I hated my wedding hair!

posted 3 years ago in Beauty
Post # 16
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929 posts
Busy bee

Awe Bee…Those photographs are beautiful and capture the perfect moments of your wedding. I think we all hold ourselves to such a high standard on our wedding day that somethinng is bound to go wrong. I think you look beautiful. I also asked for beach waves and by my ceremony, my hair looked as if it would any other day, but the night went on and that was the least of my concern.

Post # 17
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942 posts
Busy bee

I’m too busy being distracted by your absolutely amazing dress to notice your hair!! That being said though, i am really sorry you’re feeling this way, and that you were treated this way on your wedding day.  Have you had contact with the hairdresser since the wedding day?  I would potentially suggest writing a review of her online so that other brides can avoid the stress and disappointment you have gone through!  I hope the feelings of disappointment pass soon!! It can be hard to let it go, but I think with time, you’ll be able to focus on the happy memories and marriage instead of the appearance of your hair.

Post # 18
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1005 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

Bianca Rodrigues :  you do have beautiful, long hair and I think it still looks very pretty in all of your pictures.

However, I have long hair as well. Everyone asked me if I was wearing my hair down on my wedding day and it was an immediate no from me. Curls fall, plain and simple. I went with an updo for this reason. I really don’t think there is much getting around this.

Post # 19
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I understand, Bee, and I’m sorry your hair wasn’t what you hoped. The hairstylist should have refunded that part of the service. But I’m glad you had a great day anyway.

Post # 20
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76 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

you still looked beautiful 🙂 i can tell the curls fell out but i dont think that it looked ugly in anyway!! This is gonna be me, because i was originally gonna have my hair up but my fiance dont want it up, he asked for it down, becuase its his favorite.. I think for a fact by the end of the night im gonna be a frizzy mess.

Post # 21
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906 posts
Busy bee

Bianca Rodrigues :  I am really sorry this happened to you bee. I’m ahppy everything else went great and you had a good time at your wedding. You still looked gorgeous, but as someone who loves hair volume and big curls, I can understand why you were upset. 

In terms of the salon, I would demand a refund. I don’t care that she is a top stylist. She wasn’t on your most important day. Hit them where it hurts, website reviews. Go on the knot, weddingwire, yelp, etc and tell everyone about your experience and how they are not taking accountability. I’m sure it will change their tone. 

Post # 22
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1128 posts
Bumble bee

Bianca Rodrigues :  I’m so sorry- I know how much a bad hair experience can ruin things.

I know this probably doesn’t help, but I think your hair actually looks really lovely and understated.  I like the waves.  They’re long and understated which is a good thing because that dress is gorgeous as are you!  Tighter curls may have been too much!

I’m still growing out chin length hair from my pixie. I also have an awful side bang that doesn’t seem to grow ever (I picked the worst time in my 20s to experience with my appearance).  

Your long dark locks make me super jealous!

Post # 23
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830 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

 I can understand your frustrations. I had to recurl my hair at least 5 times before our first look pictures (was so focused on getting it to stay that I forgot to put my veil on and never got to wear it) and it still didn’t stay. It was also crazy windy and so by the time the ceremony was over I had no curl in the front and curl in the back. It was a mess and I remember being upset on the day but I just look back at pictures and think “there’s nothing more I could have done”. I married my best friend, and I’m sure you did too. And you looked amazing, FWIW.

Post # 24
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Blushing bee

I agree with PP, your hair just looks normal, so not ugly. But I get it’s not the vision you had. Honestly, not to blame you or anything because this is the stylist’s department and should have told you, but I feel many brides just want that perfect long curly mermaid hair which can be very hard to maintain for hours on end.

If brides have naturally straight/pouffy hair during a humid day, curls are probably very risky and not the best option. Not to say that it for sure won’t work out, but it’s certainly not something I would risk when there are so many options for beautiful updos.

Post # 25
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234 posts
Helper bee

I’m on the same boat as you 🙁 My stylist put extensions in my hair and they were beautiful when curled, but unfortunately my wedding day was rainy and humid, after the ceremony my curls went flat and you could see the parts of my hair that were extensions because they were longer than my original hair! My heart sinks every time I see my wedding photos so I just don’t share my reception photos. As much as it sucks the best thing to do is focus on the events of the wedding (like marrying your best friend! and being surrounded by loved ones, and food, etc) 

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee

Honestly bee, I think it is gorgeous. I really do, I’m not just saying that. I would guess you went for a natural look and totally achieved it. I know it isn’t the look you wanted, but your hair is so long and beautiful it really doesn’t matter. 

Post # 27
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2658 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

I definitely feel you. I wasn’t exactly over the moon with my wedding day hair either – my hair generally holds curl very well (at least, it has when I’ve curled it myself or had it professionally done in the past). I wanted a half-up/half-down do – thick braids going from the front of my head to the back and the rest of my hair curled. At my trial, my hair came out great. I wore the style for hours, at my stylists request, to see how it lasted. I still had curls the next morning when I got up (although I’d taken the braids out before going to bed). The day of my wedding, my hair looked great to begin with but by the time we got to the ceremony, the curls underneath had started to fall out. By the time photos were finished, pretty much all of the curls had fallen out except for those spilling out from where my braids were pinned to the back of my head. If I kept my hair behind my shoulders it wasn’t overly noticeable (the top curls did a great job at hiding it), but there are definitely some photos with hair in front. A few days later, my stylist got in touch to see how everything went and was so apologetic that the bottom curls had fallen out – we’re not quite sure what went wrong, as she did everything the same as the trial (perhaps it was a combination of the humidity + not enough hairspray?).

I’m sorry that you had this experience, and it really sucks when the salon/stylist refuses to take some sort of accountability for it. Her reaction on your wedding day makes it obvious that she knows it wasn’t going well. At least everything else went well. For what it’s worth, I don’t think your hair looks ugly or tangled – it definitely doesn’t looked curled, but it doesn’t look bad either.

Post # 28
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

I know how you feel – I never ever get pimples (ever!) and of course I got one leading up to my wedding which I then stupidly picked into a bloody scab! So I have that on all my pics yay. 

Honestly I think if you posted your wedding hair pics and told us you were going for a soft, natural look we would have all thought it was intentional! It’s not the curls you wanted, but it still looks nice 🙂

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