Post # 17
@This Time Round: +1. Love the image.
As sad/depressing as it can be to lose a friendship no matter whether it’s over something small or big, some people are not worthy of being considered a friend and clearly this “friend” of yours is one of those people! Cut her off, your wedding stress levels will be drastically reduced without her in your life.
Post # 18
Has she put money down on any of these things?
I would tell her honestly, and bluntly, how I feel and ask her why is she picking the same exact stuff as you. Then I’d go ahead and put money down on a venue for your date and tell her that you did. Then she has to make a decision to be your friend and be in your wedding (if she hasn’t already booked a venue for that date), or continue to be a crazy copy cat.
Post # 19
I say cut ties like the PP suggested. I mean what else has to happen for you to see she is not being your friend at all?!! Your friend should be supportive of you, not getting ideas for herself!! I understand it could be hard cause you guys have been friends for a long time, but if she is copying you will little things and now she is copying you with wedding stuff? Can you imagine when you start having kids? Next thing you know she will get pregnant the same time as you and name her kid the same name as yours!! Get out now!
Post # 20
This isn’t time to beat around the bush.
I don’t understand why you are even still talking to this chick. If someone did all that to me there’d be no way we’d be on speaking terms.
Post # 21
@TupHoney: This has “Single White Female” written all over it. She sounds like a nut.
Keep your wedding date: if she truly is this loony, there’s a good chance it’s no secret and her wedding being the same day as yours will not hurt your RSVP count 😡
Post # 22
For starters, she is not your bff, friends don’t do this kinda stuff.
Secondly, does she have much of a personality? Like, is she her own person at all? She doesn’t sound like she has her own taste…
Thirdly, yeah, ditch her, what are you gaining from this friendship?
And lastly, I read your ring post, and I’d have been seriously annoyed then and considered ditching her… This is now too much.
Post # 23
@jessicadarling: its funny you said that because my Fiance said the same thing; “wth, is she marrying me or _____?” I haven’t really been talking to her now and she’s not going out of her way to contact me so maybe its all for the best. If the friendship fizzles out after all this then it fizzles out I guess.
@Honeyblood: I had some people comment on the ring post that i was overreacting and even being cruel, thats why I tried to just take it all in stride and keep my mouth shut. Now, however, I KNOW I’m not overreacting. I did send her a text saying “seriously, you can’t get married on m anniversary, thats just way too weird. Sorry, but it is”. She never responded, so I guess we’ll see what happens. Like others have said, it makes it an easy out for not being in her wedding either (which I can’t really afford anyway seeing as I’m saving for mine)
Post # 24
@TupHoney: you poor thing, I’m so sorry. It sucks to feel like you’re losing a friend, even when they are crazy. But, this is really weird behavior and it doesn’t look like it isimproving. I’d say she isn’t really a friend if she can’t even respect your feelings about your anniversary date.
i know this is hard, but I do want to point out that you didn’t tell her in that text straight up how you feel. You might want to, just for your own peace of mind. ( I am ot excusing her ornsaying she doesnt know, this is more for you.) Something really blunt, like, hey x, it feels really crummy that you are copying all of my ideas and taking my date. I love you, but this feels awful. I wish you would reconsider.
she probably won’t hear you, but you deserve to stand up for your feelings.
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Post # 26
I’m siding with your Fiance on this one.
However, if you can’t dump her for social circle reasons, I would just have fun with it. Tell her you changed everything (gradually and mention it casually). Throw in that you’re wearing a purple gown or something LOL. Have her change her things to match you and just don’t do any of it.
… that said, I’d be careful around Looney Toons from now on.
Post # 27
Bitch be crazy.
Either be the bigger person and just walk away, or start messing with her a little. Go try on a really ugly dress, then gush about it and really reluctantly show her a picture and tell her the designer. Tell her you picked out Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses and it’s too early to order them, but they’re going to be (describe horrid dress and color) because you just can’t have anything else. It reminds you of your mother’s wedding pictures or something. Also pick a couple “traditions” that people in your circle would find super tacky and tell her in secret that you’re doing it (dollar dance?) because you just can’t have a wedding without it.
Or just one final bomb… “we’re trying for a baby before the wedding… just can’t wait.”
Post # 28
@TupHoney: Yeah, I could see that you had more concerns than just the ring, it’s everything. Doesn’t sound like you’re losing a whole lot tbh. I think it can be really hard to let go of friendships, but once you realise you’re not really losing a friend, because that person wasn’t a friend to you, you can see things so differently.
I hope you find a way to make peace with this lame situation, and have a beautiful wedding =)