Post # 1
I don’t have a dress.
Not only that, I have no ideas, no prospects.
It’s not that I don’t like dresses, or looking feminine, I do! But we’re homebodies, so it’s mostly jeans and pajama pants, I’m not even sure Fiance has ever seen me in a dress, to be honest.
I just don’t know what I want, I don’t know where to start. I know I need something really inexpensive (like, I would be fine with something from a Nordstrom or other department store) and I want something a little shorter–I’ll be on cobblestone stairs and grass, and if there’s a train, I’ll fall and break my neck. I hate my arms, but while I don’t want sleeves, I don’t know how good I’d look in sleeveless.
I don’t have any local friends or family to look with, and I’m like size 18-20, so there’s not always a ton of variety.
Does anyone have any ideas? We were watching the movie “Bride Wars” last night, and Fiance said that he LOVED Kate Hudson’s dress. (I didn’t, I liked Anne Hathaway’s much better.) But the way he looked at it and looked at me made me realize just how much he’s looking forward to seeing me in one.
Post # 3
Bravobride.com saved me on the dress search honestly. I am a size 14-16 and bought a size 18 dress from another bride. It was only $300. Also check places like Davids bridal they have a lot of dresses in our size.
Post # 4
I would try on dresses in stores to see what you like and what fits you best, and then look online to buy a used dress. They are very affordable and honestly, no one will EVER know that they were previously warn. It’s amazing!! And a really smart way to shop. You can have the dress of your dreams for a fraction of the price.
Post # 5
Do you have a local consignment store? I don’t like warehouse stores like David’s Bridal – I wanted a boutique without the price. My local consignment store was so nice and helpful. Sheer sleeves would be nice – that’s what a friend of mine did and it looked great. If you want something simple check out bridesmaid dresses in white. My favorites are Aria and Jenny Yoo. They both have sample sales online and I got a silk dress for $85 plus shipping. The only bad thing is no returns, but Aria will send you a try-on dress for a small fee. Their full prices aren’t bad for silk and Aria definitely sells size 20.
Post # 6
I was flipping through the most recent Brides magazine and they featured the CUTEST Jackie O inspired while silk shift. It had 3/4 length sleeves and was knee length. It was totally, sweet, a little retro, and bride beautiful without being too fussy. The 40’s -50’s cocktail dress vibe is always cute too.
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Post # 8
First of all, this is an exciting opportunity! You get to show your Fiance a whole different, glamorous, beautiful side of you! Since he’s used to you in jeans and pajama pants, he’s going to die when he sees you in all your feminine glory. Yay! Ok, sorry, I am such a girl sometimes. Anyhoo, you have plenty of time to find a dress, so don’t panic yet, but do go out looking ASAP. I personally don’t think the fact that you don’t have friends or family in town is a problem. When I went dress shopping, I did take my Mother but that was just to bond. I feel like when you have too many people, with varying opinions, you get confused about what you like/look good in vs. what others like on you. In the end, you have to love your dress, they don’t! But, I would take into account that your Fiance was really into the Kate Hudson dress (which I do think is beautiful). I’d start off at David’s Bridal. I swear, they used to be shady, I’d heard a bunch of horror stories, but they’ve recently stepped it up. They have a ton of beautiful dress, and, the best part… they have an amazing selection in the size you are. So, what I’d say is to go there, look at a catelog or just go through the dresses, see some stuff you like and pick it up. Don’t go by what you imagine you would look like in it, just go with what you like. Then, when you’re trying them on you’ll get a better idea of what you think would work best. Its all basically trial and error. Just don’t buy a dress because you need one, buy it because you love it!
Post # 9
Well, don’t necessarily put a long dress out, don’t forget, you’ll have your escort down the aisle and hubs to hold on too, I don’t think you’ll fall and break your neck! They won’t let you! And if you do have a train, it’s their job to hold it up and help you walk.. and then it get’s bustled so it’s not there anymore… If your concerned about finding “the” dress, you’ll open a lot more style to you with being open to a longer one.
What about your FI? Does he “want” to see you in a long traditional style (train) wedding dress? Perhaps bring it up a bit with him….
I actually LOVED shopping by myself! IT’s SOOOO much easier! you know yourself best. You know what you’re comfortable with… don’t let a sales person tell you, you’ll know.
Have you been to look at any at all yet?
Post # 10
Bimba, you actually found my favorite style in the whole world (the first one you linked) if you know, I had $600.00 to spend on a dress.
I wouldn’t mind a longer dress, but it’s such an infomal wedding, and I don’t want to look out of place. No escort though, it’s just me! My Dad doesn’t want to come since the wedding is at my Mom’s house, and I’m fine walking by myself.
I haven’t been to look at any, I’m nervous about going into a store and feeling pressured to buy buy buy, and I’m nervous about going and being the biggest girl in the store, and them having nothing to show me.
The more I think about it, the more I am excited for Fiance to see me all dressed up with my hair done and some makeup (never wear any of that either!) but since it’s the first time he’ll see any of that, I just want to look beautiful, but like me, just in a dress…
Post # 11
Call around the shops and see if they have any sales! most stores I visited had a $100 rack! Just be up front when you call. If they say “we don’t have any” ask them if they have any suggestions. Then when you show up, you don’t feel like, “oh gee, i thought maybe you’d have something i can afford” because you’ll know ahead of time!
You could always find somethign like this: http://www.promgowndress.com/cheap-prom-dress-evening-gown-4559.html or http://www.promgowndress.com/cheap-prom-dress-evening-gown-4623.html A very simple, white dress. Like a prom gown or a bridesmaid dress in white.
Really tho, for simplicity, I think a bridesmaid dress in white will be ideal for you and you can get one for under $200. They’ll hem it to the length you want and you won’t have a train,.
Post # 12
Go try on the one that you liked from David’s that Bimba posted!! Start there 🙂
Post # 13
I don’t have a dress yet either, and I’m getting married sooner than you! I’m going shopping on friday though, so I should have it ordered then. I didn’t want a giant fancy dress and I didn’t want to spend alot, so I’m geting a bridesmaid dress that comes in off-white–mine is long, but there were some great short ones as well. Its from Watters, they have two bridesmaid lines, and most of the dresses come in white/off-white.
Post # 14
Yeah if you go try on a dress or two it might get you into the spirit of things!
Have fun 🙂
Post # 15
YAYA im so happy i finally helped one BEE!!!
just go try it and please try something else on just to have an idea… u might like that one, but then you might end up with another one (same thing happen to me)…
that dress is definitely for non formal wedding, and it will be super confy for your wedding… if u end up with totaly different style remember that you can also add a bolero to ceover your arms…
like i said just go with an open mind and dont get upset if you wont find the “dress”….soon or later you will find something, but if you dont try you will never know…you will be beautiful!
Post # 16
Could you post a full body picture of yourself?