(Closed) I hate seating assignments! (Don’t mind me, just venting…)

posted 8 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
3981 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

So, don’t do one! We aren’t and I am so happy about it.

Post # 4
5778 posts
Bee Keeper

Aren’t you doing just assigned tables? It’s so much easier!

Post # 5
952 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I would have to agree! We didn’t do it and it worked out just fine. People will want to sit with whoever they want. 

Post # 6
2714 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Yea, I am NOT looking forward to the table assignments! It’s like a really complicated, and much less fun, jigsaw puzzle.

Post # 8
1166 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Yep, it’s not fun. But I feel the same as you – you do it for the sake of your guests, so they won’t feel like they’re back in junior high. In the end, it’s worth it. I gave it a lot of thought, and I actually had a couple of guests thank me for sitting them with great “table-mates.”

One tip I can give you is not to get too hung up on having the exact same number of people at each table. Most of my tables had 8, but sometimes I cut that to 7 or squeezed in 9 or 10. And for my husband’s family, I used a long table because there were 12 people who I wanted to sit together instead of spreading them out with strangers. Having flexibility in the table counts made a huge difference.

Post # 9
1161 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

@JennyW1:I have no help to offer, but just wanted to stop by and commiserate.  I’m working on mine to and it sucks (but I agree that it needs to be done…at least in my case)


Are you doing a sweetheart table?  We don’t want to do a head table because between all the Bridal Party members they have 4 kids and that would just be too many people sitting there, and we didn’t want to do a sweetheart table, but figuring out who to sit with us is PAIN.FUL.  YAY for dysfunctional divorced parents…..

Post # 10
9053 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Yeah… like a non-fun logic puzzle. 

Post # 12
5984 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1999

I can empathize.  Drink a glass of wine (or two) while you work on it.  Oh, and don’t forget to get the opinions of your parents and in-laws.  That is always helpful, especially if you have a big family.  Good luck!!!

Post # 13
1488 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@nmsoonerbride: I’m not looking forward to this at all. Both of our parents are divorced and remairried (my dad and his wife are not invited so they don’t really count I know) and all of our grandparents are divorced and remarried….

Post # 14
7975 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I found weddingmapper.com to be incredibly helpful with our seating assignments – they have a tool where you can select the size of the room, size/shape of tables and then arrange them and you drag and drop your guests into seats. It lets you link people who are in the same party and automatically seats them together (although you can manually override that).

Post # 15
2161 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’m not doing one!  I do them for work (teacher) and there is no way I am going to tell adults where they can sit or not sit.

Post # 16
1267 posts
Bumble bee

I had a hell of a time for my first marriage since his side all hated each other and couldn’t sit together…it was exhausting!

Around here, not having a seating chart just isn’t done.  People would not know what to do, lol.  We dont’ assign people’s actual seats, but you go find your name with your table number on it and then just sit where you want at the table.  Most guests are couples or pairs here so it’s easy since it’s just four or so couples taking there seats.  If it was singles at the table I guess that would be a little harder, but still doable.

The thing I like least about going to a quick servie restaurant where you aren’t seated by a hostess and waited on is trying to find a table.  I wouldn’t want to do that at a wedding.  But that probably is because I’m not used to having to do that….someone else may not like being placed at a table 😛

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