(Closed) I have a major problem with TOO MANY DRESSES- I need advice yall!

posted 7 years ago in Dress
  • poll: What dress should I choose?
    Maggie Sottero Divina even though everyone and their mom has this dress : (22 votes)
    16 %
    Vera Wang even though it doesn't have a lace up or sweetheart (hello alterations $$$!) : (17 votes)
    12 %
    Mori Lee 1234 even though I'd have to order without trying it on : (13 votes)
    9 %
    Reem Acra just because you are mean-spirited and/or are willing to send me a check! : (64 votes)
    46 %
    Other Dress (I will tell you about it below!) : (22 votes)
    16 %
  • Post # 47
    467 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @Miss Leopard:  Would you ever consider getting a China replica made of the Reem Acra?


    If not, is this doing anything for you? I feel like it has the mermaid shape with a skirt that echoes the Reem Acra. (It’s Enzoani Blue)

    Post # 48
    7899 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    You look best in the Reem Acra. I usually love fitted gowns, but I think the A-line is best on you. I’d keep looking at A-lines/moderate ballgowns to try to find somehting you love at a better price.

    Post # 49
    16 posts
    • Wedding: June 2013

    First off, I completely understand what you’re going through! I tried on countless dresses AND suffer from dress regret 😉 We should’ve been shopping buddies! Just wanted to let you know that the Justin Alexander ballgown retails for around $2500….I tried it on at a boutique in Addison. I have pics without the jacket (HATED the jacket) if you want to see….. 

    Post # 50
    3241 posts
    Sugar bee
    Post # 51
    191 posts
    Blushing bee

    I like how the fit of the Reem Acra Best Wishes is on you. try to find a style similar in your price range!


    Post # 52
    1835 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor

    I LOVE the first line of your post. (“First of all, y’all is a legitimate word. I’m from Texas– it’s what we do.”) True that.

    Okay, I’m going to be honest and go against the grain – I think you look the best in the Divina! I know you like the Reem Acra, but honestly, I think the ruching and the waitline of the Divina are the most flattering on you. Your waist looks so tiny in that dress! I think you look drop-dead gorgeous. The sweetheart neckline on that dress is perfection, and it meets your standard of mermaid cut.  Do you have any other photos of you in the dress?

    Post # 53
    1274 posts
    Bumble bee

    I just saw another bride’s recap post and then clicked on this thread…I seriously think her dress has some of what you are looking for, except the mermaid style. Maybe with a dramatic coloured sash or some statement jewellery if you are planning on rocking an updo like in your first pic in the Reem Acra.

    Just a thought, but here is a link to her recap to see her dress: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/pictures-from-my-wedding-11-17-12

    While I love the Reem Acra bodice, and think it’s flattering on you, there are parts of it I don’t love and it’s super hard to judge the other dresses when they aren’t on ya. 🙂

    Post # 54
    8882 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    None of those dresses even compares to the Reem Acra on you. I’m sorry, it’s just perfect for you.

    IF you can’t find it on sale and nobody in your family is willing to help, I would strongly suggest having a replica made.

    Post # 55
    11268 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    i think you should try on more dresses (in your budget only).  try more ballgowns and more mermaid, all styles actually. 

    “the dress” may not be the one that shows everything off.  it’s mainly how you “feel” in the dress.  that’s what is going to make the decision.

    Post # 56
    1030 posts
    Bumble bee

    i ended up with a dress that was nothing like what i pictured. i thought i’d end up with a lace ballgown, fell in love with a lace mermaid, and then found ‘the one’ – a tea dress!

    when i fell in love with the mermaid, all i did was try and find other mermaids that were similar, but none of them compared – it wasn’t the mermaid, it was THAT dress that made me feel good.

    but all of that went away when i tried on ‘the one’.

    if i’d have spent all my time looking for other lace mermaids, i never would have found her. you may have tried on 100 dresses… try on 100 more until you find another that speaks to you.

    Post # 57
    179 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Wow, first of all congratulations on your weight loss – that is amazing, what an achievement! I was in exactly the same situation as you when I was choosing my dress – I had gone from a UK size 18/20 to a 12/14 in the space of six months, as I had my heart completely set on wearing a mermaid….but mermaids are so much more about body shape than size!

    I have seen some bigger brides with the right ‘shape’ for a mermaid absolutely rock them on these boards, and some thinner ones with not quite the right shape looking a bit blah. For a mermaid to truly work, in my opinion, you need to be a pear or hourglass – larger chest, pronounced waist to hip ratio (going in significantly on the waist and then flaring out on the hips). From the picture you posted it looks like you are more of an ‘apple’ shape – small hips, not as pronounced a difference between your hip to waist ratio. Now, I am sure some bees will tell you that with excercise this will be possible to change – I am sure they’re right, but you will only get so far with it. Your body shape is perfect for ballgowns, or even slightly drop waist ballgowns, or maybe even empire lines. That’s why you love the Reem Acra. Really look in the mirror at your next appointment and give different styles a go – it’s so much better to look absolutely stunning in something that suits your body shape than wear something you thought would look great but only really looks a bit blah. Good luck – enjoy the process!

    Post # 59
    2842 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Hey there! I think you’re a hoot! 

    I second what Brielle and others said – there’s a reason you loved the Reem Accra and you should keep looking for dresses that remind you of it.

    Mermaid is not the only figure-flaunting style – and in fact, it still may not be the most flattering to you even if you lost more weight – it’s such a hard style to pull off. 

    It’s hard to put a finger on it, but I think a dramatic ballgown is more your style. IMO you have to have a big personality to pull off a ballgown and, girl – you have truckloads of that!

    There’s no reason to feel that a ballgown as a safe dress choice, or not for you because bigger girls can wear them too. That’s not really true – it’s a-line that the really safe choice. You really need to have a waist that isn’t too big to get away with a ballgown, and the ones you’ve posted would totally show off your smaller waist.

    FWIW the Impressions and the first JA dress you posted scream “you” to me, because they’ve got the really dramatic and romantic skirts which are the similar kind of showstopping “look at me, I’m awesome” feel as the mermaid. 

    If you must have something more figure flaunting, then a slightly dropped waist ballgown or a fit and flare with a ballgown feel, or something with an asymettrical waist may be for you. I’m sure you’ve seen more of these, but imma post them anyway. All of these are under $2000 (but some may still be above your limit, I realise).



    Sottero/Midgley (both)

    Kitty Chen (available in ivory too) – though may not be sweetheart enough



    Essence of Australia (both)

    St Patrick (both)


    Da Vinci

     Casablanca (both)

    Post # 60
    2842 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Derp. Didn’t see page 2 and your update before posting.

    So glad you got the Reem Accra. It is totally you and you will rock it with your now skinmy body!

    Post # 61
    37 posts
    • Wedding: June 2013

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