Post # 1
Alright, so the wedding is just over 3 months away and, now that we know for sure where it will be and who will marry us, I figured it would be time to FINALLY make the rest of the plans. One big problem…WE WON’T HAVE ANY MONEY UNTIL TAXES COME IN! That will mean I can’t buy anything until RIGHT before the wedding because we usually get the money at the end of January or begining of February. I have my dress, my MOH’s dress, and…that’s it! We got the invitations for free over a year ago, the cake is being made for cost, my dress was only $100 (though it needs to be cleaned still), the MOH’s dress was $10 (it still needs to be altered), we are doing fake flowers from Hobby Lobby, I’m picking cheap shoes, the venue/pastor is free, we don’t have any tuxs booked, we don’t know what we will do for food, we know what we want to do for the honeymoon but can’t book it right now, the decorations ARE, so far, NONEXISTANT, and I have no money until a week or two before the wedding! I’m stressing out and I have no way to get things under control. I have found cheap or free ways for a lot of the expensive things, the cake, photography, hair/makeup, gown, Maid/Matron of Honor dress, etc but I still can’t pay for things until right before the wedding. I don’t know how I’m going to get everything else done when we have no money.
Before anyone says “Why don’t you push it back a little?” here’s why…if we wait any longer then we won’t have the money anymore because we will want to go shopping for the baby. That’s where all the extra tax money is going and we won’t be able to wait to get him lots of nice things because so far we haven’t bought him anything. NOT A SINGLE THING! We can’t afford it so everything we have for him has been given to us and now we have to start buying diapers. Plus, one of the things we want to do on the honeymoon won’t be available after the honeymoon is over.
Any ideas on how to get everything done with no money? I would love some ideas please!
Post # 3
Um…make money? Seriously–ebay, garage sales…lots of couples have made a pretty penny just selling their old junk.
But since you have no decor, there are seriously a lot of DIY projects that you can make out of…junk mail. You don’t have the same control over color-matching and stuff, but FWIW:
Really cool big hanging flowers out of catalogues: http://www.inhabitots.com/2008/12/15/diy-flower-garland-tutorial/
All sorts of cool things for security envelopes with the cool blue patterning: http://www.i-do-it-yourself.com/2009/05/security-envelopes-oh-the-possibilities-2/; http://www.i-do-it-yourself.com/2009/05/security-envelopes-oh-the-possibilities-1/
Cupcake liner garlands: http://artisancakecompany.com/2010/01/cupcake-decor-to-the-max/
And then a bunch of stuff you can do with any sort of paper–even plain white copy paper looks awesome if you make it into a bunch of hanging origami cranes. Christmas lights are also mighty useful, so if you have those on hand, try thinking of ways that you might be able to use them in your space.
Hope that helps…
Post # 4
@bride21: If I were you I would seriously consider the possibility of eloping or heading down to the courthouse. It doesn’t seem like you really care for the entire wedding planning process anyway, and it would probably be more rewarding to take the money you will be receiving after taxes and put it towards something (s) special for the baby. You can still wear your dress, still have your Maid/Matron of Honor there to witness the marriage and all of the stress and anxiety you’re experiencing now will be alleviated. At the end of the day, you will still be just as married and you won’t look back on it and think about how incredibly rushed and stressed out those last few weeks were. Just my thoughts..
Post # 5
I like the roses from envilopes but it doesn’t say how to make them. 🙁 I may also be able to do the Christmas lights if I can find ours. I think that’s about all I’d ba able to use because my Fiance is pretty picky about how things look and I doubt he’d like some of those other things being at the wedding. lol. It’s funny how picky he really is!
@mds0927 His family is really looking forward to a wedding and I always wanted an actual wedding and my Fiance is actually looking forward to a real ceremony. I don’t want to disapoint anyone so it needs to be an actual wedding
Post # 6
@bride21: Boo. Well phooey. Sorry!
Post # 7
Well, honestly, if your Fiance is super picky and shoots down a lot of those easier,cheaper,DIY options, you may need to sit down with him & have a serious discussion about the wedding. Discuss how you’re not going to have a whole lot of extra money because of the baby, so more expensive, fancier things aren’t an option. Let him know that all of this is important to you, too, but that you guys have to be realistic, and that being picky just isn’t an option when you get to a certain point! Not saying go ahead & decorate with all kinds of things he doesn’t like… but maybe show him some of the pictures of how cute these things can turn out, and just explain that your guys’ options are pretty limited if you want to be able to continue to support the baby & be able to buy things for him while still having a “real wedding.” He may not realize how expensive a lot of decorations are, so maybe just sitting down with him & talking through all of it may help him keep an open mind?
You said “His family is really looking forward to a wedding”… Well, since they really want this, are they willing to pitch in at all? It sounds like you’ve gotten a lot of things for cheap, but maybe they could buy some of the decorations? You could try to find some inexpensive options (ie something with candles & some flower petals scattered around is going to be way cheaper than flower arrangements on each table) & show them to his family & see what they think about pitching in for those?
Check Craigslist & Ebay for cheap things, too.. or you could create a craigslist “wanted” post asking for certain items for cheap or if people are looking to donate/get rid of those things. You can find all kinds of things on Craigslist!
As for food.. where are you doing the reception? Are you doing it at the church in another room/part of the church? Do you have any Knights of Columbus Halls or something similar to that near you? They’ll let you bring your own food in.. You could recruit multiple family members to help you cook different dishes & have it be a buffet style.
Just some thoughts!
Post # 8
Most of his family has little to no money right now. His brother is the only one bringing in money because his wife is still on leave from having their second child, his sister is out of a job and her husband is working but not getting paid, his mom has NEVER had a job and his step-dad just got laid-off, his dad is currently moving and trying to sell his house because he needs money…they can’t really help unfortunatly. My family hates him so thy don’t want to have anything to do with it.
We are having the reception in the building next to the church, which they also own. I’m going to see if his dad can make some of his home-made chicken and dumplings and maybe get my dad to make pasta with his home-made sauce(the recepie has been passed down from our sicilian side of the family) and maybe his sister-in-law can help with some of the food too. She LOVES to cook but she is also a photographer and is doing our pictures really cheap so I don’t want to ask too much of her.
I keep looking on CL but that stuff I’d need money for now and I don’t have much I can spend after our bills and diapers…most of the stuff won’t go with our colors anyway. We are doing light blue and silver and almost everything is for a summer or fall setting. I like the flower pettals idea if I can find them in our colors. I’m pretty sure Hobby Lobby will have some.
Thanks for the ideas! I’m sure some of them at least will help.
Post # 9
Wow, so sorry to hear that about in the laws.. sounds like they’re having a pretty rough go of it 🙁 Completely understand why they’re not able to pitch in.
If the reception is anything like the one reception I went to that was just in another room in the church, it was pretty low key (but still nice, of course!).. I think you could easily dress up the tables a bit by scattering something like rose petals on the tables along with some little tea light candles maybe? Or even just the rose petals themselves without the candles would work, too, I’m sure! As for them being in your colors.. you could try to buy white rose petals and dye them or spray paint them light blue. If you google spray painting flowers all kinds of tutorials will come up. You may want to check out http://www.save-on-crafts.com They have items on there that are sometimes much cheaper than retail. If you’re wanting to use candles, you could probably find them at the $1 store. I think the spray painting of the petals, if you’re wanting to go that route, probably wouldn’t take you too long since you could probably spray paint a bunch at once (granted I’ve never done this, so I can’t speak from experience, but that’d be my guess) so that would be feasible to do in the weeks leading up to your wedding after you get the tax refund.
You could maybe post another thread to see if anyone has experience with spraypainting florals & get their take on it!
This is a cute site that may be helpful with ideas for how to do things on a small budget: http://2000dollarwedding.com/
Post # 10
I really like that first site but I’m going to have to talk to my Fiance about EVERYTHING on there before he will let me buy stuff. He doesn’t like buying online unless it’s a really good deal. I don’t think I’ll use candles because there are a lot of younger kids in the family and I don’t want them knocking them over or burning themselves when the parents aren’t looking. I know how sneaky kids can be! I might see about those fake candles though…if I can find some that are actually cool instead of tacky looking, or put them under light blue vases so they glow or something without being dangerous around the kids. My baby will be 8 months old for the wedding. I think the oldest, that isn’t a teenager, will be three and the youngest will be 5 months with random ages between.
Post # 11
What if you guys did a legal marriage at the courthouse and then waited another year or so for your “big” wedding? Your parents could all come to the courthouse with you and you guys could still wear your dress and have your Maid/Matron of Honor wear hers like what @MDS suggested. That way, your marriage would be official and it would give you two some more time to save up money for your dream wedding/honeymoon if you guys still feel that its something you still want to do 🙂
Post # 12
@indyJEEP: If we waited a year from the day we want our baby will be almost 2. We feel bad enough about leaving him for a honeymoon when he will be only 8 months old but when he will be nearly 2…I don’t think we could do it. My Fiance and I were always quiet around other people when we were young and our son is the same way already. He will try to talk our ears off when it’s just us and him but if someone else is around…nothing. He won’t make a sound. I’d rather do it when he’s younger and the person we have watch him will know when he needs to be feed and changed rather than when we try to start potty-training and feeding him real food. He will be too shy to say he has to go potty or that he’s hungry. The younger he is when we do it the better off he will be for the honeymoon.
Post # 13
I thought I answered this post earlier, but maybe it didn’t submit. If I did answer and I just don’t see it now, please forgive me. It sounds like you are actually pretty organized. I think that if you make a prioritized list of what you will need when the money comes in that you should be okay. You already have your invitations, your dress (needs to get it cleaned), it looks like you have family members to help out with cake, photography, food. You have the where, when, and who will marry you. It looks like you will need wedding rings, clothes for the men and your son, decor, gifts for the Maid/Matron of Honor, Best Man? Is there some family member or friend you can borrow shoes, jewelry, a veil? and slip from? Do you need the guys to wear tuxes, suits or can they wear a new shirt/tie? khakis or something else they already own? Do you have an ipod? or know someone you can borrow one from to do music? You could choose your music now, and also if you are writing your own vows you could do that now too. Those don’t cost $ and take considerable time to do. If you are DIY crafty-perhaps you could make gifts for the Maid/Matron of Honor and Best Man. Maybe you’d like to get a photo frame for each and give them a photo after your wedding. If the food is too much $, would you do a champagne, punch and cake reception. Or just serve the pasta, breadsticks, and a large salad, and have cake and punch. Don’t rule out the Dollar store or thriftstores. In fact, you may find silver and blue ribbons and things at the Dollartree around Christmas and Hannukah-hopefully without specific designs. Also, your friends and family probably have things like Christmas lights and other that you could borrow for decor. Feel free to PM me if you want to. 🙂
Post # 14
When $ comes in:
1 Order men’s clothing?
2 Clean gown get alterations @ a local trusted neighborhood drycleaner
3 Buy rings
4 Silk Flower bouquets
6 Wedding Party gifts and Decor-(dollartree silver wired ribbon for bows?)
Dollartree.com has light blue paper plates and napkins. Here is something you might like to think about for centerpiece ideas-or it may give you some ideas of your own.
Best Wishes 🙂
Post # 15
@bride21: Has your son ever stayed the night somewhere else without you? If not, you really should get him used to not seeing you before you go on your honeymoon.
Post # 16
@creativeplannertobee: I guess I forgot to mention that we have had our rings for awhile. We got mine really cheap when we first got engaged and I found his on the ground somewhere with no lost-and-found so there was no way to find the owner (it was at a busy park and the ring isn’t real or we would have posted flyers) so those are taken care of until we get him a real ring in a couple years. We have a best-man but we are thinking of having a second person on either side, not sure yet. Not many dry-cleaners in my area do wedding dresses because of all the detail…I think there is only 1 in town and I’m not sure how much they charge. I do like that website and I think they had some good stuff on there. I may do that! I may not go with a veil if I can’t afford it because I don’t know anyone that still has theirs that would go with my dress and my feet are a lot smaller than everyone elses and his are a lot bigger so I don’t think we could find any shoes to fit. We wanted to do tuxedos but we would need to book them ASAP and the Best Man is a bigger guy so we would need a plus sized tux which costs extra at most, if not all, places. You do have some really good ideas though!
@Belle2Be: He has never stayed the night with anyone. He hasn’t been with anyone when neither of us was around since he was about 2 months old. My Fiance doesn’t have a job right now so he watches the baby while I’m at work and I take care of him the rest of the time.He cries when someone he doesn’t know picks him up. 🙁