(Closed) I HATE my sister’s boyfriend, do I HAVE to invite him to the wedding?

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
827 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Um no you do not have to, but I would be more worried about your nephew.  Child protective services should be called.  I know that sounds harsh, but he is clearly in a very very dangerous situation.  I’m so sorry that your family is dealing with this, but you need to get your nephew out of that situation.

Post # 4
1645 posts
Bumble bee

The question is not whether they get invites to your wedding. The question is why has your family not staged an intervention?!


He was supposed to be watching the baby, instead the cops found my nephew 5 blocks away from his house NAKED IN THE MIDDLE OF WINTER!

And he’s still allowed around him? And your sister still has custody of her son after leaving him with him? If you can’t save your sister, at least save your nephew.

Post # 5
686 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Don’t invite him and if your sister chooses not to come, that’s her loss, but you don’t need this jerk at your wedding.

Post # 6
1501 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

No you do not have to invite him, but I would have a serious sit down with your sister and help her get out of this situation. You should be concerned for your nephew, especially after what has happened.

Post # 7
8738 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011



I agree 100%. The wedding invite list should be low on the list of priorities involving these two. I’d want someone at the very least checking in on your nephew consistently if not finding him a new place to stay (with your parents?) until your sister gets herself sorted out!

ETA: I agree with other posters, don’t invite him.

Post # 8
7779 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I agree. Don’t invite him…. and call CPS.

Post # 9
72 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Honestly, I wouldn’t even invite her. If my sister’s bf EVER threaten my family members OR even sexually harassed me and my sister didn’t do ANYTHING about it. I would consider her cut from the family. I’m sorry you and your family have to go through that. I would have no tolerance for stupidity, especially putting her own son in that sort of danger.. what would happen if that stupid boyfriend left drugs out and her son did the drugs and O.D…. and then what.. Thats not something you can fix after the fact. I think she needs to rethink what is truly important in her life. WHICH should be her son and family.

Post # 10
5183 posts
Bee Keeper

I agree with the PP about your nephew but I am sure that is a different topic all together and you prob are doing as much as you can relating to that and just brought it up as reasoning to not invite him/them/whatever. No you do not have to invite him. You have to know that it is very likely that neither your sister or nephew would be there as well if you don’t invite him though.

Post # 11
483 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

When I read the title it made me think of maybe a guy you just didn’t like/get along with and not inviting him would cause a problem between you and your sister but after reading your post then I think you shouldn’t invite him, he doesn’t sound like someone you want to have around at your wedding, with your entire family who already have issues with him. 

Your sister should know and understand this, especially after he put her own son in danger. 

I’m sure your family will support you in this decission. 

Post # 12
2154 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Don’t invite her, and call CPS. I know this is exactly what zippylef said, but really there is no other sensible solution IMO.

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