(Closed) I have a interesting question about gifts!!

posted 8 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: if you cant go to the wedding will you still send a gift?
    yes, is the right thing to do : (13 votes)
    39 %
    no, because im not attending : (1 votes)
    3 %
    it depends who is getting married : (19 votes)
    58 %
    i dont know : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    Hostess
    18643 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    If you are talking about the etiquette for a wedding in the US, I think that you can send a gift or not.  I don’t think that people would be offended if you didn’t when you aren’t able to attend.  I always send one even if I can’t go, though maybe not as expensive as I would have otherwise.

    Post # 4
    Member
    5498 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    If I couldn’t attend a wedding I was invited to, I would send a gift anyway. Maybe a gift card from one of their registries or aomething. = )

    Post # 5
    Member
    1982 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Yeah, if I can’t make it, I send a gift. Edit: I just feel like it’s something I can do to help them celebrate.

    Post # 6
    Member
    6597 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I have received surprise invites to random weddings, meaning I have no idea why I am invited to the wedding. In these situations I feel uncomfortable about sending a gift with a reply of no! So I just send a congratulatory card.

    If it is a friend/coworker/family member I always send a gift if I cannot attend.

    Post # 7
    Member
    4765 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

    I think it would depend on whose wedding it is. If it was someone I was close to I would absolutely send a gift. If it was someone I don’t know as well, I may not. 

    Post # 8
    Hostess
    18643 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I do agree with Future Mrs Martin and amanda.lynn that it does depend on the wedding.  I have only been invited to weddings of people that I’m related to or friends with so I haven’t had any weird ones.

    Post # 9
    Member
    1801 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I agree, if I know the person well, I’d send something.  But maybe something smaller (cheaper?) than what I’d feel necessary if attending.  I feel like that sounds bad Embarassed

    Post # 11
    Member
    476 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    I’ve always been told to send a gift, but I tend to base it on who it is and my financial situation.

    Post # 12
    Member
    1570 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 1996

    Etiquette is very firm on this point; a gift is due for every wedding ceremony to which you are invited. It wouldn’t make any sense not to, because the gift isn’t meant to be an exchange or payment for enjoying the wedding and a meal. It’s a gesture of gratitude for the couple’s desire to include you in their special day, and a token to wish them well in their marriage. Absolutely send one if you can’t make it.

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