(Closed) i hate my wedding dress :(

posted 6 years ago in Dress
Post # 31
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318 posts
Helper bee

I can relate…I also bought a dress under pressure and I don’t love it.. Its not horrible and I hope I can make it work but i regret letting people influence me! urrrg!!

  • This reply was modified 6 years, 3 months ago by jesais.
Post # 32
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155 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

I saw the poll about your dresses and voted for the one your mom had picked.  I think a good seamstress can help if you explain your concerns and how you want it to look more va-va-voom!  Do lots of research and look at their portfolio, but again, a good seamstress will have the ability to tuck the waist more and help you with lifting bust or anything like that.  I think from what I can see, you look amazing and first dress is beautiful; but if you’re not happy with it, well, it would be sad to be stuck in something you don’t feel the MOST beautiful in. 

Post # 33
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155 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

Also, could there be any undergarment advice anyone has for getting more “full” hips look for the other dress if you want to go that direction but don’t feel totally happy as is?  maybe there’s some spanx for that 😉

Post # 34
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361 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

So people hate this idea. So haters turn you eyes.  but I found the dress I loved on ebay as a knock off for about $200. It is not exactlly the dress but I love it just the same and it’s a cheap option if you get the dress and just can’t stand to wear it. I would make sure the seller has good review about wedding dress. Also ask a lot of question to make sure it’s exactlly what you want. For example the dress was supose to be champagn with a off white overlay and instead it all champagn. I think a happy acident. PS. there are no copy right on clothing since they all copy each other. Plus the up prices are so out of contorl for what it cost to make them just because you say the word wedding. 

Post # 35
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254 posts
Helper bee

I know you don’t want feedback on which dress we prefer and you are the one wearing the dress so you have to love it BUT – I keep flicking between the two dresses you have posted and I honestly prefer the ball gown way more on you.  I think when it is in ivory and fitting you properly you are going to just look so incredibly beautiful in it.  You obviously have a beautiful character and personality – wanting to make your Mum happy after all her hardships, and no matter what dress you wear your inner beauty is just going to shine out of you.  And in my opinion that is WAY more stunning than what dress you wear.

Post # 36
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Busy bee

I really loved the ballgown that your mother liked. It suits your body and you seem more slender in that one. It’s really flattering! And really beautiful just as it is as well!

Post # 37
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506 posts
Busy bee

The other one is really nice too, but the first one is really my favourite.

 

A good seamstress can do wonders, believe me. I was a bridesmaid at a wedding a while ago, and the dress that the bride got me was really unflattering, it made me look pregnant and my boobs looked all saggy, and it showed way too much cleavage! I’t was horrific. Luckily my mum, who’s definately no seamstress, got me a few stiches at both sides, sewing up the outer layer of fabric onto the shoulder-straps, and tadaaa, It wasn’t perfect, you could see the stiches if you looked close, but at least I looked 22lbs lighter and suddenly my boobs got into place, and didn’t look like my grandma’s set anymore! 

Give it a shot! A corset or just some stiches can seem like magic!

 

And if you do choose the other dress, you should know that you look really gorgeous in that one as well! In the end, you should choose the one that makes YOU feel beautiful, cause if you do, it will show. I am just in love with those ballgowns that make everyone look like a supermodel. I think i might choose that kind myself, so I might be a bit partial. Good luck bee! 

Post # 38
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Between the two dresses, I think the ballgown is much more flattering and also more elegant looking, and I’m not a fan of ballgowns. However, what we think really doesn’t matter ;D

Why don’t you try and sell it on Still White, eBay, or any other dress-selling sites? The fact that it’s New and not “used” or altered at all should make selling it easier. You could recoup most of the cash and then get what you really want. AND if you’re not opposed to it, you can look for the dress you REALLY want on one of those sites also to save even more money, instead of buying it brand-new. Or a replica, if you’d be happy with a pretty-close style. I bought my dress “used” for $220 instead of $1,400. It was a few sizes too big, but it seems to be working out just fine, and I saved a boatload of cash ^_^ New is awesome, but not at the price of almost $1,200 when I’ll just wear it once.

Couldn’t hurt to at least try to sell it? I mean, we can all say try to suck it up and focus on other things, but really we can say that about anything to try and get by. Sounds like your dress is a big deal to you, as it is to many brides (usually it’s the most important wedding detail to brides), so you could at least try to damage-control. In a case like this, it might be worth trying to explore selling it and/or buying a used one so you can be happy in the dress instead of just “meh.” 

 

My vote is damage control! Be happy with your dress. Sell it this one, buy a used one, buy a replica, get a seamstress (however that could possibly be just as much or more than a used dress/replica)… don’t feel “Meh” about yourself on your wedding day. Meh about flowers, meh about place settings, meh about appetizers… okay. But you’re going to remember you and your guy, and you’ll see lots of photos of yourself in your gown. It’d be super sad to hate looking at those photos and just feeling regret every time you flip the page. 

 

Post # 39
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

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lavenderlace:  Have you spoken to the store about your issue? If your dress doesn’t come in until May 2016 they may not have even started making it yet and there may be a chance to get store credit for another dress (perhaps from the same designer or other designs by same label (Mon Cheri)).

I actually love your first dress on you – the only thing I don’t like is the gold patterns but you fixed that by picking ivory.

I’m not really a fan of the mermaid dress you tried on either – I think you’d have looked better in a trumpet intead of something so fitted. But honestly I think what you picked is lovely.

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