Post # 123
I totally agree…. People’s expectations overcome what’s really important.
When DH and I were casually looking at rings, I found a style I LOVED…. Then when he proposed it was totally not anything like the one I’d loved and hoped for, I was a little disappointed but I would never think to tell him I didn’t like it. I kept it, and It didn’t take me long to love it. I just didn’t want to hurt his feelings by exchanging it…. I just made sure I got to pick the band.
Post # 124
@shrubfish09: I feel your pain. My (now ex) husband proposed at the Outback Steakhouse. I had already picked out the ring and suspected he had picked it up from the jewelers. The next day we went out to dinner and literally at the table he said “Hey, stick your hand in my pocket, I got something for you”!!! Really? Best you could do? At that point the last thing I wanted to do was stick my hand in the pocket of his jeans. When I realized what was going on I briefly thought of begging him to stop now. I later told him it would have been better if he just did it in the parking lot.
Obviously I don’t know your relationship and some guys just aren’t great at coming up with ideas, but that day was a tell all for where our marriage would ultimately end up. My current BF-about to become Fiance is one of those guys. He tries SO HARD! I gotta give him credit. I’ve tried to lay it all out without directly telling him what to do. Like “Don’t do it in a restaurant, parking lot or at home”, “Parks are nice”, “Sunsets are nice”, “I love it when you’re sweet” All lovely hints that will hopefully not leave me disappointed again.