Post # 1
I actually GAINED weight after I purchased my dress. I’m so scared of what people will think when they see me on my wedding day. I’m scared that I’ll forever regret how my wedding pictures look b/c I am so much heavier than I’ve ever been. And it’s no one’s fault but my own. I don’t work out. I eat terribly. I’ve gained so much weight in the last few years. My family will be seeing me for the first time in years (coming halfway across the country for the wedding) and I’m afraid they’ll be shocked.
I was doing Nutrisystem for a while and then stopped and gained it all back. I did WW years ago and lost 50 lbs, now I weigh more than when I started.
I’m just really upset over it tonight. I feel like I have no control when it comes to food. Ugh.
Sorry. Thanks for letting me vent/complain.
Post # 3
I can tell you that you’re not alone and most women have huge guilt and regret regarding their weight. All you have to worry about is how your fiance will see you that day… And I guarantee when he sees you in your dress he will think you’re the most beautiful woman in the world.
Post # 4
Yup me too. I didn’t really change anything but managed to loose 5 pounds. You can’t even tell though. My clothes fit the same.
Post # 5
I understand twocatupcake….
But what are we going to do about it? I know through personal experience that the Atkins diet I lost a lot of weight in two weeks.
Don’t give up…..get focused!!!! you may not look like your old self…but you don’t have to look like you do today….
I am going through the same thing…all the comments, looks…it’s just weight and people act like you have three heads!!!
But remember this….whether you loose 50 lbs or gain 5 – the most important part of this process is that you found someone to love you enough to pledge the rest of their life to you!! It’s the marriage that is important and not the wedding!!!
Hope this helps!!!
Post # 6
@leaveit2mia: I agree u can lose weight in a short amount of time if u stick to ur guns. I used to weigh 175 and did atkins 8 years ago to be in my brothers wedding. I went down to 124 in a matter of 3 months! I now 8 years later maintain a healthy 120-125. Just get into the mindset. I also find that keeping a calorie journal helps I use fitday.com and have for about 5 years!
Post # 7
I found this post, from the wonderful blog A Practical Wedding, to be very inspirational:
Post # 8
I know exactly what you mean.. I recently started to work out 3 times a week but my wedding is coming up and I feel like I haven’t put enough effort into my diet… I want to look my best on that day and I don’t feel like I’m there.
I’m starting WW like asap.. I told the hubbs that I’d be switching up the menu to be more healthy and he is 100% on board and said that he just wants me to be as happy with myself as he is.. I thought that was sweet =)
Post # 9
twocatcupcake – I get it. My Fiance and I both haven’t worked on our weight. He is at his heaviest that anyone in my family has seen him. I have not lost weight like I promised myself, have not worked out like I promised myself and have not watched what I’m eating.
I will tell you this, I am not worrying about it. Know what? My dress fits me like I am right now. If I don’t lose or gain an ounce, I will be just fine. How about yours? Does it fit you now? Then go for it. Be you. This is who you are right now and right now you are in love with the man of your dreams and you are marrying him. I am, too. I can’t wait. I can’t wait to see how awesome he looks in his suit and how he looks at me in my dress.
Someone once said love is blind. It may not be blind but it is blind to weight issues. Your Fiance is going to be so happy to see you in your dress that day, nothing else will matter. Your family and friends will see the love and happiness you are just ooooozing and they’ll be so happy for you.
PLEASE don’t go on a crazy diet. 1. You want your dress to fit on your wedding day. 2. You don’t want to be on the toilet for your entire honeymoon!!!
Try your best to love you, knowing you’ve got this amazing person loving you for you, as well. 🙂 <hugs>
Post # 10
I hear ya. Fiance and I are both at our heaviest and we have even begun to work on our weight. but hey we’ve talked about it!
I hope that you have a really loving, supportive family that loves you no matter what and thinks you’re a beautiful bride regardless of your weight. if not, well then screw them. seriously.
If you start eating healthy and stick to excercising after the wedding i’m hoping one day you can sit down, look at your wedding album and say “yep thats how I looked then, theres nothing I can do now to change it, but at least I’m healthier and happier today.”
good luck with any weight loss goals you have. But remember the people that come to your wedding just to judge you, are not really worth having in your life.
Post # 11
You still have a full month. I think it is a bad idea for others on this thread to encourage you not to worry about it, because you are worried about it. Those people mostly sound like others who are trying to justify their own weight gain issues. And how good will you feel if you stick to a diet between now and teh wedding and lose a few pounds? You will be so proud of yourself and feel that much more beautiful because you really worked for it!
A word of encouragement, I lost the most weight during the last month before my wedding. I couldn’t even feel hunger and just ate every once in a while because I knew I had gone a long time without food.
Post # 12
@moderndaisy – I wouldn’t push a diet like that…sounds a bit unhealthy.