- 6 years ago
- Wedding: November 2019 - Canada
I am so sorry you are going through this. *HUG* Only you know what is best for you. If you are having doubts take heed to them and seriously ask yourself why that is. People don’t change, for the most part. What you see is what you get. Feel free to PM me. I am having a tough time with my own Fiance and my doubts as well.
@sweetandconfused: I am so sorry, but my gosh this man sounds soooo not ready for marriage. Loving you in “his way” just means loving you in the ways that personally benefit HIM, and make HIM happy.
He is showing you that he isn’t willing to sacrifice at all, even for three stinking minutes, on the biggest day of your life. He has already said that he doesn’t believe in the worse part of for better or worse. Listen to him!
Unless he is willing to go to some serious counseling and make big changes very fast, I would at the least postpone. You are walking into a disaster of a marriage if you go forward with nothing changing first.
Sounds like he’s already broached the subject of breaking it off. I’d recommed striking while the iron is cold; not breaking the news when you’re in a foul mood or fighting about something. Have a rational plan for what you want to do afterward (I don’t know if you guys live together or have any joint property, finances, kids, pets). And then just dive in. There’s no good way to break off an engagement, but having the courage to know yourself and do what you need to do will feel like a huge relief.
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