(Closed) I hate weddings (some swearing)

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1043 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

You have every right to be fucking annoyed.  I love the F word.  And I hate to hear that your families are turning wedding planning into a nightmare.  🙁  I wish I had some advice for you.  In the meantime, feel free to keep swearing, I know it helps me to vent the shit out of things.  😉

Post # 4
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2607 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

If invitations haven’t gone out, scrap the guest list, scrap the plans, and redo things the way YOU (and FI) want them done…a small, intimate wedding.

Post # 5
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2009 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Wankers!!!

Post # 6
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1975 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

yep agree with Miss Apricot. what hasnt been done scrap andreplan

Post # 8
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9917 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Would you feel okay with not inviting secon and third cousins?  Are you inviting anyone you haven’t seen in over a year?

Post # 10
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2607 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Destination wedding?  Travel expense alone might help trim down the guestlist, without people being hurt they weren’t invited.  

Post # 11
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2523 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

This is why I want to elope. x.x

I hope things get better for you soon. 🙁

Post # 13
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2607 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Wow!  That’s tough!  Um…courthouse wedding with only parents and grandparents the day before you leave for your destination “wedding” (vow renewal) with all family and friends invited and a webcam so grandma can watch from the comfort of her home?  LOL!

ETA: I LOVE wedding, loved planning mine, wish I could do it all over again (to the same man, of course!), but yeah…yours sounds like a nightmare to plan!

Post # 14
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862 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@LadyElva:  If it’s of any consolation, my mother did the exact same thing to me.  I wanted a small family-only wedding and my parents were told this, but then they wanted to invite all these extra people who I specifically told them MULTIPLE TIMES that I did NOT want to invite because I barely even knew them.  Later on, my mother tried to convince me that this big wedding (close to 150 people) was all MY idea, and when I told her that NONE of this was MY idea because I only wanted a SMALL private wedding with only our family there, she got on with this BS about how I could have had a family-only wedding if that’s what I wanted.  The guests were already invited so it was a little too late to go back to what I wanted.  I actually stopped caring a while ago about who comes as long as they behave themselves, but when Mom made that comment, I really had to restrain myself from screaming at her because she knew perfectly well that there was absolutely NO truth in saying that I could have had what I wanted because she and Dad were the ones who made that impossible, and my frustration with it all just reached its peak at that moment.  She and Dad would NOT be satisfied until they got all these extra guests THEY wanted.  If I said no to inviting someone, they’d just keep bringing it up over and over again and give me no peace until I either gave in or they’d just invite the people themselves without my consent.  And yet she has the gall to tell me that I could have had the small, family-only wedding I wanted?! lol

Post # 15
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746 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

GURL, I could have written this post. Our families did the SAME thing — except they didn’t get to the “It’s your wedding, do what you want!” part until last week. And our wedding is this Saturday. Yup.

Also, we were forced to invite 160 people too! If it helps at all, our final count of “yes”es is 134.

As for the venue, can you look in unconvential spaces? We couldn’t find a venue we liked for a crowd of over 100 either, but then my mom found this awesome barn that we LOVE. Just keep looking and maybe something new will pop up!

Post # 16
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755 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

okay my initial reaction was a lot of laughter because i like that you don’t hold weddings as the end all be all. let’s face planning this shit is frustrating. and expensive. really expensive. and its about the FUCKING marriage. ahhhh that felt good.

my second reaction was *hug* i hope planning goes better for you!

 

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