(Closed) I hate the word fiancé!

posted 4 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 76
836 posts
Busy bee

beachbumm105:  Got engaged in october. I’ll introduce Fiance as my fiance (or he will for me) ONCE when we meet someone new who doesn’t know me/him, then reference each other by name or say bf/gf from then on.

Its the one time fiance rule we apply to every situation. Some times we don’t even use the rule and just say bf/gf from the get go, people can see the ring i wear or if they dont, it makes no difference to me haha, i know im marrying  him – thats good for me.

Post # 77
3903 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

beachbumm105:  I call him by his first name or my fiance. Im not going to call him my bf cause I think after proposing he deserves better than that and Im not calling him my husband until the wedding ceremony is done. 

You can call him your Feyonce 😆 puts a funny twist on the “pretentious” fiance lol 😁

Post # 78
6 posts

The tables are switched for me–I actually would prefer to use the term “fiance” when we get engaged. Personally, “boyfriend” sounds like we’re both 15 (and since I’m almost 30/he’s over 30) it seems too juvenile; while “partner” I loathe because it sounds too ambiguous (is he my business partner? partner in a law firm? my bio lab partner?). 

Post # 79
3120 posts
Sugar bee

I think it sounds pretentious too.  I’m not sure why.  Really though, whatever his actual title, I think of him as my partner.  

Post # 81
634 posts
Busy bee

I avoid it too. Don’t know why, it just sounds breathlessly girly to my ears. Fiance uses it though, and I do get him cards with “fiancé” on. It’s just in normal conversation, I use boyfriend  

But only 6 weeks and it’ll be husband!

Post # 82
320 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

beachbumm105:  Oh my gosh. I thought I was the only one too! I hate the word. I call him my boyfriend, but he hates it. He thinks I’m downing the seriousness of our relationship. So sometimes I try and throw in fiance every now and then, but I don’t particuarly like the word.

Post # 83
3756 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY

beachbumm105:  I feel the same way for some reason, even though my intention is never to throw my relationship/engagement in anyone’s face! I refer to him by his first name when talking to people that know him/know his name, because that’s more comfortable. 

Post # 84
282 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Agreed. Never got on board with fiance, still said boyfriend. Now adjusting to husband, we dated for 7 years before getting engaged, I blame it on old habit!

Post # 85
1433 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

Me too! Still just say partner. Can’t wait to say husband! 

Post # 86
5154 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

beachbumm105:  My husband hated it too! He called me “the woman I shall marry” haha. 

Post # 87
5095 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2014

RobbieAndJuliahaha:  I always think of that episode when people say fiance. 

Post # 88
1972 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - Sussex, UK

FantasticFawn:  Yes!  People still congratulate me when I say fiancé. We’ve been engaged over a year so it feels weird.

Post # 89
163 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2016 - Wentworth Country Club

I’m probably going to get scorned for this, but I already call him my husband even though we won’t make it official til September. After we had our child he just started calling me his wife and I went along with it. It’s been 3 years since then and we are finally making it official lol. Fiancé just feels strange to say and boyfriend feels too young.

Post # 90
5846 posts
Bee Keeper

SithLady:  Ditto, I can’t hear the word ‘fiance’ without picturing that scene with Elaine 🙂

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