- 5 years ago
- Wedding: April 2014
This is just a rant that I need to get off my chest. I’m not posting this really looking for answers or suggestions, cause I know theres only so much I can do. I just need the vent.
Me and my best friend have been friends for 10 years. She’s not the brightest crayon in the box, but thats part of her charm. But she’s very driven and has been working since she was 16.
About 4 years ago she started dating this older guy (I think he’s 37 now, she’s 24.) And he SUCKS. Since dating him, she’s lost all her drive in life. She quit her job, she lost her car, they’ve been going from house to house.
A little back story, the first time I met this guy was on her 21st birthday, and he was hitting on me. She went off to dance and I was sitting on a bench. He came over and instead of sitting on the opposite bench of me, came and sat right beside of of me, and then tried to grab my legs and sit them on his lap. I woudnt let him, and then he started telling me how pretty I was. I told him straight up that he didnt need to be talking to me like that because he had a girlfriend. I tried to tell her about it, but she said that he was just drunk and being friendly. Since I didnt know him and didnt know if that was just his personality, I brushed it off. But now everytime I see this guy, he just stares at me. Hard. Its just creepy. I’ve gotten to the point where I refuse to be around him.
But thats not all. In the 4 years that they’ve been together, he’s had a job for maybe 6 of those months. He’ll get a job and then 3 weeks later he’ll quit. They’re living at his moms house right now, and my friend is paying for ALL of their stuff. She pays for his food, she pays for his gas, she pays for his car insurance, everything! He made her sale her car for extra money, and he wont let her drive his car to work. So he takes her to work everyday and then drives around doing who knows what.
I dont think he’s abusive to her (not in the physical sense, anyways.) She’s much too feisty to put up with that, and could take him on in a heartbeat.
I’ve tried to talk to her about him, because I cant stand to see the way her life has tumbled down around her. Sometimes she agrees that she needs to leave, but then she always backs out and says that she loves him too much. A couple of weeks ago she was actually going to come here and stay for a few weeks to get away and think, but she backed out at the last moment. Everytime we talk she just sounds so dull and lifeless. Ugh.