(Closed) I hate my to be SIL…vent

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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645 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

wow! i’m sorry. what does your Future In-Laws say about it. I would think that they wouldn’t want there daugther in laws to hate each other. it  would  split the family. i would talk to them and see if they can help end this. because its not like she is just a girlfriend- she is going to be in your and their lives for a very long time. And what happens when you both have kids? Are they not going to play together? I think that would break FIM heart.  Talk to your in laws, see if they can help.

Post # 4
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966 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

My Boyfriend or Best Friend doesn’t much like the sound of my brother (and he’s starting to understand why we aren’t close as far as siblings go.)  But then my brother only got his court-mandated anger management and bipolar medication a few years after he moved out (I like my brother much better now.)  And his future grandmother-in-law is a psychotic OCD b**** that my dad joined the military to get away from.  One of my cousins chose to stay with an abusive man rather than her two-month-old (who had broken bones that had already healed).

Part of his family has disowned him, his mom, and his siblings because his dad lied to them about his mom.  There are other things surrounding his dad that shouldn’t be public knowledge as well.  I really don’t want to have a proper conversation with the man.  Also, my Boyfriend or Best Friend closest childhood friend is a complete loser who only talks to my Boyfriend or Best Friend when he wants money – he just asked if he and his fiancee could move in with us.  No way in hell.

In short, families suck.  Getting into a dysfunctional family situation sucks.  But really, on your wedding day, you are not only celebrating your wedding, but you’re celebrating the joining of your families.  For his sake, for his parents’ sake, for his brother’s sake…  accept that you have to have someone you dislike at your wedding.  And… they can leave out the part asking for any objections.  Wink  I might recommend that.  She might ignore you, she might not come, she might be a b****.  But she’s going to be in your family.  Just remind yourself that he’s worth putting up with her for.  🙂

Edit:  For the record, I did not see my cousins except for special occasions growing up.  My kids will only see their cousins once a year or so.  I grew up military, then joined the military, so I’m used to being not-real-close to my extended family.

Post # 5
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1765 posts
Buzzing bee

@Nola:

I think that anyone who has someone who may try to ruin a wedding should have a “bouncer” on alert!  🙂

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