"I hate to be the one to tell you, but you're never going to get married."

posted 1 month ago in 30 Something
Post # 61
2288 posts
Buzzing bee

snailsforbreakfast :   Your friend is a bitch. Drop her.

I got married at 41. I don’t have the best of everything because it doesnt interest me. She sounds materialistic, and if thats how she wants to roll great.  She choose her path now it is time to choose yours.

Besides just because things look great on the outside doesnt mean they are. None of us really knows what happens behind closed doors. her husband could be a verbally abusive person. her kids could be terrors. Who knows?


But I’d drop her ass. 

Post # 62
163 posts
Blushing bee

I would tell her “I hate to be the one to tell you this, but you’re an asshole.”. But I’m sure you wouldn’t be the first one to tell her that. 



Post # 63
639 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I mean…ew!!! She is no a way a friend and she doesn’t deserve your friendship. She’s just a b**ch with a nasty soul! Cut her off completely!!

Post # 64
408 posts
Helper bee

snailsforbreakfast :  that’s not a fren, sounds like frenmy!!! First step is to let her go. Next, I know plenty successful ladies in 30s and 40s looking for their prince, 30 is still young u still can find ur prince 🙂 I met mine when I was 32. And yes life can change so fast. Keep thinking positive, this difficult time will pass. I ve been there done that n I thought it will never be daylight but I was wrong. Life will turn around soon 🙂

Post # 65
2852 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

snailsforbreakfast :  I hope in the last 2 weeks you have told that lady to go fuck herself. I was a late bloomer. At 36 things are looking pretty amazing. Got married at the ANCIENT age of 35, got an epic promotion, buying a house soon. Things are looking pretty great…even if your friend thinks they are about to roll me into the nursing home 🤣 What a bitch. Sending you love and hugs, Bee. 

Post # 66
13 posts

Looks like most everyone has said what needs to be said – you’re not old, and your “friend” is a bitch. I was single again at 33 after a long term relationship/marriage, and met my SO shortly after – and he was 48. Age is just a number!

Post # 67
717 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2017 - historical mansion

OMG I can’t believe your friend said those things to you!! How horrible! Step 1: cut her out of your life. 

As for stories, I broke up with a long-term BF with whom things were going nowhere when I was 34. Then I met my now-husband 2.5 months later, on Tinder of all places. Plenty of people meet their future spouse when they are in their 30s, especially in this day and age. I hardly know anyone who got married in their 20s. Good luck!!!

Post # 68
63 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2019

Do you think maybe she’s jealous? Think about it you live alone you live alone you have all the freedom in the world meanwhile she’s stuck with kids and a husband and she’s probably very resentful of them. My cousin has 4 Kids and she’s envious of me because I’m not married and have no children. I don’t want children but I want to get married eventually so I’m taking time for myself and went back to college. Once I get done with college I plan on moving Arizona. Meanwhile my cousin is stuck in Michigan. All 3 of my married cousins are more obsessed with my love life than I am lol.

Post # 69
737 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

snailsforbreakfast :  Your friend is so toxic she makes my past ‘toxic friends’ look like decent people! 

There’s been so much good advice from PPs already but just wanted to say please don’t panic. It’s amazing to go back to school and move on from unfulfilling jobs/relationships.

Her comments are cruel. Nice normal people don’t think like that, let alone talk like that. She says by 30? But has she really got her shit together despite all the smugness? I doubt it….


Post # 70
487 posts
Helper bee

Your “friend” sounds like an entitled, stuck-up piece of sh**.  Let me guess, she’s probably one of those people who’s had everything handed to her entire life and instead of being humble, she sits there and passes judgment on others.  Word of encouragement: I’m 36 and I just got married.  Also, I just went back to school for another degree because I am changing my career yet again.  You have to do what makes you happy.  There’s no timeline on when certain things should happen in anyone’s life.  Life is different for everyone.  Your friend is probably secretly miserable on the inside and the only way she knows how to deal with it is to pass judgment on others.  Please ditch this person immediately.  She is toxic and you are so much better than that. 

Post # 71
205 posts
Helper bee

Girl, I’m 31 and I have a pile of student debt looking at me too. Guess what? The majority of the country has student debt staring at them.

Let me tell you something I’ve learned. Your friend isn’t that rich. You know why? Real rich people don’t act like a snobby like that. She is trying to portray and imagine she wants to be to you. A man I know, who is very well off, is one of the nicest/kindest person I’ve ever known. He owns his own business, has a beautiful home in a well to do area, and he would NEVER speak to someone like that. Tell this lady to smell a fart and never talk to her again. It does you no good to be “friends” with someone like her. She will continue to put you down.

You do you, hun. She’s just jelly cos she has a lame ass job and hubby when you get to do what you want and are passionate about what you do. You will find someone some day. We both will. It doesn’t matter when. You’ll know what you want and you’ll end up with a better relationship because of it.

Post # 72
837 posts
Busy bee

Blugh! What a horrific person. I know you say that she’s not jealous, and she may not envy your life specifically, but people that are truly happy don’t have the kind of viciousness required to rip apart other people like that for no reason.

When people are dicks like this I just remind myself that they have to deal with that vile negativity ALL the time, whereas I only have to deal with it when I interact with them (which I then avoid as much as possible)

Post # 73
2 posts

What kind of crazy lady is this?? My mother always told me that girls were mean to me because they were jealous. She’s projecting her own “failures” whatever they may be, on you. She wants to cover up the fact that she’s unhappy in some way by presenting heself as this successful woman, and trying to put you down to feel better. Needless to say, you don’t need that kind of negativity in your life. 

Post # 74
29 posts
  • Wedding: March 2018

Your friend is an idiot, and not a friend at all. Set her free. 

Post # 75
35 posts

You can tell your “friend” to go f*** herself because clearly she’s not getting it from her man. Probably difficult what with the huge stick up her a**. 

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