(Closed) I hate my wedding dress…what do I do?

posted 10 years ago in Dress
Post # 17
333 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

It’s a beautiful dress, but you do look quite unhappy in the photos.  do you have your veil and accessories yet?  if you see yourself in full bridal gear, perhaps you’d feel better.

I sort of had regrets about mine dress  too because soooo many other people have it too.  But I focus on why it makes me feel beautiful and then i love it again.  What made you like your dress from the start?  I love the beading, the scalloped hem, the sweetheart neckline, and it frames your body very well.  I can’t see the detail of the beading that you don’t like in the pic, but i promise, it looks really good!

I actually think a sash would fight with some of the detail on the body.  grab a sweet lariat necklace and SMILE! 

Post # 18
2699 posts
Sugar bee

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@rosie024: I just wanted to say that I think you look beautiful and I am a big fan of lace wedding dresses. There are a lot of bees that have dresses very similar to yours. Believe me, it’s not hideous in the least!!

Post # 19
69 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I too think you look beautiful in it but you are the one that has to LOVE it.  I think there are some wonderful suggestions on here.

Post # 20
63 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I happen to like your dress a lot!! I think it is stunning but how  well a wedding dress looks really depends on the bride wearing it. If you hate it, speak to your fiance and see whether you have the funds to get another (in case the option is open). If not, then either get it altered or get something more budget-friendly off the rack that is more your taste! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 21
48 posts
  • Wedding: April 2012

So sorry you’re feeling bad about your dress. It’s such a beautiful dress! I love it!! The lace is so delicate and I love the straps. I was looking for dresses with those straps but couldn’t find them!

Have you figured out your hair and accessories yet? Will you wear a veil? It might be helpful to see the whole look pulled together. 

You will be stunning in this dress!!

Post # 22
444 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Yup, you look amazing..though not very happy, so I would suggest doing the alteration first?  I wasn’t in love with my dress either and I took it into get it alter..I told the seamstress what I wish I could be and she is making it happen.  Find an experienced seamstress and see if she can turn it into something you love..i think it looks great the way it is..perhaps adding a satin belt with some crystals might make you love it a little bit?? ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 23
1955 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School

I’m sorry you don’t like your dress! I will say, my mouth dropped when I scrolled down and saw the photo, I think your dress is unreal gorgeous!! Was not expecting anything like that based on what you said…IDK, I think it’s flattering, romantic and beautiful!

Post # 24
4108 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

You’re crazy imo ๐Ÿ˜‰ Honestly, that dress is just so gorgeous & romantic!!

If you truely cannot appreciate it any longer, though, you need to figure out a budget (if you have one) & just get something used, sample or off the rack as pp’s suggested. Then list the one you have for sale (wb classifieds are great too) & see what happens. But I still think you should figure out the reason why you loved it in the first place, stop looking at other dress photos for awhile & try to find a way to love it again. The reasons you chose it in the first place are pretty obvious to me! Good luck!

Post # 25
620 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Well personally I think its so georgous and that you should keep it. I know that it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks if you hate it but sometimes when you know that other people think that its really nice it helps you see it in a better light. But if you do hate it and you’re not going to be happy wearing it then why not choose a dress that you do like and get it custom made? It only costs a couple hundred dollars and a lot of girls have ended up with amazing dresses and if that dress that you get isn’t that great then you still have the old one to wear and you could use the custom made one for TTD pics. If you like the custom one better you could always sell the other one and save a lot of money. If you are interested I know of a seller that does amazing work.

Post # 26
6995 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

i love your dress! i think it looks beautiful on you – from one dress regretful bride to another – i have a good feeling that you will think differently the day of the wedding. i bought my dress because i liked it enough but my parents loved it – i was between 2 and they prefered my dress while i prefered another and i gave into the pressure – i would cry and whine about it to my (then)fiance all the time but didnt want to hurt my parents feelings so purchasing another was out of the question for me.I wouldnt have considered it if i didnt at least like something about it.

Alot of my problem was i bought a dress before finding the bee or diving into wedding planning and i found so many dresses when doing searches for my wedding that it really made me dislike my dress even more. The day of my wedding though those thoughts changes, i really loved my dress again, i dont know if it was the hair and makeup, or the jewelry and the veil or just my happiness and excitement for the day to finally be there but i felt so beautiful and was really happy with my dress choice in the end. (plus it photographed beautifully) Try and remember why you wanted to buy it in the first place and know that you will look and feel beautiful that day.

Post # 27
124 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I have to join with all the comments that say your dress is gorgeous!! And you look beautiful.  But I totally understand not liking it at this point – it couldn’t hurt to try and see what else is available on such short notice.  Good luck and keep us posted!!

Post # 28
11163 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

Your dress is gorgeous and so incredibly elegant. I think you should take the time to do yourself up and get the complete look together. See what you feel then.


Post # 29
4765 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999


It is lovely.  I am wondering what happened that made you hate it.  You must ave liked it at some point to buy it.  If we know why you hate it maybe we can be more help.

Post # 30
23589 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

It’s beautiful on you! 

Post # 31
1326 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ

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@totheislnds: This is exactly my situation; my mom bought my dress with me prior to me looking around or even finding WB. I just try to remember why I liked the dress in the first place because I can’t replace it at this point w/o devastating her. ๐Ÿ™‚

OP, I’m sure everything will be perfect on your wedding day, and I <3 your dress! ๐Ÿ™‚

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