(Closed) i hated my wedding – before, during and after.

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Blushing bee

Just be grateful you are married. You didn’t want a wedding anyway so I wouldn’t worry about it turning out the way it did. Best wishes.

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

I’m sorry your wedding was not what you wanted and your family situation is so bad. I say do it again…privately with just your very closest friends. This doesn’t have to be right away…it can be a vow renewal on your 1 year anniversary. The memories of your vows should be happy. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016 - Painswick Church and the Falcon Hotel

Aw so sorry about that! 

Post # 6
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Worker bee

I can’t believe your dad would act that way during your wedding and I am so furious and sad for you. I don’t usually say this, but I think you made the right choice to distance yourself from him.

This whole thing that everyone has about one’s wedding being the biggest and best day of your life is just a terrible thing to think because it just sets up everyone to be stressed out and disappointed. There’s always going to be elements about your wedding where you’d want a redo, but as time passes, it won’t seem as bad, and perhaps you can even learn to laugh about it later on.

Try to focus on the positives, such as the photographer and the owner of the bistro… and of course, the fact that you are now married to your husband! I agree with the person who said you can always do vow renewals.

Post # 7
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: November 2016

Try and think of it this way…who cares if the wedding wasn’t the way you wanted it because you and your husband are not sick or hurt or in the hospital right? And your family can be as terrible as they want because now you are making a new family and it will be a happy one. 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

Maybe you could redo your vows, elopement style, with no one around to mess it, up on your first anniversary. You could get one of those getaway/honeymoon packages at a hotel and have it just be about the 2 of you. That’s what you wanted in the first place right? Maybe you just need to word it right so it doesn’t make your husband panic seeing dollar signs, it’s the guests that make weddings expensive, tell him you want to “re-new your vows” on a weekend (or whatever) getaway and then plan yourself an experience of stress-free romance without having to worry about accommodating anyone but yourself and your husband. That’s my suggestion.

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

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ruxandrafanning :  I like the new idea. I’m sorry you had such a crap day. Just adding that we are brought up with so much emphasis on the wedding day, when in reality that is one day. 

It should be the other way around. The goal here is to have a good marriage, not a good wedding:-) after all, the marriage goes on.

take care of yourself and do what you need to in order to feel better, and stay focused on the fact that you love your husband and he loves you. That’s winning. 

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

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ruxandrafanning :  😀 glad I could help! Everyone deserves a positive memory of thier wedding day!

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