(Closed) I hate this time of year.

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 16
260 posts
Helper bee

you will be okay. i too did not have high hopes for the holidays , too cliche. i knew the fi was going to propose but i said please make it a random day nothing holidayish. so he made it on a thursdy in the middle of nov last year. anyway the holidays have passed with just valentines left. heres to hoping u will get a little random surprise !

Post # 17
2968 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Honestly before I started waiting I never wanted to have to share my anniversary with holidays, plus that time of the year is so overwhelming to begin with.

Once you are waiting (especially those of us that waited a long time) you don’t care when its going to happen as long as it does. Even if you don’t necessarily WANT a holiday proposal it doesn’t make it easier to see other people around you celebrating their engagements when you are waiting for one, so I totally get it. Hang in there!

Post # 18
5778 posts
Bee Keeper

Though of course I’ll be happy with any date SO chooses, I kind of have it in my head that I’d like a spring or fall proposal. Perhaps @ Easter or a few dates that are special only to us. I do think I’d prefer a Christmas proposal over a Valentine proposal. We celebrate Valentine’s Day pretty low key, it’s not one of the ‘bigger deal’ holidays to me, whether I’ve been single or in a relationship.

What does admittedly get to me about these NYE/ Valentine’s Day expectations is the knowledge that even though I’m truly not expecting a V-Day proposal & am fine with this, others are always curious/ nosy over who did or didn’t get engaged on these ‘engagement season’ dates- and some are insensitive enough to make comments like “you’re still not engaged? I thought for sure he’d pop the question on [insert most current occasion]”  I shouldn’t let this bother me but it does.

Post # 19
11 posts

After Christmas break when i went back to work so many ladies were checking out my finger.  The least tactful lady just loudly demanded to know “so are you engaged? ” ugh, nope.  But thanks for checking lol.

Post # 20
196 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: Victoria Wedding Chapel

Oh man, we’ve got our anniversary in October, his birthday in early November, Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years, Valentines. We get a break after that until my birthday in June. It’s exhausting. I’m not epecting a proposal on a holiday, not that I wouldn’t take one 😉 , I just can’t see him doing it then. It’s still a very emotional, tiring time of year. Not to mention expensive…

Post # 21
138 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

It might happen after the holidays! After waiting for a few excruciating months (during which my dad got diagnosed and went through cancer treatment), I got engaged on February 22nd of last year! My husband said he refused to do a Valentines proposal. 

Post # 22
40 posts
  • Wedding: February 2016

I was also hoping that it would not happen on a holiday. Too cliche. I was curious this year to see who would get engaged over the holidays – at least 3 that I saw. My FB feed is full of newborns right now, so I get that to think about, too.

The ring should arrive this week, but I doubt it will happen before Valentine’s. We only see each other on weekends, so I’m predicting Feb 21st.

Post # 23
336 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Hang in there. This time last year I was in the exact same situation you were, not knowing that my now husband had bought the ring on December 23rd and was going to propose while we were in Mexico in February. We had dated for 8.5 years before he had proposed (I’m 29, he’s 31) It WILL happen.

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adoreprep:  Same with mine, we were in Mexico over Valentine’s day but he waited till the very last day of vacation (Feb 19th) to do it so I wasn’t expecting it. After 8.5 years, you want and expect it LOL

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