(Closed) I have a huge problem…

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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966 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Seat her with people she knows, both at the ceremony and reception.  If she has a favorite song, be sure to play it at the reception.  So long as she’s with understanding people, it shouldn’t be a problem.  

Post # 5
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7081 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

Would it be reasonable to ask her or one of her caretakers what might help her enjoy it?  They might have specifics.  If she has someone accompanying her, hopefully they can be very descriptive about the surroundings.

Post # 7
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690 posts
Busy bee

I don’t think you should worry about her being bored, she’ll be thrilled for your big day!  Maybe just ensure that she has a caregiver for the day, ideally a family member who she trusts and likes.  I just think it would be great to ensure that someone is always there to help her get around and tend to any of her needs.

Post # 8
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499 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

You are being so sweet and thoughtful. I think you’re doing a great job of considering her needs and taking care of her. I’m sure what you’ve done is perfect to help her enjoy your event. I’m also sure that she is thrilled to be such a big part of your day. I think yu’ve done what you can and that she’ll be a happy guest.

Post # 11
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610 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Is there a local non-profit that works with the blind in your area (American Council for the Blind, American Federation of the Blind), or a school for the blind?  They can probably give some great advice on this.  What would really help your grandma is to have someone be an escort and provide audio decsription to describe what is happening.  Find some movies that audio description to understand what I am talking about.  If she can be present while you’re getting ready, let her use her hands to feel your dress and hair.  If will help her visualize how you look.  Let her smell the flowers of your bouquet.

I completely sympathize with your circumstance.  My grandma is wheelchair-bound.  She and my grandpa won’t be able to come to our wedding.  My Fiance and I are trying to work out a way to stream our wedding live so they can still be a part of our day.  This is very important to us.

Post # 13
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1129 posts
Bumble bee

@noritake22: I think everything you have come up with so far has been spot on.  I am curious, has she lost all her vision or can see still see shadows or lighting?  That might make a difference in what you can do to make her feel comfortable.

The vendors should be told in advance who she is (importance wise) and what her disability is (lack of vision.)  I’ve seen people speak to a person with a vision impairment as though they are Deaf and/or developmentally disabled as well.  If you have ever seen a person ‘yell’ at someone in English when their first language was otherwise, you know what I mean! 🙂 Also, regardless of someone’s vision, I feel like it is still important to make appropriate eye contact – the person speaking/seeing stays more engaged if they attempt to speak to the person with the loss of vision this way.

Since your auntie will be will her, I’m sure if your grandma gets overstimulated or tired, she will know that and take her home at the right time.  You are doing all the right things 🙂

 

Post # 15
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1205 posts
Bumble bee

Is there a certain song or artist you can play at the reception, just for her? 

You could tell her that when she hears ____ it’s just for her.  A moment that the two of you could share and something she would enjoy without needing to see.

**I’m sorry – I missed it where a PP also suggested this. 

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