(Closed) I hate my venue now

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Awww I’m sorry you’re feeling this way.  What exactly do you hate about the venue?  Maybe if you tell us some specifics, we can try to come up with ideas to help make things better.  πŸ™‚

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School

Ya, I agree with ddubbz, what exactly do you hate about it? Maybe there’s ways to change things so you can at least tolerate your venue…And also, I think everyone has second thoughts about their venue, I definitely did….Even though I love it, it’s a huge pain in the ass (outdoor ceremony, tented reception) and sometimes I wonder why I’m putting myself through such stress bc of the venue! Give us more specifics on what you dislike and we’ll come up with ways to change it so you feel better about it! 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Let’s start with a question.  What did you like about it that made you decide on the venue?  Then, what is bothering you right now about it?

Pros and cons.  Looking forward to seeing what you write.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I agree with others…making a list of things that you like (or even liked) versus what you’re not happy with now might provide more info for us to help you with…

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

Think about why you liked it (and booked it to begin with).  Why don’t you like your venue now?

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Would you be up for posting pics & letting us know excatly what you don’t like about it? Even the most unflattering rooms/ locations can have an amazing ambiance with the right decor πŸ™‚

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper

Hey, the poolside sounds beautiful and very romantic to me! As for beach goers, your photog should be able to work around them, or else edit them out. No one will bother you ~ people do have SOME decency! And truth be told, isn’t the whole point of a wedding for everyone to look at you? Seriously, it’s going to be one of the most beautiful days of your life ~ if you’re going to have a celebrity day, why not let it be then?

Realistically, the ceremony will be short, right? So it won’t be a big deal to be outside. You’d probably get just as many, if not more, gawkers at an outdoor, tented reception!

Regarding the ballroom, what about setting tables on two sides, with the dancing in the center? People can cross on the edges. Otherwise, the upstairs room sounds gorgeous, and you can always use a little more space between tables, and can leave the edges of the room empty for kids to run and play somewhere that’s NOT the dancefloor (obnoxious!).

Just because some other bride didn’t glam this place up for her big day doesn’t mean it won’t be gorgeous on yours!!

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Just remember it’s your wedding, so the there’s no way the ballroom would look exactly the same!

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I am CONSTANTLY wondering if I made the right decision with the venue we chose.  I remember debating about it in January, I had a pro’s and con’s list and I ask for opinions and I can’t even remember why we chose this location.  Now I wonder if we should of gone with the other location because now, with the facts not as fresh in my mind the pro’s out number the con’s.  I literally can not remember why I liked this one place because all the things at the other spot seem better.  Lovely.  But I don’t stress about it (often) anymore because like you said, there’s nothing you can do.  But I bet we’ll both love our weddings and this will be a distant memory (lets hope!)

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

While tented weddings are beautiful, they are a lot of work! You have to bring everything in yourself, so your saving yourself a lot of hassle by going with the hotel. And you’re obviously putting a lot of thought into your wedding, so I’m sure it’ll be awesome.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Keeping your venue doesn’t mean you have to give up on all those other nice ideas too. You can go to the courthouse to get your license, and if you dress up and take some cute pics and celebrate afterward with an intimate dinner, then you get to enjoy that idea. And you can save the tented party for a backyard dinner party after you are married, maybe for an anniversary or birthday. Just think how pretty that could be, andf you could even DIY “tents” by draping white sheets across some trees. All your ideas are great so keep them in mind for other events!

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Whee! Sounds like a challenge for the beehive! Can you post pictures of your venue so maybe we can get a better idea of what we’re looking at? I’m sure your venue is exactly what you need, and it was so awesome that you thought so much about your guests! Your wedding is going to be beautiful because YOU are going to make it so (with a little help from your bee friends).

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