(Closed) I hate my small wedding!! =(

posted 11 years ago in Emotional
Post # 18
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56 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Your venue looks beautiful already. I honestly don’t think it needs much at all!

Post # 19
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@LittleBruin:  Sweetie, don’t worry about it.  I was married 6+ months ago and had a $100,000 + wedding.  Here is my advice.  Unless someone is paying for that kind of thing for you, don’t even think about it, since it doesn’t matter.  Looking back, while I liked my wedding, it didn’t matter.  The only part that was truly special was when we said our vows and our honeymoon, which was much needed after all of the stress leading up to the day. 

No one remembers your decorations, no one remembers the details.  They remember whether or not they had fun and how happy you two looked together on your special day. 

The worst thing you could possibly do is to go into debt for a wedding.  It just simply isn’t worth it.  Also, when you go on Stylemepretty.com and those other wedding blog sites, you see all the pictures of the decorations.  This isn’t realistic.  Sure, brides who spend top dollar want pictures of the decorations, but these are not the pictures that are framed.  The pictures that are framed are of those PEOPLE and MOMENTS (not decorations) who are most special on that day.  The decoration pictures are only used to then show off on blogs and sites like this.

I totally understand how wrapped up you can get when planning about the decorations and details, but in the end they don’t matter.  I wish I had someone who could have told me this and get it through my head before my wedding if only to alleviate some of the stress.

1).  It is YOUR day.  YOUR one day to start your new life with your soon to be husband.  Nothing else matters.

Post # 20
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1713 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@Mrs. Louboutin: Love your advice, I needed to hear that too!! =)

Post # 21
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56 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Mrs. Louboutin: I’m not the OP, but I want to say thank you for posting this. I have no issue with people who can afford weddings on the scale yours was. I do appreciate though that “the rest of us” often compare our weddings to weddings on that scale and feel like ours are somehow inadequate or less than perfect. I appreciate that you would look back and post such an honest reflection of your special day. No doubt that it WAS special and all the added elements made it beautiful. Still, thank you for reminding us all about what matters MOST about that day.

Post # 22
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2011 - The Royal Park Hotel

It can be tough to translate what your venue looks like “normally” to what it will look like for your big day, but I think your venue is classy and beautiful! Especially once you add the seat covers and lanterns, the place will transform. If you’re looking for places to add decor, I love the previous suggestions about up-lighting, and maybe you could add a red or gold sash to the chair covers, too!

I wouldn’t worry too much about not being able to use centerpieces; the presentation of Chinese banquet food is so beautiful, and to be honest the thing I remember most about the weddings I’ve been to is the food and the laughter. Awesome weddings come in all sizes and on all budgets. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 23
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297 posts
Helper bee

@Mrs. Louboutin:

Wow.  This response is fantastic and so genuine (I mean that truly).  ๐Ÿ™‚  I still have regrets about my small wedding years ago and wish I could have a wedding like I see on TV, or even some of my friends had…where money wasn’t an issue, like it was with mine.  Looking back, b/c we didn’t have much money, I feel like so much of my wedding was “tacky”.  So, it’s really nice to hear someone say such kind things who could afford to have a more grander wedding.  You are totally right with everything you said.  It’s not the little details, it’s the pics of people and the memories.  And now that I think about it, when I look at the pictures, I remember the day my hubby and I got married, not that I didn’t have the best centerpieces, etc…  Thanks for that.  ๐Ÿ™‚   Even after all these years, it’s nice to be reminded of this (and greatly needed), since I tend to dwell on the negative sometimes.  ๐Ÿ™ 

Post # 25
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@LittleBruin:  I’m glad I could help.  Sometimes, it is good to just walk away from the computer, the beautiful pictures of decorations in magazines and blogs, and just thinkg about what the day represents.  It’s hard at times, but in the end, it’s all nonsense.  The decorations, the “little touches,” – it’s all nonsense.  Best wishes!

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