(Closed) I HATE wedding planning!!!

posted 7 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Um…make money? Seriously–ebay, garage sales…lots of couples have made a pretty penny just selling their old junk.

But since you have no decor, there are seriously a lot of DIY projects that you can make out of…junk mail. You don’t have the same control over color-matching and stuff, but FWIW:

Really cool big hanging flowers out of catalogues: http://www.inhabitots.com/2008/12/15/diy-flower-garland-tutorial/

All sorts of cool things for security envelopes with the cool blue patterning: http://www.i-do-it-yourself.com/2009/05/security-envelopes-oh-the-possibilities-2/; http://www.i-do-it-yourself.com/2009/05/security-envelopes-oh-the-possibilities-1/

Cupcake liner garlands: http://artisancakecompany.com/2010/01/cupcake-decor-to-the-max/

And then a bunch of stuff you can do with any sort of paper–even plain white copy paper looks awesome if you make it into a bunch of hanging origami cranes. Christmas lights are also mighty useful, so if you have those on hand, try thinking of ways that you might be able to use them in your space.

Hope that helps…

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2011

@bride21: If I were you I would seriously consider the possibility of eloping or heading down to the courthouse. It doesn’t seem like you really care for the entire wedding planning process anyway, and it would probably be more rewarding to take the money you will be receiving after taxes and put it towards something (s) special for the baby. You can still wear your dress, still have your Maid/Matron of Honor there to witness the marriage and all of the stress and anxiety you’re experiencing now will be alleviated. At the end of the day, you will still be just as married and you won’t look back on it and think about how incredibly rushed and stressed out those last few weeks were. Just my thoughts.. 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

@bride21: Boo. Well phooey. Sorry!

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Well, honestly, if your Fiance is super picky and shoots down a lot of those easier,cheaper,DIY options, you may need to sit down with him & have a serious discussion about the wedding.  Discuss how you’re not going to have a whole lot of extra money because of the baby, so more expensive, fancier things aren’t an option.  Let him know that all of this is important to you, too, but that you guys have to be realistic, and that being picky just isn’t an option when you get to a certain point!  Not saying go ahead & decorate with all kinds of things he doesn’t like… but maybe show him some of the pictures of how cute these things can turn out, and just explain that your guys’ options are pretty limited if you want to be able to continue to support the baby & be able to buy things for him while still having a “real wedding.”  He may not realize how expensive a lot of decorations are, so maybe just sitting down with him & talking through all of it may help him keep an open mind?

You said “His family is really looking forward to a wedding”… Well, since they really want this, are they willing to pitch in at all?  It sounds like you’ve gotten a lot of things for cheap, but maybe they could buy some of the decorations? You could try to find some inexpensive options (ie something with candles & some flower petals scattered around is going to be way cheaper than flower arrangements on each table) & show them to his family & see what they think about pitching in for those? 

Check Craigslist & Ebay for cheap things, too.. or you could create a craigslist “wanted” post asking for certain items for cheap or if people are looking to donate/get rid of those things.  You can find all kinds of things on Craigslist!

As for food.. where are you doing the reception? Are you doing it at the church in another room/part of the church? Do you have any Knights of Columbus Halls or something similar to that near you? They’ll let you bring your own food in.. You could recruit multiple family members to help you cook different dishes & have it be a buffet style.  

Just some thoughts!

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Wow, so sorry to hear that about in the laws.. sounds like they’re having a pretty rough go of it πŸ™  Completely understand why they’re not able to pitch in.

If the reception is anything like the one reception I went to that was just in another room in the church, it was pretty low key (but still nice, of course!).. I think you could easily dress up the tables a bit by scattering something like rose petals on the tables along with some little tea light candles maybe? Or even just the rose petals themselves without the candles would work, too, I’m sure! As for them being in your colors.. you could try to buy white rose petals and dye them or spray paint them light blue.  If you google spray painting flowers all kinds of tutorials will come up.  You may want to check out http://www.save-on-crafts.com  They have items on there that are sometimes much cheaper than retail.  If you’re wanting to use candles, you could probably find them at the $1 store.  I think the spray painting of the petals, if you’re wanting to go that route, probably wouldn’t take you too long since you could probably spray paint a bunch at once (granted I’ve never done this, so I can’t speak from experience, but that’d be my guess) so that would be feasible to do in the weeks leading up to your wedding after you get the tax refund.

You could maybe post another thread to see if anyone has experience with spraypainting florals & get their take on it!

This is a cute site that may be helpful with ideas for how to do things on a small budget: http://2000dollarwedding.com/

Good luck!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

What if you guys did a legal marriage at the courthouse and then waited another year or so for your “big” wedding? Your parents could all come to the courthouse with you and you guys could still wear your dress and have your Maid/Matron of Honor wear hers like what @MDS suggested. That way, your marriage would be official and it would give you two some more time to save up money for your dream wedding/honeymoon if you guys still feel that its something you still want to do πŸ™‚

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper

@bride21:

I thought I answered this post earlier, but maybe it didn’t submit.  If I did answer and I just don’t see it now, please forgive me.  It sounds like you are actually pretty organized.  I think that if you make a prioritized list of what you will need when the money comes in that you should be okay.  You already have your invitations, your dress (needs to get it cleaned), it looks like you have family members to help out with cake, photography, food. You have the where, when, and who will marry you. It looks like you will need wedding rings, clothes for the men and your son, decor,  gifts for the Maid/Matron of Honor, Best Man? Is there some family member or friend you can borrow shoes, jewelry, a veil? and slip from?  Do you need the guys to wear tuxes, suits or can they wear a new shirt/tie? khakis or something else they already own?  Do you have an ipod? or know someone you can borrow one from to do music? You could choose your music now, and also if you are writing your own vows you could do that now too.  Those don’t cost $ and take considerable time to do.  If you are DIY crafty-perhaps you could make gifts for the Maid/Matron of Honor and Best Man. Maybe you’d like to get a photo frame for each and give them a photo after your wedding. If the food is too much $, would you do a champagne, punch and cake reception. Or just serve the pasta, breadsticks, and a large salad, and have cake and punch.  Don’t rule out the Dollar store or thriftstores. In fact, you may find silver and blue ribbons and things at the Dollartree around Christmas and Hannukah-hopefully without specific designs.  Also, your friends and family probably have things like Christmas lights and other that you could borrow for decor.  Feel free to PM me if you want to.  πŸ™‚

 

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper

Bride 21:

When $ comes in:

1 Order men’s clothing?

2 Clean gown get alterations @ a local trusted neighborhood drycleaner

3 Buy rings

4 Silk Flower bouquets

5 Food

6 Wedding Party gifts and Decor-(dollartree silver wired ribbon for bows?)

Dollartree.com has light blue paper plates and napkins.  Here is something you might like to think about for centerpiece ideas-or it may give you some ideas of your own.

http://www.ehow.com/way_5332315_winter-wedding-table-decoration-ideas.html

Best Wishes πŸ™‚ 

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee

@bride21: Has your son ever stayed the night somewhere else without you? If not, you really should get him used to not seeing you before you go on your honeymoon.

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