(Closed) I have a nephew I never knew about …

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
247 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

I would say invite him.  I think it would be weird to have him at the ceremony and after party but not at the reception.  (I added a guest that wasn’t on our list just 5 days before our wedding.)  It might not be the best place to meet him for the first time, but it will make him feel like he is part of your family.  I am not sure what to say about how it will make your sister feel.  Why might she react negatively to your new nephew being there? Good luck making this decision.  I will keep you in my thoughts. 

Post # 4
Member
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

are you able to meet him before the wedding? you might feel differently about the reception invite once you meet him

btw, this makes him your mothers grandson, has she met him yet? personally i think both you and your mothers feelings on this is more important on the day. unless hes a freakoid i would invite him

and congrats on the new family member, who knows what the futre holds but remember hes father (your brother) isnt here anymore so maybe he needs that family connect down the track with you also

 

Post # 6
Member
247 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

I am glad that it looks like everything will work out.  I think this will be good for you and your family.  Enjoy your new nephew.

Post # 7
Member
2205 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

how old is your nephew?  That sounds like quite the family story–I hope it all works out!

Post # 8
Member
7174 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Please talk to your sister before moving forward with this.  Also, how does the rest of the family plan to incorporate the new nephew into the family?  If he’s going to be part of the family, then I say invite him.  But, I think you should tread lightly and take into consideration your sisters feelings.  She may not be ready to embrace her late husband’s child that he intentionally kept from her.

Post # 10
Member
389 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

fontgoddess, perhaps invite him to the after party at your mom’s place? or perhaps out for brunch the day following your wedding?

Post # 11
Member
7174 posts
Busy Beekeeper

I think you made a very wise decision (as awkward as that conversation must have been).  It sounds like you have a genuine desire to get to know your new nephew – and, if that’s the case, take the time to get to know him, after you get back from your honeymoon.  

Post # 12
Member
2205 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

are you able to meet him before the wedding?  You stil have a few weeks.  Or is the new nephew out of town?

Post # 14
Member
2641 posts
Sugar bee

I’m sorry for all of your losses.  That is hard.  It’s too bad that you didn’t have more time for the famly to all meet him.  It’s really great that the two brothers can connect.  One just lost his dad.  The other never had him to begin with. 

I think the most important thing is how welcoming the family will be to him.  And it sounds like at least soe of you want to have a relationship with him.

 

Best of luck.

The topic ‘I have a nephew I never knew about …’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors