(Closed) I HATE My Wedding!! :(

posted 6 years ago in Decor
Post # 3
750 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Deep breath.

The most rotten thing here sounds to me like the situation with your mother. That’s just… I don’t even know. But prioritize your other concerns, don’t hate your wedding before it’s even happened. It’s very close, but this is the time when lots of brides are working out their details too. You have some time.

Another breath.

Lavender and navy sound lovely together. I like the idea of having a color story and blending things, perhaps you and your fiance could compromise on having this in PARTS of your decor. He may have a hard time envisioning so much color and how it will all work… maybe you could find some pictures or do up an inspiration board to show him how things will come together in your vision. Men are, in my experience, not very imaginative when it comes to colors. I know mine sure isn’t! (God, that man loves beige and gray.) If he specifically wants contrast, point out to him how it will all look in your amazing black and white photos. Again, the lavender and navy will look great.

Your dress… have you ever seen so many accessories are there are for wedding dresses today? Some ladies here change the entire look of their gown with a sash, or a different style veil, jewelry, or illusion piece. Some remove crinoline to decrease the fluffiness, some add or remove straps or even change the entire neckline. A birdcage veil changes a look from girly-traditional to dramatic and vintage-y in a snap.

Don’t hate it all before it’s happened. You have a challenge, but you have options. Prioritize your issues based on what you CAN change and what will be easiest to change. Then work! You can do it :o)

Post # 4
9 posts
  • Wedding: June 2012

Sweetie. First off you need to stand up for yourself. THIS IS YOUR WEDDING. Hate to say it but the girl trumps boy ALWAYS, as long as it is nothing major.

First: who is paying for the wedding? Is it you and your hubby together, your hubbytobe, you? your mom, anyone else? Figure that ot before complaining about anything because that i important. You can’t complain too much when you arent contributing financially, BUT if you are doing all the planning then, you should be able to have some sort of say! Labor costs! πŸ˜‰

Listen, sit your hubby-to-be down and tell him how you are feeling. DON’T do that over drinks, or when you are feeling heated or mad. Do it once you have calmed down and are feeling more in control. Also, write down how you are feeling and why, POINT BY POINT. Do that NOW then look at them tomorrow before your chat – i say this because those things may not seem so important tomorrow. So when you do have the chat, you will know what is most important to you as a bride. Prioritize them too. Most important to least. (Family being there – #1, dress type #10, colors of wedding #55). You should be enjoying this time. Once you have a list finalized, clean it up and go through it with your fiance. Line by line and see what you can and can’t change, and what can be modified to fit both your wishes for the wedding. If there are out of the box fixes, consider them.  We’re never nailed to the wall. In the end you just have to get creative. And most importantly BREATHE. Its a bad day. We brides to be have them more than not these days, just put it in perspective and remember what is MOST important. Its not the wedding, its the marriage. πŸ™‚

Post # 5
3 posts

Don’t have any solution off the top of my head, but as a mother of a bride to be (Sept of this year) I will {hug} you in spirit and yes, tell you to breathe…. deep and long.


Keep us posted please!


A MOB in Illinois,


Post # 7
3 posts
  • Wedding: February 2012

So I agree with everything that has been posted already… a comment about the colors.  Lavender and Navy will be beautiful together! Just because your hubby doesn’t “think” he wants beige, greens, greys, pink, ivory etc. in the wedding doesn’t mean that you can’t have them… Pick your battles… colors isn’t one you have to stress over! or fight over. You can incorporate all of those colors beautifully into your FLOWERS and centerpieces, and linens (go with an ivory under-cloth instead of basic white) and not even need to worry your hubby with it.  You’ll be so beautiful on your wedding day, he won’t even notice the colors of the flowers that your bridesmaids will be holding πŸ™‚

Post # 8
86 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Oh wow!! My mom is doing the same thing! My fiance and I have been together for 6 yrs we have twin girls that are 4. He proposed in Jan. and honestly we were going to elope but his family was estactic about us finally getting married is helping us in the funds department to make it a lovely wedding. Now we are doing a small wedding and I actually have gone the diy route, but his family is split four ways so that means he has alot of fam. My mother told me that she can not believe I am doing a wedding with two kids running around. I honestly tried to involve her but now as of last night I could careless if she even comes, I am scared she is going to ruin it. I ordered a dress from tidebuy and pray it comes out ok. (still waiting!) I didn’t want spend a ton of money on a dress. I have been leaning on the bee site for support,  I am also hoping it doesn’t look like some threw up pink on my wedding I am horrible with color matching and am finding my colors to be more trouble than they are worth. I wish you luck! My wedding is only a few days away so wish me luck also.

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