Post # 1
So most of you know that I ended up having a huge falling out with my Bridesmaid or Best Man (who was also my best friend) after some nasty comments were made about me and my Fiance, and when she started treating my badly. She said that she could not believe my Fiance was marrying me because I was “such a bitch” among other comments, and did a total 180 after meeting a new random guy.
She met a guy about 4 months ago and after two weeks of knowing him decided to move 3 states away. She lost all of her friends because people were tired of her talking behind their backs, got a new job, and moved in with her new dude. I just found out that her new bf dumped her and kicked her out of his place. I have no idea what happened in full detail, but I did hear through the grapevine that he just “couldn’t tolerate” her anymore. Now she has no friends and is scrambling to find a place of her own on her very tight budget. She has no one to help her. At all.
A part of me feels awful for her because even though she was horrible to me near the end of our friendship, I still care about her. Then another part of me thinks well, karma is a bitch…isn’t it?
I feel like such an awful person 🙁
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2012 - Zama Beach Club, Isla Mujeres, Mexico
Karma is a bitch, but you never know what people are going through in their personal lives. It sucks that she was so shitty to you, but maybe it was just a dark point in her life.
I think you should give her another chance. You said that she made a 180 when she met this guy, maybe she will be back to normal?
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House
Its normal to have those feelings – you’re not a bitch.
Are you thinking about restarting the friendship with her? I would let her know you’re sorry she got dumped and try to be there for her. You can be the bigger person in this situation so easily.
Post # 5
She got what was coming to her. If she extends an olive branch to you though i would take it. Grudges aren’t worth the energy.
Post # 6
I would reach out to her, but she still makes nasty comments about me that I catch wind of, so I know she hasn’t changed.
My Fiance would definitely not approve of me reconciling with her. She was toxic on so many levels. She did recreational drugs, is an alcoholic among so much more. Our group of friends tried to get her help but she refused. I just can’t anymore.
Post # 7
Also, because of the abrupt shift in her behavior, is there a possibility of substance abuse? Maybe related to her BF? Maybe she’s got bigger demons to deal with than you know about and could really use a friend right now.
ETA: Nevermind; you confirmed that part! If she’s been abusing for awhile, then this could be a wake up call for her.
Post # 8
@inspiredcreations: Definitely…I am hoping that this is her rock bottom and maybe she will get herself together. I know that if she reached out to me and apologized and took responsibility for EVERYTHING she did to me I would forgive her and be there for her. When we were “breaking up” I confronted her and she would not own up to anything even though I knew for a fact what she did. She takes no accountability for anything, and I can’t put myself through that again. I refuse to reach out to someone who stabbed me in the back.
Post # 9
Karma is only a bitch if you are 🙂
Post # 11
You are not an awful person and karma is a bitch. You are not to feel glad about other people’s disgrace but if you want nothing to do with this person, then just move on. I was on a similar situation before and my reasoning is this. If your frienship fell apart because of things that you both said and you couldnt make up then your friendship wasn’t that strong in the first place and those kinds of friends are supposed to go out of your life eventually.
Post # 12
@amoret11: So true. I really think she was put into my life to teach me a lesson, and that lesson is that I can not fix everyone. I try to take on everyone’s problems and help them. It stresses me out and makes me mentally and physically tired. And some people just don’t want to be fixed.