(Closed) I hate wedding planning

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I sat here and read your whole post and realized, Im not the only one feeling completely overwhelmed and feeling all alone is my feelings. Wedding planning is very very stressful. Im getting Married next month and Im in panic mode because I know we wont have 250 people to fill our contracted seats. Any chair left empty is still coming out of my fathers pocket and it bothers me. I too struggle with depression and have gone to doctors for it. The best thing to do it to make everything as EASY as possible. Doing your flowers will only add more stress and anxiety to you. Dont put that weight on yourself. You shouldnt have to worry about anything. Let people take care of that even though you may think its overly expensive realize that it will help me enjoy your day that much more knowing everything will be done. Good luck with everything. Take a day to yourself where you dont think  or talk about wedding planning. It has helped me alot.  

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

::HUG:: I honestly can relate to a lot of what you said about hating the planning and hating the amount of money being spent, but worrying you will regret it if you don’t go through with the wedding. I’d say this though, whether you go to the court house or have a traditional wedding you are no less married either way!

What if you looked into smaller less “hall-ish” venues in your new area? Like theaters, funky restaurants, bed & breakfasts etc. My fiance and I are most likely going with a 300 year old Victorian bed & breakfast and keeping things much smaller scale. 

In terms of feeling depressed about your dress & ears, he’s going to think you’re beautiful regardless, and everyone in attendance who loves you will feel that way too. Not to mention at the end of the day you will be his wife so in my opinion you’re winning!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Awww I’m sorry you are feeling down.  I definitely know how you feel.  Everyone seems to have an opinion when it comes to weddings.  I would suggest you only discuss the details with people who you know will be supportive.  Good luck!

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I totally hear where you’re coming from. It’s a lot of work to plan a wedding and when everyone’s throwing in their opinion it can get rough. One of my bridesmaids asked what color I was having and I said purple and she goes “I started to think to myself ‘Who does PURPLE?’ then I remembered, oh yeah, I did!” but knowing her first thought was an insult really sucked… that’s why I’m keeping most of the details to myself from now on! No one can judge me and I can go on my merry little way and know it will all come together in the end. 

As far as battling your own demons regarding how you look/feel, I think we all go through that to different extents. You are going to be the most beautiful woman in the room. Your FH already loves you, and your ears, and doesn’t care how you wear your hair. Keep your chin up girly, I hope things get better for you!!!

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I’m a big advocate for eloping if wedding planning puts you in that deep of a depression. Everyone will get over themselves eventually. Do what is right for you and your Fiance.

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I’m sorry you’re feeling this way.  🙁  I was all into wedding planning for about two days after I got engaged.  Then I decided that we’re eloping.  I can already tell planning a wedding (on a budget) will stress me out.  So I said forget it. 

 

As for your hair, what about an updo that would keep your ears covered?  Like this:

http://sunshineandpearls.tumblr.com/post/28637623179

 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I can relate with hating wedding planning.  I can’t justify the cost for a one day event. and then, to add, i was upset that with how much i was spending I wasn’t really getting the wedding I wanted.  I hate the idea of a hotel/golf course wedding. and thats what we’re looking at.  I’m taking some time to make decisions on my own. any time people ask me how planning is coming along i tell them i’d rather not talk about it. its easier – because then I dont have to hear their opinions and then i doubt myself.  we’ve even decided to take our parents out of the financial part. so, we are going to pay for the whole thing ourselves.  this way we can plan it how we want without them adding to the guest list or feeling like they have a say in the details.  good luck – just remember, at the end of the day its a party not a performance. if you are married, then it went perfectly. 

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I’m an older bride, so I wanted a different wedding than the typical hall all of my friends had. I started pricing tents receptions thinking it would be less money. Yeah right! It’s about $3,500 for the tent and table/chairs. That includes nothing else!

So now I’m going a different route – destination wedding on the beach. They have packages that include photos and video, cake and champagne for less than the cost of a tent rental. I’m inviting family only.

Then next summer we’ll host a causal bbq for our friends. If it rains we’ll move the date. No tent needed.

Is this something you’d want? Your parents would get a nice vacation out of your wedding too, maybe you wouldn’t feel so guilty.

I also think the cupcake idea is great. I saw a photo of a small cake with cupcakes surrounding it, that could be an option for you. And all flowers are pretty, don’t cave in to peer pressure!

It’s YOUR day ~

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