I suppose you would hope he’d spend a few $$$ on your e-ring.  If he’s scraping by with three jobs then surely a nice costume ring would be enough?

    Post # 116
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    Busy bee

    Well if you hate it… Send it to me!!!! I’ll give it a good home ๐Ÿ˜€

    I think it looks like a good size. Maybe your Fiance was shocked at diamond prices? I know I was once I found out how much these things cost!!! 

    Also, I’d rather have a cheap ring (candy machine style) and a gorgeous dog or cat in my life ๐Ÿ™‚

    also, remember you can add a blingy wedding band if you want more finger coverage.

    are you worried what other people are thinking or something? What size do your friends etc have? I can kind of get that, as I feel my Fiance might have gone too big for our area and mine is only .92. But look, after people see your jewellery once they tend not to care too much if that’s the issue. 

    If it’s just you… Guess you could bring it up if you really wanted. But you’re going to seem like a brat. 

    Post # 118
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

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    parisianprincess:  so, you wanted a 2ct ring, and got a 0.8 ct centre stone in what looks like a whole lotta diamond halo. What is the total carat weight of the entire ring? maybe you did get the 2 cts of diamond you asked for,

    I wanted a 1 ct ring, but we in no way could afford it. Instead I got (I chose it too) a 3 stone with side stones, with the three stones being 0.2, 0.3, 0.2 ct, and with the side stones totaling to 1 ct. My wedding ring is 11 stones totalling 0.5 ct. 

    Post # 119
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    Bumble bee

    If your partner is a dog lover, I wouldnt use ‘but he spent 5-9k on a dog’ as an argument. They are living things! Diamonds are materialistic. No comparison. 

    I am not an advocat for changing erings, period, and thus would never suggest it to anyone. However, there are a lot of people on these boards who have also disliked their rings, who have vocalized wanting something different and have had a lot of support from other bees. i think your first issue is that you need an attitude change, act a little less entitled, and then perhaps ask for advice on how to approach your Fiance about this as many others have before. 

    Post # 120
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Oh my goodness!! I don’t know which is worse. Is it the spoiled rotten brat who doesn’t appreciate the engagement ring or people getting bent out of shape about a comment regarding Kias?  

    I can maybe understand not liking a ring because of the design but not because of the size.  I don’t know how I would have felt if my husband had proposed with a ring that was yellow gold or with too much going on since I don’t like either; however, he paid attention to what I wore for jewelry and did an amazing job.  I think there are lots of people who would pick a bigger stone but I guess I don’t think that is what should be the important thing.  Sure I would have accepted a bigger stone but I can’t even tell you the size of my diamond unless I go and dig the papers out and if it makes you feel better yours is bigger than mine.  I just don’t care about that and instead love my ring because of what it represents and the absolutely amazing man who gave it to me.  I agree with the previous poster that said give it back and let him find someone who would appreciate it and wouldn’t be focused on the size.

    How can people get so offended and bent out of shape by one little comment about a Kia? It’s just a vehicle!!  Would your feelings not have been hurt if the poster had used some other make or would she possibly been offending you because a family member/friend/relative/neighbor had that particular model?  I guess to me vehicles are just a way to get from point A to point B but then to some they are some sort of status symbol.  Did you ever stop to think that maybe she said Kia because her friend just purchased a new one and she knew how much it cost and it was the first thing that popped into her mind since it was recent?

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