Post # 1
I really just despise it. My Fiance won’t elope. I’m not an event planner. And he wants to keep things inexpensive, wants it close to family, etc, but he’s not doing much to help. I’m ready to pull my hair out. He keeps saying it’s whatever I want, but that’s clearly not true. I never thought I would hate planning so much. I just want to cry.
Post # 2
He needs to step up if you are this stressed out. I totally understand how you feel, trust me. I hated wedding planning too. By the tone of this though, your fiance’s reaction is almost causing resentment which isn’t ok. I would talk to him and give him a few tasks to do…maybe that means calling DJs or researching photographers or something. If you give him a few tasks at a time and he realizes how important this is hopefully you won’t have this issue anymore.
Post # 3
- Wedding: April 2017 - City, State
He needs to do some leg work here. He wants the wedding. You do not. As you said, what you want is not an option, so he needs to jump in and do his part. If he doesn’t, I would stop planning until he gets on board. It’s not fair that you are doing the bulk of the work for an event you aren’t all that thrilled about (not the marriage part, just the wedding itself).
Post # 4
If he doesn’t want to elope- and you don’t want to plan- than it’s on him to step up.
So I wouldn’t honestly DO ANYTHING. Don’t let him make you do all the work on something you don’t want.
Stop planning until he steps up.
Post # 5
Make it a elopement then. Have the ceremony at a beach to a park and don’t do anything formal. Just say if you want to come come. Then have the reception in a house or backyar, or even a park. Save the trouble. You shouldn’t hate life.
Post # 6
Ugh I can totally sympathize, except in my situation I’m the one who wants the small wedding, my fiance wants to invite everyone. And he won’t help me plan. The only thing he has asked about is when he can ask his groomsmen and the bachelor party.
I would just flat out talk to him. I haven’t enjoyed wedding planning at all either, and I finally spoke to my fiance about all of this last weekend. I basically told him that we are really far behind, and I feel like I can’t make decisions without him, but that he doesn’t want to do anything or help, so I’m left just feeling stuck. He agreed he would help more. So we’ll see.
I don’t understand these men who want specific things and yet don’t want to do anything! Ugh! LOL
Post # 7
Thank you all so much for your responses. I talked with my Fiance some more and I think we are making some progress. He seems more open to helping in more concrete ways. I think his intentions were good, and that he wanted to make sure I wouldn’t be disappointed, other people wouldn’t be hurt, etc. I feel a lot better. Hopefully, this will become fun soon. I’m hoping getting venues booked will help lower the stress level at least a little.
Post # 8
- Wedding: Rocky Mountains-May 2017
Ya’ll need to find somewhere to compromise. Luckily for me my Fiance is on board for an close friends/family only type elopement, so we’re gonna get married somewhere in Colorado and invite a few family members and only our closest friends. We’ll have a big party/reception when we get back though for everyone else.
Post # 9
Can you hire a wedding coordinator? I didn’t enjoy wedding planning and hate planning parties. I had no idea what i was doing when I was planning the wedding. I owe a huge thank you to the caterer’s coordinator because although she wasn’t my official wedding coordinator, she helped me so much just my answering questions. It took a lot of pressure off of me!