(Closed) I hate that I feel this way..help!!

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
3968 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@future.mrs.c:  I would wait “a couple months into 2012.” If by May 1, nothing. Then I would have some questions…

Post # 4
380 posts
Helper bee

@love108:  Completely agree. If he’s said he’s sticking to the timeline, give him the chance to do that. It’s hard waiting but at least you know it’s coming! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 5
701 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

girl I feel you. We aren’t engaged but we’ve planned most everything…lol. It’s at the point that I’m excited because I trust him and know it is coming but instead I feel a combination of anxiety and excitement and PISSED OFFNESS. I mean WTeff?? Get up on it duuude!

Post # 7
823 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I think Wedding Bee just ate my comment! I wrote that I agreed with the above comments that you should give your boyfriend time to come through with his promises. If you hit summer and you don’t have a ring, I would start a conversation about the topic again. 

Post # 8
115 posts
Blushing bee

I completely understand! My SO has said the same about this Spring, and it feels like it’s taking forever! I try not to be negative, but I too doubt his words sometimes. A lot of people think the surprise element is a moot point after 4 years, but my SO thinks it needs to be a surprise too! I love that about him, but it’s hard sometimes to understand and be patient. I feel ya! I think Spring is also hard because it seems like everyone is wedding planning right now! If it helps, I am using the time to be a little selfish and enjoy not having to plan…Just yet. I have good and bad days. I wish you the best of luck and for time to fly by for both of us! I think giving your SO the time he wants to make it happen will really be worth it! 

Post # 9
14486 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Chill, he has a timeline and says it will happen and to stay out of it and just let it be a surprise.  Back off until the agreed time passes.  When my husband and I were talking about it… all I got was a “be patient” and never even discussed a timeline.  He kept me waiting about 5 months since marriage came up.

Post # 10
955 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

If he instigated the fight about his bonus and where the $$ is going (saying it will be truck parts and not the ring) then HE KNOWS in his conscience that he needs to be saving up for that ring pronto! Especially in light of the timeline he gave you. He probably got defensive because he’s putting a considerable amount of pressure on himself. 

I say take a deep breath, relax, and enjoy the building excitement. Chances are, you’ll get that ring. But I have to say I agree with the other Bees that if you don’t get some bling by early spring, I’d re-visit the subject. 

Post # 13
339 posts
Helper bee

Does him talking about it make things worse? Maybe you should ask him to not discuss it for a bit because it makes you feel more impatient, sad, etc.  That way things can settle down and you can enjoy your time together until the proposal comes!

Post # 14
74 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@future.mrs.c:  Hang tight lady! I know exactly how you’re feeling but try and trust him here. I don’t think he’s going to let you down. My SO is exactly the same, he informed me once that its “his job to propose” and “my job to wait” I almost blew my lid! But I think what he really meant was is that he wants to keep this exciting for both of us. You don’t want to look back and regret how he proposed. Just keep the faith!

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