Post # 92
The proposal is over. You don’t get a mulligan on that. All you can do now is learn to love the story. I think despite what TV, Facebook and Pinterest would like to have us believe, most of us have to do a little bit of learning to love the proposal. Our men aren’t mind-readers, and there’s no way to say “I’d like it to be on the beach at sunset” or “I’d like it to be at a fancy restaurant with the moon glinting off the snow falling gently outside” without sounding like a total shrew, but if you’ve been waiting a while or are a little older, and that’s your dream, it’s hard not to feel a wee bit disappointed when your dream doesn’t come true, or you get proposed to in a way that isnt your personality. That part of the story is written, and you only get one with this man. Your only options are to get a new man, or learn to love the story, because the only thing complaining to him about it will do is sully it beyond the point of you or him ever being able to love it in the future.
As for the ring: Wanting something you love isn’t spoiled. Some on these boards will encourage you to martyr yourself to this thing, insinuating that because he loved you enough to propose, you should just gladly accept whatever he chooses to give you. I think that’s bull. You told him what you liked and what you didn’t, and he disregarded that. You ought to switch the ring out, but please do it with a quickness, before the return date runs out or you scratch the gold.
Post # 93
WOAH ladies… I did not by any means want to offent the OP, if I did I want to presonally apologize. I would be more than happy to delete my post if it is upsetting to her. In my post, if you look back, i told her that i loved her ring and attempted to comfort/explain that he was probably nervous and wanted to surprise her. My proposal was NOT elaborate by the way. It was smiply photographed. I didn’t start a thread about it because my intention was NOT to brag about anything, otherwise i would have certainly done so. I attempted to simply share and it was in no way intended to hurt anyones feelings. Like I said… if i offended the OP I apologize. Lets be adults here. There is no reason to dedicate a paper of a responce to show me I am insensitive when in all honesty that was not my intent. I feel very badly that the OP is dissapointed about the ring and the proposal. I also can see how the photo could have been taken in a different way, for that ONCE again, I apologize.
Post # 94
@LeosLady28: I doubt you offended the OP, but you might have broken her heart a little bit because you went on (in detail) about how you got exactly what she did not. Maybe you were just carried away on your own cloud 9?
I was serious when I suggested you post about your own story (in a more appropriate forum, of course). It looks like a wonderful one, and I’d love to see this ring that your Fiance put so much thought into.
It would be appropriate to delete your other post, though, if that’s even possible.
ETA there ain’t nothin wrong with bragging! That’s what the ring/proposals/ect forums are for!
Post # 95
@valintine I deleted the photo, however the rules and regulations of the blog won’t let me delete the post itself (i would otherwise). They only delete posts that show personal information (like address or phone number). Like I said, i really didn’t mean to hurt her feelings, truly. I can def. see how that can be taken as being carried away or even bragging. I have no idea why what i meant to say came out the way it did. I think this blog does bring out the extremes of feelings at times. Before anyone else “pushes” me off the bridge … I shall be more mindful in my future posts and pay attention which forum I am replying to 🙂 I hope the OP can forgive my blunder…
Post # 96
I think you should have a ring you really love (if the jewelry store will allow a trade). It’s the one piece of jewelry you will be wearing everyday. It sounds like he is more excited and proud about the good deal he got, so if he gets another good deal, it might be ok! 🙂 If they won’t do a trade, maybe you could have it reset.
Post # 97
UPDATE Ladies!!!!! It’s been a few weeks since the proposal….and to some of you this probably isnt shicking when I say I am over the proposal. When it happens, its all you can think about, all you engaged Bee’s know that. I did talk to him about it. We are comfortable with our relatio ship and with each other that I could tell him I was a little disappointed with the proposal, but that I am over it, and that looking back I know he was just really excited because he had bought it and I had been away for a week. It seems silly that I was so upset about it, but at the time it seemed like a big deal. Know I’m just excited to start the wedding planning!
In terms of the ring, for the first several days, I just kept looking at rings online and desperately wanting to change it. I told him I was thinking about changing it, and we had a talk, and he is completely fine if I want to get a different one. He just said, “Ok, but you better remember I picked out a pretty ring so I did good!” haha. After days of just staring at it all day, admitting that it IS a pretty ring, and even if its not one I would have ever picked out myself, I cant help but like it now. It would be too much of a hassle to return it, get a new one, FIND a new one, blah blah blah. And Ive realized, in 20 years, I will not even remember that I didnt like it to start out with. Every day I look at it, it grows on me even more and I love it! And I know myself, and like most people, my taste and sense of style changes all the time, so a ring I might have picked out now probably would not be in style or I wouldnt like it in a few years. This one is pretty classic, so I think I will be happy with it forever. And hey, I can always upgrade sometime in the future! Thanks for all the help ladies (some of you more than others….). I just want to make it clear I was never UNGRATEFUL of the proposal (how can I be ungrateful that the mna I love wants to marry me?) and if I sounded like a spoiled brat, well that was not my intention nor my feelings.
And in response to poor @LeosLady28: who everyone is attacking: I never thought her response was rude, or tacky. I enjoy reading others’ magical proposals, because just I because I didnt get mine, doesnt mean others shouldnt be happy with theirs! It actually makes me happy that there are still some romantic men out there, and not all of them are like mine (lol he tries, he really does…). Stop ragging on her, she did not mean to brag or show off! I understood what she was trying to tell me!
Post # 98
Thanks for the update. I’m glad you feel a lot better. I still want to know what happened to the two rings you guys decided on together? Did he purposefully decide to go in another direction? Did you talk about him about why he chose something totally different that what you picked out?
Post # 99
I just want to say that I was a little disappointed in my lackluster proposal (we had talked about getting married for quite sometime, and on the street outside of Madison Square Garden — we hadn’t gone there, we just happened to be passing by at the time) my now-husband said “ok. let’s do it. Let’s get married.” Then he told some passers by on the street that he loved me, that I said yes, and that we’re getting married. In addition, I didn’t (and still don’t) have an engagment ring. My guy put together a really awesome “proposal video” after we were already married, as a kind of gift, which is fantastic.
Anyway, all that to say that I’m so in love with my husband and Fr*aking ecstatic to be married to him.
Glad to hear that you’re feeling good. 🙂
Post # 101
Edit: didn’t see the update! Glad to hear you and Fiance love it now . 🙂
Post # 102
So show us this ring already! 🙂
Post # 103
@shrubfish09: I’m so glad your ring is growing on you! It’s gorgeous, elegant, and timeless! Wait till you get a band with that beauty!
As for the proposal, maybe it wasn’t the most magical, but it is yours. And that in itself makes it spectacular! Now go enjoy planning!
Post # 104
I picked out my own ring – no proposal – just told him I wanted to get married – he asked if I wanted a ring… I said yes and we went shopping – the ring he originally wanted for me was a saphire…I said yes I love it for my right hand…so…we shopped around and I got a lovely ring – he asked me several times if I was sure that was the ring I wanted…yes – I totally happy
Post # 105
Sorry this is a little late….it literally took us forever to get a clear picture.
Post # 106
Your ring is so beautiful and timeless! I love it!