Post # 1
Here’s the problem. My eldest sister is 26, and has a 5 year old Autistic son. Which means she needs all the help she can get considering she’s a single parent. Her boyfriend is only 19-20. He got her into illegal drugs (and I heard her bf was doing drugs in front of my nephew), he almost got her son taken away because he was supposed to be watching the baby, instead the cops found my nephew 5 blocks away from his house NAKED IN THE MIDDLE OF WINTER!. Her bf threatened to kill my other sister, and my father. Has sexually harassed me, he has no job no car, and only got back with my sister because he needed a place to stay and her money to burn. He’s the very defnition of a boyfriend no girl should have! He is TERRIBLE. He also convinced my sister not to talk to us (her family) anymore because no one likes him and therefore refuses to let her bring him to family events. My sister knows no one likes him, because we all voiced our feelings about him. Instead of her trying to understand (she’s one of those desperate, need-to-be-in-a-relationship type girl) we started seeing less and less of her untjil ultimately I started questioning if I should even invite her to the wedding. It’s evident she chose this guy over her family. And she’s made this mistake before. it’s like she doesn’t care about hurting us, she only cares about not being single. My problem is I told her I didn’t want her bf at the wedding. She got angry and said if he can’t come then she’s not going to. But I’ll be damned if he’s there, I literally think toxic sick thoughts of commiting a serious felony everytime I even think of him, so no way am I willing to have him persent on one of the happiest days of my life. SO how do I get out of this?
Post # 3
Um no you do not have to, but I would be more worried about your nephew. Child protective services should be called. I know that sounds harsh, but he is clearly in a very very dangerous situation. I’m so sorry that your family is dealing with this, but you need to get your nephew out of that situation.
Post # 4
The question is not whether they get invites to your wedding. The question is why has your family not staged an intervention?!
He was supposed to be watching the baby, instead the cops found my nephew 5 blocks away from his house NAKED IN THE MIDDLE OF WINTER!
And he’s still allowed around him? And your sister still has custody of her son after leaving him with him? If you can’t save your sister, at least save your nephew.
Post # 5
Don’t invite him and if your sister chooses not to come, that’s her loss, but you don’t need this jerk at your wedding.
Post # 6
No you do not have to invite him, but I would have a serious sit down with your sister and help her get out of this situation. You should be concerned for your nephew, especially after what has happened.
Post # 7
I agree 100%. The wedding invite list should be low on the list of priorities involving these two. I’d want someone at the very least checking in on your nephew consistently if not finding him a new place to stay (with your parents?) until your sister gets herself sorted out!
ETA: I agree with other posters, don’t invite him.
Post # 8
I agree. Don’t invite him…. and call CPS.
Post # 9
Honestly, I wouldn’t even invite her. If my sister’s bf EVER threaten my family members OR even sexually harassed me and my sister didn’t do ANYTHING about it. I would consider her cut from the family. I’m sorry you and your family have to go through that. I would have no tolerance for stupidity, especially putting her own son in that sort of danger.. what would happen if that stupid boyfriend left drugs out and her son did the drugs and O.D…. and then what.. Thats not something you can fix after the fact. I think she needs to rethink what is truly important in her life. WHICH should be her son and family.
Post # 10
I agree with the PP about your nephew but I am sure that is a different topic all together and you prob are doing as much as you can relating to that and just brought it up as reasoning to not invite him/them/whatever. No you do not have to invite him. You have to know that it is very likely that neither your sister or nephew would be there as well if you don’t invite him though.
Post # 11
When I read the title it made me think of maybe a guy you just didn’t like/get along with and not inviting him would cause a problem between you and your sister but after reading your post then I think you shouldn’t invite him, he doesn’t sound like someone you want to have around at your wedding, with your entire family who already have issues with him.
Your sister should know and understand this, especially after he put her own son in danger.
I’m sure your family will support you in this decission.
Post # 12
Don’t invite her, and call CPS. I know this is exactly what zippylef said, but really there is no other sensible solution IMO.