(Closed) i hate saying "fiance"

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
838 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2008

If you don’t like it, you don’t have to say. Fiance doesn’t have a legal standing. You can call him your shmookey wookums

Post # 4
9082 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

It’s not you.

My husband and I agreed that we’d never call each other “fiance/e”. It sounds snotty, pretentious, uptight.

We called each other “Not boyfriend” and “Not girlfriend.”

Post # 5
1431 posts
Bumble bee

It felt weird in the beginning for me too so I would still say bf. Eventually it felt a little more normal, luckily I had a short engagement so I didn’t have to wait to long to say husband. That also felt weird to say in the beginning but in a fun cool way.

Post # 6
488 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

You’re not alone. I feel like everytime I say “my fiance” I’m rubbing it in someone’s face that I’m engaged and they’re not. But I’m getting more used to it now that it’s been a few months.

Post # 7
9955 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

To each their own.

“Fiance” for sure it is an unusual word (French)…

I LOVED saying Fiance because it truly meant we were more than just Boyfriend or Best Friend & Girlfriend… and on our way… to being married.

The Engagement period is a realtive short time frame, IMO you should embrace it.

Lol, you could always call him “Your Bethrothed” … that would be the English equivalent.


Post # 8
2250 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I hate it too! I always hesitate, and then either stammer out the word fiance and feel like a big tool, or revert to boyfriend, in which case I get some pointed looks from my friends/family. Can’t WAIT to be married so I can finally use the word husband full time!

Post # 9
3778 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Sometimes I hate “fiancé” because I do think it sounds a bit uppity and pretentious. Most of the time, I just end up saying “husband” lol. 

Post # 10
1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Don’t worry, I hated it too. The only place I referred to him as my fiance was here on WB. Everywhere else in life, he was called my partner (boyfriend never sat well with me either). Fiance just seemed like a pointless thing to call him given that the whole point of being a fiance/fiancee is that it’s a transitional thing. On top of that, everyone seems to respond with “Congratulations!!!!” when you say you have a fiance, so it almost felt like fishing for compliments to me. Like, I might be introducing him to someone, and if I said “This is my fiance” they gush over how amazing it is that we’re engaged, whereas if I say “This is my husband,” the conversation continues on as normal.

Saying husband still feels weird, though!

Post # 12
70 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Me too! I hate the word! He had never called me anything other than girlfriend and I have only said it to his insurance company when they asked my relationship (he said she’ll be my wife next month) I was married before (very young) and don’t remember having a problem saying it.

Post # 13
1252 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I also didn’t like saying ” fiancé”. ” husband” sounds better:)

Post # 14
4893 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I must be backwards, because I love it. I hated calling him my “boyfriend.” It sounded so juvenile and… un-serious (I don’t think that’s a word…).

Post # 15
2669 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I don’t like “fiance”, but I really loathe “boyfriend” because it makes me feel like I’m back in middle school to say it. I tried “partner” once, and the lady at the checkout line got all confused since gay marriage isn’t legal here. I think I’m just going to say “husband” from now on.

Post # 16
3567 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Like most of you, I hate saying “Fiance” too! Fiance feels the same. I also hated saying “boyfriend” for the same reasons as the rest of you.  I try to avoid it as much as possible and just refer to him by name to other people.

However, between Fiance and I we both sometimes say the word “fiance” is a super pretentious voice because it’s funny.  Most of the time we’ll say things like “Your amazing future wife/husband just made dinner for you!” lol

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