Post # 1
Christmas, New Years and then Valentines Day, AKA: the trifecta of disappointment and broken dreams.
I’m lucky enough to have an anniversary in the middle of that holiday mess, so I get an extra heaping of crushed hopes. To make that better, he totally forgot when our anniversary was in the first place – I had to remind him about it last week. Looks like he has nothing of importance planned.
Let’s talk about how awful the holidays have been, and how much we both look forward to and resent special days on the calendar!
Post # 2
I hear you. It was always horrible for me. We were together for 6 years when we got engaged, 7 when we got married and from september through april after the 3 year mark was excruciating. On our 5th anniversary he picked up an extra shift at work (right after hurricane sandy) and when i got home from work, he was about to walk out the door. He told me he worked so he could take the next day off to go paintballing! PAINTBALLING! Yupp, he forgot about our 5 year. I threw the card at him and he was groveling for about a month.
My birthday is: sept 20th
Day we met: october 9th
Official dating anniversary: Nov. 1st.
Thanksgiving, christmas, NYE, valentines day
His birthday: april 20th.
Hang in there. So many of us have been there too!
Post # 3
- Wedding: July 2015 - Golf Course
Definitely hang in there!! Some guys put it off because it’s “cliche” to propose during typical engagement season. I got engaged last Feburary 12, because the 14th is too cliche obviously 😛 So don’t give up hope 🙂
Post # 4
Noway girl! I hate holiday engaments. (No offense to people who have them) I would die over how tacky it is if my SO proposed on a holiday. I want my OWN holiday/celebration. So that day is ALL about us and our day. 🙂 I told him LONG ago I will kill him and say NO if he proposed on a holiday or birthday. Lol. I’m that serious.
Post # 5
Well i dont like Valentine day at all because first my SO b day is v day and its mostly a day for him. Second him and his ex wife got married on that day so i would hate hate hate if he even thought to propose on that day! Ugh. I had a very hard time this holiday season with all of my friends getting engaged but we are waiting on finances to get better
Post # 6
i feel you!! my SO thinks its all for marketing!! (In a way it is; i am a marketing major) lol
Post # 7
DH and I met the day before Thanksgiving the year we started dating, and just considered that our Anniversary date. Then comes Christmas. Then, both of our birthdays are in February; his the 4th and mine the 9th… and then, Valentine’s Day. So, we get every gift giving moment all in one big chunk, which usually leaves to combined presents so that we each can splurge on one another. Sometimes that sucks, but sometimes it’s not too bad.
He actually proposed on February 15, after we had a very low key Valentine’s Day – and I still was not expecting it – even after we had looked at rings a few weeks prior! So, it was definitely a surprise.
Also, although Valentine’s Day was the day before he proposed, it also happened to be the day that we have an Annual hockey game party where we rent a suite at the arena that a local USHL hockey team plays, and invite friends and family to come… so he wanted to do it that day, so we could celebrate the news with everyone that night – which happened to fall on February 15.
Post # 8
I don’t really want a cliche holiday proposal, but the waiting really started to bother me in the last 6-7 months.
This Christmas/New Year’s, I checked Facebook/Twitter with a almost a feeling of dread- like, “Oh, gee, let’s see who else is getting engaged before me!” I’m sure I will have the same feelings on February 15th. (It’s not even that I’m jealous of those people- it just makes me feel sad because I don’t know what it feels like to be engaged.)
Someone should start a vent thread after V-Day. Better to let out your frustrations on an online board than a friend or boyfriend!
Post # 9
I’m not opposed to a holiday proposal, but it’s not really what I’d prefer – obviously it didn’t happen, so no biggie. My SO and I aren’t into traditional romantics so we don’t really celebrate Valentine’s Day; our usual arrangement is to buy each other some chocolate and cook at home – too crowded at restaurants! I also HATE winter (especially February) and get super depressed pretty much as soon as Thanksgiving is over so it’s not exactly an ideal time for me hahaha.
From a waiting standpoint, this time of year can be especially difficult because everyone having an upcoming summer wedding is now in full-tilt wedding mode! I’m expecting several invitations any day now – we’ve received save the dates for three weddings in the course of six weeks for this summer. Yeesh.
Post # 10
Growing up i didn’t have good Christmases or thanksgiving. New years consisted of staying up and hearing gun shots which it still does at time. Valentines day well i am looking forward to that next year because this will be the second year i miss it and all other holidays with my Fiance since he has been gone each time. I tey to do the whole Christmas thing for my daughter but working the night shift sucks. I come home wake her up say lets open gifts and then it’s like oh i have to go to bed now for work. I am not big on them for many reasons so i feel ya
Post # 11
I always hated this time of year too. Our anniversary is Halloween, then Christmas, New Years, valentines and then my birthday a couple weeks later. It ALWAYS sucked, I dreaded all forms of social media.
I finally (after 8.5 years together) got my ering for my birthday. It will happen 🙂
Post # 12
- Wedding: July 2016 - Long Island, NY
Birthday twins! I’m September 20 as well. 🙂
Post # 13
Guys — My BIRTHDAY is New Year’s Eve. Do you know how much it sucks to see the wave of folks getting engaged on NYE (my birthday?!) Double whammy!
I wouldn’t mind a V-Day proposal; I used to think that was tacky but now I’d totally be into it now that I’m WAITING!!!
Post # 14
I hear ya..
Everyone says my Bf is going to propose the day before Valentine’s day. Because it is our 6 yr dating anniversary…our first date was Friday the 13th on February of 2009 and since this year falls on the same datethis friday, we’re going back to the same resturaunt. Then he is taking me to another resturaunt Saturday where his family is going to be too. So.. idk, I hate when ppl try to get my hopes up and put things in my head. I don’t want to feel disappointed if nothing comes from it, ya know?