(Closed) I have a major problem with TOO MANY DRESSES- I need advice yall!

posted 6 years ago in Dress
  • poll: What dress should I choose?
    Maggie Sottero Divina even though everyone and their mom has this dress : (22 votes)
    16 %
    Vera Wang even though it doesn't have a lace up or sweetheart (hello alterations $$$!) : (17 votes)
    12 %
    Mori Lee 1234 even though I'd have to order without trying it on : (13 votes)
    9 %
    Reem Acra just because you are mean-spirited and/or are willing to send me a check! : (64 votes)
    46 %
    Other Dress (I will tell you about it below!) : (22 votes)
    16 %
  • Post # 4
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    313 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2005

    Honestly….I think you will always know the dress you want to get married in.  Buying one and wasting 700 bucks, to you may not seem like much but to most people is a lot of money to just flush down the toilet.  Maybe you can sell it to see if you can recoup some and put it towards that dress you like?  

    Either way, my personal opinion, probably not all that popular…while the dress is a good part of the wedding, it won’t ‘make’ the marriage.  Find a dress you like, don’t look at any others, and wear it for the wedding.

    Post # 5
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    668 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Hi! First of all you are adorable! Question: why are you so set on a mermaid? Personally I think the lace ball gown *dream* (unattainable) dress is SUPER flattering on you. Have you tried other ball gowns and hated them all except THAT one? Or have you been only trying mermaids? Your qualifications are very similar to my dress, except it’s more of a fit and flare than a mermaid I think. I need to be able to move and don’t like the constricted feeling in a mermaid, personally. Anyway, here’s mine, Essence of Australia d1241

    Post # 6
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    2226 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    Not to discourage you but I would suggest you keep looking. The Reem Acra silouette looks stunning on you. Try some more affordable dresses without drop waists.

    Post # 8
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    11419 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    “The dress I had “The Moment” in was Reem Acra Best Wishes which is a huge lace ballgown. I know. That is not a mermaid but whatever, it was magical.”

    I think you need to pay attention to this.  There is a reason you responded the way you did to this dress.  Even though you say that you envision yourself in a true mermaid with little to no bling and no embellishment, your heart fell in love with a full ball gown with a blingy belt and lots of texture.

    Because of this, I would suggest that you try on some ball gowns — in your price range — that feature some of these traits to see how you feel in them before you decide to purchase any other dress.

    Post # 10
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    1660 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @Miss Leopard:  Well, I don’t know if it helps at all, but I actually don’t care for the Reem Acra dress that much (though it does look nice on you). If it’s too far above your budget, I’d let it go. Your wedding day IS a very important day, but it’s just one day! Not worth the budget stress!

    Of the other dresses you posted, I like the Divina the best (I like the Mori Lee but I think you should try it on before ordering). However, I think you should keep looking… you don’t seem thrilled with any of your options and you still have time. Hopefully you will find something on Saturday.

    I bought a dress for $600 (at the first store I visited, a sample) and later spotted another dress I really liked when I went to buy a veil… I ended up paying another $1100 for the 2nd dress. Yikes! I do think it was worth it, since I really loved that dress, BUT I also think things would have been just fine if I’d stuck with the original dress. I’m one of those people who doesn’t think you need to have a moment or cry to have found your dress, but I do believe you want to find something that you love that makes you feel beautiful.

    Good luck!

    Post # 12
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    317 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I’m not crazy about the wide strip of tulle between the two lace trims on the Reem Acra gown. The only aspect that I like about that gown is the bust line.  I don’t like the bottom of the divina at all, it looks like ripped fabric. The Vera Wang also has an unfinished look to me similar to the divina in the sense that it looks like the designer had too much tulle on the gown and just draped and stitched it wherever it fell.  The last gown, the one I voted for, had a really nice look to it. The design of the gown looks complete to me, if that makes sense. I would never order a gown without first trying it on. I found when shopping for a gown, that they all looked totally different on me than they did on the hanger or in a picture.

    Try on some more gowns. Make sure to show your consultant pics of gowns you like (including the Reem Acra) and tell them to stay within your budget.  good luck!

    Post # 13
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    313 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2005

    @Miss Leopard:  Exactly what Brielle said.  You will know the dress you want, and since you already forked over 700 bucks maybe you can see about selling it to make up the difference and afford the dress your heart fell in love with.  If you just ‘settle’ with a dress, you’ll probably regret it later.  When you try on the dress that your heart says YES to, you’ll know it.

    Post # 14
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    1448 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @MrsRugbee:  The Reem Acra does have a drop waist, there’s just a belt at the waist to make it seem like it’s a natural waist gown.

    @Miss Leopard:  I live in Texas (marrying a native Texan) and I disagree on “y’all”.  But I digress.  Depending on how much time you have left, is there any possibility on taking a break for a few weeks?  Then when you go dress shopping again you can have a fresher perspective.

    Maybe you can call around and get a quote for the alterations the Vera Wang will cost?  Then you can factor that in.  I like that one and the Mori Lee, but understand that you want to try a sample on before ordering it.

    Post # 15
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    2497 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @Miss Leopard:  I hate how everyone and their mom has the Maggie Sottero Divina too, but it looks AMAZEBALLS on you. I know it doesn’t have the most votes, but I think it’s the dress for you. Congrats on the weight loss, too!

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