(Closed) I have a prior post. Sad to announce you guys were right, its getting worse.

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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1572 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m sorry, but your ‘friend’ is being a bitch!! I am with your Fiance and family on this… this is no friend of yours. Do NOT change a thing about your wedding, keep it as planned, including the date. Do not invite her, and tell her no more about your plans.

Post # 4
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477 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Baroness_Meg:  +1!

You need to stop talking to her. She’s not a ‘friend’ – she is crazy.

Post # 5
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6256 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

This chick is a freak, and she’s treating you like your name is Style Me Pretty. I’d cut her loose. If she had any couth, or cared about your friendship at all, she wouldn’t be doing this. If she asks why, tell her the absolute, honest-to-God truth.

Post # 6
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6359 posts
Bee Keeper

Your “friend” is creeping me out. Sorry, you did nothing wrong, but she’s really… got some kind of issues, and as they seem to be largely about imitating you, I advise you to keep your distance.

Just cut contact with her and have your wedding exactly how you want it. Don’t even pay attention to whtever she is doing for hers.

Post # 7
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2759 posts
Sugar bee

You need to drop all contact with this woman and stop speaking to her about anything at all. She is insane. And hey, if she really wants to have her wedding on the same day then it’ll be easy enough to kick her out of your bridal party 😉

 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

With the way this crazy is acting, I wouldn’t be surprised if she tried to steal your groom, too! Your wedding and planning should be a postitive experience. Being afraid of giving away details because your psycho “bff” might steal your shit is not positive! Also, two years is a LONG ways away..Think of the wedding trends two years ago! So I think you maybe actually dodged a bullet there 😉 Plan your new, better, most amazing wedding and if you don’t dump her as a friend, DON’T say a peep about it. ESPECIALLY about venues and vendors. I also think you seem to be a little timid… Straight up say “That is my anniversary with Fiance, we already planned on getting married that day, and I KNOW I told you that. For the sake of our friendship, please pick another date”. Quit tip toeing around this! If she refuses, cut her loose.

Post # 10
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295 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

She picked your same date?  Are there a lot of people who would be invited to both weddings?  If not, then great, you have a reason to not attend her wedding and not invite her to yours.  If there are a lot of guests who would be invited to both, maybe send your save-the-dates really early, without telling her anything about it, of course.

Your friend sounds like she has some weird issues.  I think it’s time to let this friendship go.  I would fade away, however, rather than have some friendship breakup.  Definitely don’t involve her in any more of your wedding planning.  If she asks, tell her you spend so much time planning that you don’t want to talk about it, that your plans are a surprise, whatever.

Post # 12
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9955 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Plain & Simple she is a PSYCHO CHICK….

Cut off all ties… and keep your distance !!

As they say… Be Afraid… Be VERY Afraid !!

 

Post # 13
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776 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I guess now I’m more depressed about it all then anything, as my maid of honor I had hoped she would be supportive and go with me to try on dresses and do fun things that a typical bff should want to do together, and now everything just feels like it’s a mess. 


I would say this exact thing to her. Tell her that’s what you’d hoped, but her selfishness has taken the joy out of it for you.. and that’s what best friends should do; share in your joy. I wouldn’t just drop it without a conversation. This is just too weird for there not to be something deeper going on. 

Post # 14
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1261 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@TupHoney:  Wow, that SUCKS. Your friend is craaaazy. I think it is really cool that you decided to be the bigger person and calm things down, but she clearly didn’t take the bait. Sigh. Especially with the wedding date thing. I know she 100% remembered that it was your date, and used it anyhow. You don’t forget things like that. That is truly just insane to me. 

Try telling her your dress is a slightly off beat but still believable colour – a blush, champagne, pale blue, something like that. Or send her a pic of one you tried on but decided against it? See what she does, and then that will be really indisputable proof she is copying you and at that point you’d have more than enough grounds to just outright confront her about it all.

I mean hell, you could do that now, without the dress thing, I just think it would be really funny to see her buy a dress she doesn’t even really like simply because she thinks it’s yours. 

Also, if she isn’t willing to move her date at all (which considering she sound psychotic, I wouldn’t be surprised) have your wedding be a week or two earlier, but dooon’t tell her until it’s past a point where she can do anything to change hers. Let her be the one with details that look blatantly copied from a week prior.

Post # 16
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11752 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

just ditch her. i can get over someone who copies my exact wedding down to every last detail but not someone who would purposely schedule their wedding on my date not so much. Just go ahead planning your wedding on your original date and let this friendship fizzle.

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